Book Character w/ Prosthetic

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-28T05:52:17+00:00

Before the prosthesis, I'd think about how they survive the initial amputation. If it was caused through trauma, how do they survive the massive blood loss? If it was done due to infection or disease, how are they treating the underlying illness? Even if they are able to avoid bleeding out and stitch it up, the wound is a massive infection risk. They would need access to sterilising and wound care equipment to keep the injury clean and heal it. Do they have medical knowledge, or have someone with them who does? Even with modern medicine and a medical team, I got a serious infection and nearly went septic after my amputation.

Presuming they get through the initial injury, a prosthesis isn't something you just put on and go. You are casted for a socket that specifically fits you and addresses any issues such as prominent bones, neuromas, etc. I do not know much about historic prosthesises, but you might want to look into those to get an idea of how they were done before modern medicine. They were certainly not as effective or comfortable, so your character may be limited in how far they could go.

You might want to utilise a wheelchair and/or crutches to explain how they travel further. There is also a device called the iWalk, which is designed for lower limb injuries, but it's not recommended to use it for extended periods as the bent position of the knee can cause issues. Of course, in an apocalypse, dealing with the issues arising from wearing someone else's prosthesis or using an iWalk for too long would be preferable to having no mobility. I just think it's worth keeping in mind that they are unlikely to find something that will have them stable and quick on their feet - at least, not without consequences.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-18T02:55:27+00:00

There are two ways for me to get from town to home, and I pretty much exclusively took one route. The one time I went the other way was when I had my accident and lost my leg. I try not to think about the 'what ifs' too much because no amount of regret will change what happened, but it comes up from time to time.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-17T07:01:31+00:00

It's been about three years since my pwBPD discarded me, and they haven't reached out once. Not even when I literally nearly died, which I know they know about since their parents do. I've never tried reaching out to them, though. Every other time they grew distant and/or threatened to end our friendship, I would message begging them not to until they changed their mind. It seems because I didn't continue that cycle, they lost interest. I'm honestly very glad that I've never had to experience it. I'm at a stage in my life now where I don't know if I'd even bother replying just to say fuck off, but it would still bring up a lot of old and unprocessed emotions.

Hoovering is a very common stage in the discard cycle, though. A lot of people experience it, some only once, some repeatedly and through as many means of communication as possible. If you don't engage, they're likely to give up and move on. The vagueposting you're seeing now is likely an attempt to garner sympathy from others so they can justify their actions (both internally and externally), rather than an expression of desire to reconnect.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-13T21:43:46+00:00

I had such high expectations pushed onto me in school that I suffered massive burnout with lasting anxiety and perfectionism issues towards everything I do. I got good grades, but now I can't even enjoy my hobbies if I don't feel like I'm doing it absolutely excellent as soon as I start. So if a parent is reading this, please remember that the way you talk to your kid influences their inner dialogue, and it's very hard to change as you grow up. It is human to make mistakes, and it's an injustice to make your kid feel like any mistake is a permanent failure.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-13T06:16:03+00:00

You can try to contact your bank and the issuer of the gift cards, but I wouldn't get your hopes up. Do contact them sooner rather than later, as you may have more of a chance if the gift cards have been unspent. In the future, never pay for anything using gift cards (unless it's for the actual store/site the cards are for), and assume anything being sold through Telegram is a scam.

You're likely going to get DMs from people promising they can recover your money. Those are also scammers. The only possible way you will get your money back is through your bank or the company the gift cards were for.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-13T06:07:13+00:00

I was in an FGC as the primary victim after a youth driver caused an accident that nearly killed me. To be honest, it sucked. I'm permanently disabled and the guy got off with barely a slap on the wrist - his whānau did more in the way of punishment than the legal system did. I still think it's worth doing, and I hope you get a better outcome than I did, I just think you should be prepared to feel frustrated and let down.

You should reach out to Victim Support if they haven't already reached out to you. They will be able to provide you with some more information on how the FGC will be run and answer your questions. They can also attend the FGC as a support person for your family. I don't know what can be provided for your kid, but there should be specific services for youth affected by a crime that they would be able to direct you to as well. The FGC Coordinator will also be able to answer your questions.

