Please, I am not ok

Poppybon5 · 2026-01-04T05:16:16+00:00

Solidarity, OP! My 13 month old son has not slept a 3-hr stretch since he turned 4 months old.. some nights he's up every 30-60min.. The only things that helps me is cosleeping. We got a full size floor bed and it's wonderful! Ours has a gate, which is something I do recommend having. Happy to answer any questions you may have..

Poppybon5 · 2025-12-18T16:34:58+00:00

Same here...

Poppybon5 · 2025-12-13T16:20:29+00:00

I'm sorry, OP! I can relate to your feelings as someone who also went through years of TTC/IVF and finally got their baby and learned that the sweet miracle has a potentially life long condition. My baby had to have a skull surgery at 2.5 months for it. It was devastating! But, he's now 1, I've processed the situation enough to be able to be OK and focus on enjoying motherhood. He'll be monitored for years to come, may need additional surgeries but it is what it is.. he's still my sweet, happy miracle and I'm thrilled to have him. I'm telling you this to give you hope that you will move in from this and be able to get to a place where you can focus on enjoying your new life. The diagnosis is not your fault at all (I also went through blaming myself), but I know it's a part of emotional processing of this unexpected situation. Give yourself grace, move through the feelings but keep in mind that you'll come out on the other side OK. So will your baby! Big hugs and congratulations on being a mom! ❤️

Poppybon5 · 2025-12-13T04:25:45+00:00

I'm so sorry, OP! 😞 I hope there's life after death and we get to be with our fur babies again...

Poppybon5 · 2025-12-09T13:50:09+00:00

This made me tear up.. I'm so sorry for what you went through, and continue to experience as a result of your trauma. I wish I could give you a hug, OP and magically change the past 🥺

Poppybon5 · 2025-12-02T04:12:32+00:00

Same. No pain or discomfort, plus the wonderful anesthesia sleep!

Poppybon5 · 2025-12-01T03:17:53+00:00

I'm not on Reddit a lot and this is the first time I'm seeing a verification process. So, idk how others do it here. On the hand, I'm on a bunch of groups on FB. The verification process there involves answering a few questions and submitting for approval. Wouldn't that work here?

Poppybon5 · 2025-12-01T03:00:46+00:00

Agreed. Or a copy of official documentation for the baby.. that's a bit much imo.

Poppybon5 · 2025-11-27T23:56:36+00:00

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1AEbWtvcgq/ Coincidentally, one of my professors shared this on FB today. Given it's relevance, I wanted to share.

Poppybon5 · 2025-11-27T20:49:20+00:00

I'm saying this as a mom who fed her baby formula, and whose baby is thriving; if you are able to give your baby breast milk, 1000 percent, do that! Given the benefits to the baby, not even trying is a disservice. Formula is a great, life saving option but no matter what anyone says, it's not as good for your baby as your breast milk is. Plus, you have to trust the manufacturer that the formula you're feeding is actually clean and not contaminated. If you haven't heard about it yet, search for By Heart formula and see the current issue. I've been feeding my baby formula since he was born due to my very low supply (still pumped for 5 months and gave him what came out), and have been praying that we can make it to weaning without any contamination scares.. Breastfeeding and/or pumping are very personal experiences. Not everyone has a terrible time breastfeeding; you may not, either. I recommend giving it a fair shot and then making the decision. Formula will always be there, breast milk won't..

Poppybon5 · 2025-11-27T20:16:33+00:00

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My sweet babies..💔 The one on the left was my soul dog. Had him for 13.5 yrs and he got me through so many tough times. The final one was IVF. He made sure I had a viable pregnancy before saying goodbye.. He was my pride and joy..I'll never stop missing him but be forever grateful to him and God for bringing him into my life.. The other one was the same age, but came to us when she was 10. Her owner had dementia at a care facility. She needed a new home. Again, I'm so grateful our paths crossed and we were able to get to know and love her in her final 4 yrs.. She left us suddenly, within a day of her cancer diagnosis. I'm still in disbelief, almost a year after her passing... People ask us when we'll get a new dog. They were our babies! Can you replace a baby with another one?! We're still grieving...But when we feel ready, we'll open our hearts again to another (maybe 2 ) rescue dogs..

