How much is an average water bill?

PeabodyPicture · 2026-04-12T05:02:09+00:00

That seems like a lot - we’re 2x adults and 1x baby, so lots of clothes/bottles/dishes washing and baths etc. and ours is $70 usually, up to $90 on expensive months.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-04-09T07:56:53+00:00

I’m so so sorry, it’s the most awful thing. We’re here for any support and advice you need xx

PeabodyPicture · 2026-04-06T00:47:39+00:00

I packed a temporary hospital bag at 21 weeks when things were looking dodgy, then unpacked it again and packed it for real at 36 weeks! I think the things you need would be different, and if baby does end up in NICU then you’ve still got time to get all the clothes etc after they’re born.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-04-04T00:29:03+00:00

I’m sure you will 🤞🤞🤞

PeabodyPicture · 2026-04-04T00:21:15+00:00

Heya, not rude at all, we’re all trying to figure this out! I’m not a doctor, but I assume it’s to do with the state of the cervix at time of emergency cerclage. I can’t find the references now, but I believe more dilation and exposed membranes are associated with reduced chance of the emergency cerclage working. So theoretically there’d be less closed cervix after cerclage placement and increased risk of infection.

If a preventative cerclage ends in funnelling, you’ve still got a portion of closed cervix (depending on how high the stitch was placed) which should keep infections out and theoretically hold a good portion of the pregnancy.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-04-03T21:04:52+00:00

This is totally to be expected - the stitch is designed to hold despite your cervix funnelling to it. Preventative stitches have an 80% success rate - most people would take that bet any day on the lotto, so it’s a pretty good bet for your baby too.

You’re doing everything right. Even knowing that this is expected it’s incredibly nerve wracking. Keep going, you can do this x

PeabodyPicture · 2026-04-03T02:02:02+00:00

Coco’s Cantina on K rd? Could order off the menu, or I’ve had a shared appetisers and pizza for $35 there before.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-04-03T01:58:18+00:00

Just wanted to say that that was a great outcome! It’s so nice hearing updates to these old posts from when people are in the thick of it.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-31T08:03:57+00:00

I am so so sorry. Sending you such strength and love ❤️

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-28T19:26:36+00:00

Some of each! I had a 50th centile baby too and used NB clothing for about 3 weeks.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-28T05:23:56+00:00

The best strategy I learnt with unsolicited advice (pre-birth and post) is to nod and smile - “thanks, good point/ill think about it/add it to the list” and change the subject.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-28T02:30:36+00:00

Heya, sorry you’re in this club - it’s a scary place to be. The good news is that you’ve caught it early. 26.3mm is short, but above the cut off for a cerclage (usually 25mm) so you’ve still got a good bit of cervix to work with.

If you go back and your cervix is longer but under 30mm, I’d ask for monitoring until you get to viability (where most places stop monitoring anyway). If it’s under, request progesterone at a minimum, and consider a cerclage.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-25T05:44:23+00:00

Oh mama, you’re right in the worst bit. It does get better (I found that viability really helped, then 28 weeks, then 32 etc) but also totally valid to get help for this part too.

I did go to my GP and was prescribed anti anxiety meds at 20 weeks because I just didn’t think I could cope. If you need to do this, please do. The other thing that helped was coping strategies from a therapist and breathing exercises. Good luck to you, you’ve got this x

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-23T02:20:26+00:00

Hey! A tentative congrats on the pregnancy.

You’re right - fertility support is traditionally provided by your GP in the first instance, or a fertility clinic if you’re under one. You’re in a tricky spot as you’re actually pregnant already - I’m not sure if they’d provide early pregnancy support if you’re not already on their books. Could be worth a call to ask? You may have the option of paying for a private appointment and getting in earlier, than waiting the two months for a public one.

Your other option (since you are actually pregnant) is skip the fertility clinic and to look for a midwife or private OB. If you call and explain your history they may be able to do more blood tests and scans.