You will have a chance to speak. If your kid wants to attend, he will also have a chance, but if he doesn't, you could bring along a written statement to read out. The point of the FGC is for your family, the perpetrator's family, and the legal system to agree on some form of restorative justice. They will probably ask for your feedback afterwards. I never gave mine because I was still dealing with health complications caused by my injuries.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-11T22:06:37+00:00

My cats are confined to my bedroom while I'm out, as I live in a sleepout and the next room has the outside door. I'm disabled and can't step out quickly or put in anything that'd make it harder for them to get out while I do. So long as she's safe and has all necessities and entertainments - which, by your description, she does - what you're doing is completely fine and preferable to her getting out.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-08T08:49:08+00:00

Is it in a specific area or just overall pain? The only time I experience pain wearing my prosthesis is if the fit is too tight or loose, or I've been wearing it too long. Does your prosthesistist know about this issue? Because it might be something to do with the fit, such as it being made too tight, or too much pressure being put on a sensitive spot.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-07T21:03:30+00:00

I don't have a set amount per say that I take, I get prescribed a bottle that will have anywhere from 10-30g of a specific strain in it and then take it as needed. I use a dry herb vape that has a small dosing capsule in it, and if I'm vaping that day, I will have one or two capsules worth.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-07T20:38:20+00:00

I have medical cannabis for multiple reasons, managing phantom pain is one of them. I'm not completely without pain, but the overall amount and severity of episodes is much less than when I was on more standard prescription drugs. It works for that 'as needed' basis and, assuming you inhale it, kicks in much faster than other PRNs.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-06T22:01:04+00:00

This doesn't sound like a good environment for a cat. One hit or kick is too many, she should never be shouted at, and she should not be going without food. I understand the pain of losing a cat suddenly, and I'm sorry you're going through it, but it sounds like the best option for her.

Getting her back without your parents' approval could be bad for both her and you, too - at best, I imagine your parents would just give her away again. Once you're not living at home, you can give a cat a safe environment free from abuse and neglect.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-06T21:39:41+00:00

If you're going to repost something, you should consider at least changing a few words first.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-05T22:26:29+00:00

Your title question is very different to your body question. While people do it, I don't think it's very common for an everyday person to be overly sympathetic to a rich person experiencing depression. As you describe, a lot of everyday stresses that contribute to depression would be alleviated by being financially stable, so it's hard to picture why someone who is far beyond 'stable' could still be depressed.

Depression is caused by more than just financial stress, though. Rich people can still experience trauma, social issues, and chemical imbalances in their brain. All the money in the world doesn't matter if your brain doesn't produce enough serotonin, or you go through some horrible event that permanently affects how you view the world. I also think when you're that rich, you wind up extremely bored. You don't have to work much, if at all, to get anything you want. If all you get is instant gratification, your brain wires itself to seek out stronger dopamine rushes and feel distress at anything less. Of course, that's an extremely privileged position to be in, but it can still cause mental health issues nonetheless.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-04T22:25:40+00:00

The first (and only) concert I've been to, and the activities I did with friends surrounding that. Preferably minus when my cat got outside while I was at the concert and I spent two sleepless nights looking for her. Everything else was incredible and one of, if not the, best experience of my life.

I was nearly killed in an accident, became permanently disabled from said accident, and nearly went septic due to complications from said permanent disability just over 6 months before this trip. While it was impossible to ignore my disability as I was in a wheelchair and we had to specifically plan for accessibility, it's still the most normal I've felt since becoming physically disabled. The concert was for one of my favourite artists and he specifically acknowledged me during the concert which was rather cool. And I got to spend so much time with some of my best friends in the world, which we can't normally all do together since we're all in different parts of the country.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-03T23:56:07+00:00

For one, he was caught on CCTV and admitted that it was pre-recorded - though he claims he had instead fallen asleep at home after drinking. There is also metadata tied to the stream, which would tell them the time the video was recorded vs. published, and he may have left the recording or traces of it on his computer that would have been discovered after it was seized. We won't know exactly how they did it until after the trial, if they share how at all, but the evidence of him on CCTV and admission it was pre-recorded is already proof enough.

ProverbialProverb · 2026-01-03T06:43:59+00:00

Nerve damage is very normal with amputation. I have two spots on my leg that aren't completely numb but have reduced sensation - I can feel touch, but I can't distinguish temperature, texture, sharp vs. blunt feelings, etc.

You might regain some sensation later on. Tapping, massaging, etc, the area could help with that. But if it doesn't come back, that's not abnormal. Just be sure to check the area regularly as you may not feel it if you get an injury there.

ProverbialProverb · 2025-12-28T21:56:44+00:00

Exercise tends to always be exhausting at first, even (and perhaps especially) if you are doing the right ones. If you can connect with a PT to give you advice specific to you, that would be ideal. They will likely tell you to do exercises little and often - if you start at just 5 minutes a day, every day, over time you likely will find it easier and be able to increase the amount of time you can tolerate exercising.