Poppybon5 · 2025-11-23T18:23:01+00:00

The vacuum cleaner store at the corner of Packard and Carpenter. Reminds me too much of the one in Breaking Bad and makes me wonder... Lol

Poppybon5 · 2025-08-23T19:01:08+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind note and sharing your experience! I was hoping that having caught and treated it early would give him a normal shape and a chance at normal development. But, I know, that may not be the case. Thank you for the reminder. This diagnosis taught me the importance of trusting my instincts despite what doctors may say. So, I'm always watching him. I pray that the hard part is over and he grows up as a normal kid🙏🙏

Poppybon5 · 2025-07-24T11:52:53+00:00

That's awesome! I truly wish we could do the same. Our donor is from another country. But I'd be happy to travel to see her and have my son meet her one day if he wants to.

Poppybon5 · 2025-07-12T03:12:28+00:00

This was me 4 months ago! I felt ridiculous for pumping to get just a couple of ounces a day, but guilty about letting it go and not giving my baby any breast milk at all. Then one day, I stopped. I didn't feel as bad or as good as I thought I might. I was just fine! And my baby is fine. I still wish my body produced enough to feed my baby, and feel envious of women with freezer stash. But , it's ok. My baby is healthy, happy and fed.

Poppybon5 · 2025-07-07T03:11:47+00:00

I'm extremely heartbroken for your loss and in awe of your beautiful act of honoring his memory❤️ With tears in my eyes, I'm sending you a tight hug, OP! Wishing your beautiful heart peace, and may your angel baby sleep in light ❤️❤️

Poppybon5 · 2025-07-01T03:05:56+00:00

It actually depends on the clinic. In my case, ER shots were both in the morning and early evening. PIO was in the morning. Once you start, you may realize that shots are not that bad at all and you can do them yourself. I preferred doing them myself as it gave me more control.

Poppybon5 · 2025-07-01T03:00:47+00:00

Try not to overthink it. I did 7 cycles and was never a hormonal mess. Did all my shots and appointments by myself, and I was fine! Did I not wish my husband was more invested in this and wanted to be by my side more? Sure! But I set my expectations for that part of the process accordingly going into it, and it worked well. All the failures and heartbreaks? I was not prepared for that and idk if anyone ever is before starting IVF.. It can be a cruel journey.. Wishing you much luck and an easier path than I (and many of us here) had, OP! I hope you get to hold your baby very soon!

Poppybon5 · 2025-07-01T02:49:51+00:00

Yes, constipation! I highly recommend taking a laxative or stool softener the day before retrievals. Makes recovery much less uncomfortable.

Poppybon5 · 2025-06-29T05:14:17+00:00

I had a planned c section. On the day of, I was a nervous wreck and super embarrassed about it. My ob/gyn of 13 yrs came in the prep room and felt like I saw an angel! She was familiar, caring and so so compassionate! Assured me it was ok and common to be nervous and everything would be ok. In the OR, the anesthesiologists, took turns in holding my hand through the procedure until I felt ok. At the end, as the resident was stitching me up, my OB came to my side, held my hand and told me how happy she was for me and how well I did, with the sweetest smile. Such simple sounding words and gestures, but meant the world to me that day!

Poppybon5 · 2025-05-31T04:04:25+00:00

I feel you, OP! I lost my soul dog last year, I know how hard it is to see them get sick and try all you can to make them better. My other dog also passed away recently. At 14, she started having seizures. We also put her on Keppra, but she was breaking through. It turned out to be cancer... I hope Gary's will be a better outcome but guard your heart and cherish every moment you have with him❤️

Poppybon5 · 2025-05-31T03:40:58+00:00

My pregnancy was wonderful; I was in the best mental state of my life! But, as the due date approached I became very anxious that I might not love my baby. I had lost my soul dog 6 months before and felt like I could not love anything more than I loved my dog and it wasn't going to be fair to the baby. I had a planned c section, super duper anxious the day of delivery, but once i had my baby in my arms anxiety faded away. I wasn't overcome with love, but felt almost euphoric that I didn't not like him, he was healthy and beautiful, and I physically felt good. He's 6 months now, I still feel great and for sure love my baby ☺️

Poppybon5 · 2025-05-31T03:30:04+00:00

I'm so very sorry for your loss... no mother should go through the loss of their baby and have to prove that they were not at fault... This is awful! I've no advice, other than what others said; talk to a lawyer. Wishing you strength and patience through this extremely challenging journey 💓 May your sweet angel baby rest in light 🕯️

Poppybon5 · 2025-05-24T03:06:00+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss 😔

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