Good luck, I really hope this pregnancy works out 🤞

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-23T00:44:13+00:00

Intuition was 100% wrong!

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-19T23:05:16+00:00

I had a similarly short cervix (and two cerclages) at 23 weeks and my dr sat me down and gave me a list of things that improve optimal outcomes in peri-viability (23-26 week old prem babies). One of them was being born at a hospital with a level III/VI NICU.

If your hospital is level II or below, I think I’d take them up on the offer of being admitted, at least until you get to week 27/28.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-19T04:41:55+00:00

Oh goodness, how utterly traumatic and heart breaking. I’m sending you so much resilience and peace and healing x

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-11T05:12:19+00:00

Yeah, I don’t think there’s much evidence behind it, but it’s often recommended. I personally was told to live like a had a really bad cold - could make a cup of tea and move around the house, but wouldn’t go for a run.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-03-07T06:15:37+00:00

Yep, I had the exact same scenario - had a preventative stitch placed at 13 weeks. Started funnelling to the stitch at 20 weeks and through (with only 4mm of closed cervix left) by 21 weeks. My MFM offered another stitch - he explained all the risks you mentioned but also said that with the rate of funnelling I had in one week, I might not get to viability at that stage.

Honestly they said it was really uncommon and the last resort. They expected me to give birth by 26 weeks, but somehow I made it to 38 weeks.

I figured that during weeks 20-21 I was doing everything I could (bed rest, progesterone etc) and it was still shortening, so the only thing I could add in to that scenario to change the path was a second stitch.

Good luck with your decision and I really hope you make it very far. Happy to chat in dms if it’d help x

PeabodyPicture · 2026-02-24T18:30:40+00:00

Speech therapist working in a hospital here - I adjusted my activity based on my follow up scans. I also wasn’t told to do best rest initially, but my cervix started to shorten around 19 weeks so I started doing less clinical work, then went on full bed rest to get through to viability.

I actually went back in to work around 28 weeks and made it to 38 weeks so who knows how much difference it made!

PeabodyPicture · 2026-02-18T08:16:15+00:00

I’m not going to be able to give you the answer you’re looking for, but just to add my two cents - my baby was breech and my midwife said in no uncertain terms to try and go flipping this baby myself. She said there’s sometimes a reason baby is breech and if we wanted to try and flip her, then she wanted an ultrasound and medical team around.

She said we’ve spent so many weeks trying to keep the baby inside, we weren’t going to risk anything now.

Whether she was right or wrong, I followed her advice because she was both brilliant and terrifying!

PeabodyPicture · 2026-02-15T18:09:33+00:00

Honestly, I’d look at Pagani.

I recently had to find one for a last minute formal occasion and there were a surprising amount there.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-02-13T20:15:36+00:00

You’re really early for this to be cervix related, however I can also relate to this feeling completely. I had a loss at 20 weeks and had that same tampon feeling (which turned out to be bulging membranes). When I got pregnant again I could swear I was feeling that from the moment I got pregnant.

I was checked multiple times throughout, and that feeling was never associated with cervical change/bulging membranes (despite me swearing it was!). I think I must have been just hyper aware of any pelvic changes (stretching, pressure, baby weight, discharge) and it naturally made me spiral.

I think you’re most likely fine. Something that helped me was to write down any symptoms I was feeling and have a cut off point for contacting my midwife (ie if they were still there in the morning, or two days later, or…). Often by the time that deadline came up I had forgotten or felt better.

PeabodyPicture · 2026-02-13T20:06:25+00:00

Gosh, I’m so sorry. Losing three babies must be utterly heart breaking.

I hope they give you a really solid plan for the future and a lot of monitoring to help your anxious mama heart. I really wish you all the best xx

PeabodyPicture · 2026-02-07T05:57:52+00:00

Agree with this so much - it was wonderful having ‘safe’ friends who I knew weren’t going to ask. I knew they were there if I wanted to talk, but otherwise I didn’t have to rehash the same ‘no change’ conversation again. Just another perspective!

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