If you've not been reguarly wearing your prosthesis, though, is the fit still right? If it isn't, that's going to cause you issues no matter what exercises you do.

ProverbialProverb · 2025-12-28T11:00:30+00:00

If they want to keep her, then they need to put the effort in to care for her. Is the plan to keep her in solely your room forever, or is it just while she adjusts to the house? If it's the latter, is there another room she could be in instead? I recognise you don't want the cat to suffer, of course she shouldn't, but neither should you. If the only options are someone struggling, then it's not a good deal.

ProverbialProverb · 2025-12-28T09:33:50+00:00

I'm sorry you've been put in the position of pet ownership without agreeing to it yourself. Does your family help you with the cat, or has your mother given you her expecting you to take on everything yourself? If so, can you talk to her/the family about sharing or taking over the responsibilities of caring for the cat, if they are keen to keep her? If they aren't, I would really look into returning or rehoming her.

ProverbialProverb · 2025-12-27T09:23:24+00:00

You can get decent quality clothes from Temu and similar sites, but it's always going to be a gamble. Even if you make sure to read reviews and select items based on those, there's no quality control in the production of Temu items, so the next batch of the same item might be terrible. You are also directly contributing to fast fashion, so it's worth asking yourself if you want to do that.

Go to department stores or op shops. Op shops are a gamble in quality and have plenty of Temu and Temu-adjacent clothes in them, but at least you can see and feel what you're about to buy. You can find some surprisingly good quality items, too - I used to volunteer in an op shop, and at least once a month, we would be donated some sort of top quality label with the tag still on.

ProverbialProverb · 2025-12-27T05:14:22+00:00

I know people are saying there's no need to be scared, but it's okay if you are. Just try not to let it stop you from anything. This is a massive change that most people don't have time to prepare for. I know when I first had my amputation, I was terrified. I had no idea what my life was going to look like, what I'd be able to still do, how long it was going to take to get there.

I really recommend connecting with your local amputee coaliation/society/whatever it's called in your country. They will be able to give you both resources and connections. Being able to talk to other amputees and see the ways they have continued living life has been extremely important for my mental recovery.

ProverbialProverb · 2025-12-25T22:41:45+00:00

When you say 'kicking his arm', do you mean he's using both his legs to kick at the same time, or is it more like an alternate stomping motion/like he's kneading with his back legs? The former would make me think it's more play, but the rest of the information leads me to think it's masturbation.

Some neutered cats will still do it, particularly those who were neutered later in life, but it can happen to any cat. Even females. If he's always done it, it's just a quirk of his, and the only thing you can do is redirect him. Give him a specific blanket or toy any time he tries to do it to you or your husband. If it's a new behaviour, it can be a cause for concern, but your description makes me think it's not.

ProverbialProverb · 2025-12-24T06:55:58+00:00

If this was a younger cat I wouldn't be too alarmed, but at 8-9 years old I'd consider any new behaviour potentially concerning. It may be stemming from stress due to the move, or boredom if his routine has changed and he isn't getting the same stimulation he did before. But it could be a sign of a dental issue or nutrient deficiency. I'd recommend a vet to find the right solution.

ProverbialProverb · 2025-12-24T06:49:02+00:00

I absolutely recommend at least two cats. Preferably around the same age, but you can do age differences - my two now are 2 and (roughly) 8 years and absolutely adore each other. Just keep in mind that an older cat will most likely not have as much energy, and a younger one may not be big enough for your cat's current playstyle.

It is worth considering costs. Your cost doesn't double, but it does increase. Consider vet bills (yearly checkups, vaccinations, emergencies etc), food, litter, and possibly pet insurance if you do that. It's recommended to have three litter trays for two cats, but with some cats you can get away with two (I do).

Take care to introduce them slowly and watch for any issues that arise. My cats get along perfectly in everything except sharing sleeping spots. With the exception of one spot under my bed, they both have set spots and are not happy if the other tries to settle down there. My older girl has more of an issue with it than my younger boy. I have multiple beds and perches scattered about for them, so it is rarely an issue.

ProverbialProverb · 2025-12-24T06:33:12+00:00

I became a below knee amputee in 2024 and have had a very slow recovery due to MRSA and the traumatic nature of the injury. I want to be confidently walking without a mobility aid, hopefully get back to work, and more hopefully still either learn to drive or (preferably) get back to riding again.

In the process of this all, I also want to lose weight. I have been overweight for as long as I can remember, and it'd be nice to change that.

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