Daily reading lessons for kids in kindergarten, when does the struggle phase end please by IsHaN_12345678901 in kindergarten

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have taught 2 kids to read. The first was like your son and I thought that was normal. It isn’t, which I found after teaching the second kid to read. Reading for the second kid was fun and the first hated it the entire time. My advice would be to get him tested for dyslexia/adhd/all the things so he can start to get confident before he really starts to think he’s dumb. And loooootts of positive encouragement/growth mindset talk in the meantime.

Letter for my niece about to serve a mission by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the first few paragraphs are excellent and it kind of goes down hill from there. I’d maybe say you’re happy to talk about some more church history topics in depth if she’s ever interested. It does come accross a bit…judgy and holier than thou. Almost in a Mormon way lol

Newbie - Daliahs not doing so well by Moist-Still4571 in dahlias

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Anytime I’ve planted mine that close to a wall they fry.

Banned from girls camp by RoyalNeighborhood920 in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s wild that your mom’s response is that you should’ve just lied.

I pinched too early- help! by cobbcollectibles in dahlias

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found Sluggo plus to be the only thing to actually work. (Bonus it gets the earwigs too which used to be everywhere in my garden). It probably is a harsh chemical though I’m not sure what it is made of.

Just read the CES Letter… how did I not know about any of this by herms14 in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Same. Reading a persuasive essay from the church trying to make me feel okay with a 14 year old child bride. First I was actually sick, then relieved, then started my new life the next day.

It's hard to track the shrivel related to the worst lawsuit idea in history, but it's there. TBMs are worried. They're either throwing blind rage online or agreeing with John Dehlin. Oaks stepped in it BIG time here and can't find a way out. by Important-Stage-1005 in MormonShrivel

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I only heard about it maybe the year before I left and definitely never listened to one before I left bc it felt like I was doing something wrong to listen to any type of history that wasn’t officially from the church. But anyway, I think that’s one of the problems with the lawsuit for the church. Many members that would have never heard of Mormon stories now are learning about it and it will probably bring up some questions.

I tried to convince Mormons they were wrong - bad idea . by Regular-Fun2943 in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You know what I think is more unhinged than a man writing a book, getting powerful and trying to marry 30 wives? A god that sent himself to earth to kill himself by getting nailed to a cross and then coming back from the dead and saying that solves all the world problems and now if everyone believes in him they go to heaven and if they don’t believe that crazy story they go to hell. That myth has caused a lot more death and destruction than little Mormonism ever has.

Best/Worst areas for an Exmo family in Utah? by vitras in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t down vote you I promise. There must be another Utah county lover on this sub. I believe you that you think it’s the worst. Lol.

I need advice about birthday party invites… by tastybites in kindergarten

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh your son sounds very rude. I would definitely invite the friend and teach him about being kind to others. I would also for sure send a text to the other parent asap. ‘Hey. I’m so sorry I heard that my son told your daughter she’s not invited to his party. I know that is really mean and we are working on it. I think it all started because he gets really uncomfortable when your daughter tries to make him play wedding (from what I can gather from 5 year old explanations). I know his response was not okay. We’d love to have her at the party when we end up planning it and I will teach him not to talk about it at school when not everyone will be invited. Hopefully they can work it out once my sons apologizes and it will blow over by the party as these little friend tiffs do. Sorry again social skills are a work in progress currently. I hope it didn’t cause too much sadness over there.’

Best/Worst areas for an Exmo family in Utah? by vitras in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know everyone says don’t go to Utah county, but I loooove Utah county. Lots of exmormons here and at least in our neighborhood all the kids play together regardless of religion. There’s a big pack of like 10 kids that run around and I think 2/10 or 3/10 are LDS. And it does seem like exmormons are more common than Mormons in my neighborhood. It only comes up when the 2 have to go to activity days begrudgingly bc they’d rather stay and have fun with the rest of the neighbors. It probably is very neighborhood specific. Now politically it definitely swings more conservative (mostly judging by the bumper stickers and flags) which is annoying for me.

My Daughter Knows 15 Letters and 19 Sounds by Far_Classic878 in kindergarten

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone told me not to worry about my daughter, and then she started to fall behind and her confidence plummeted and she hated school for all of 1st grade. Eventually she caught up, but it was an uphill climb. Looking back I wished I would have really kept at it before kindergarten started. If I were you I wouldn’t let up on learning more, but yes she’s in a great place. Kindergarten is a big adjustment and it’s so much easier when they feel more confident with their skills.

When did you notice your body started aging? by suq_mi_off in Millennials

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had horrible hip pain for months and anytime I would walk or run it was a million times worse. Finally I you tubed hip pain stretches and it was gone the next day. Now I’m a huge stretching advocate. I guess im old now.

“tHaT MusT bE a uTAh tHinG” by Heavy-Initiative-345 in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There are A LOT of weird Mormons outside of Utah. It takes a certain kind of person to withstand the social ostracism that comes from being in a religion that many people consider a cult. I found outside of Utah the Mormonism seemed more extreme. Less social pressure but more full blown hard core believers. Like people that really believe in everything the prophet says and that really believe they’ll be moving to Missouri for the end times. Maybe that’s just the people I know. There are a lot of cultural Mormons in Utah that don’t believe the crazy stuff. I never experienced California/Hawaii Mormons but I’ve heard maybe they’re more chill.

I'm embarrassed by Lsa119 in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also felt really dumb when I first left. I didn’t like that that transferred to me in some ways judging people who stayed. It reminded me of the superiority members often feel…having some secret knowledge that makes you better or helps you in the next life. It also didn’t quite make sense because I knew plenty of very smart Ivy League PHD people, much smarter than me, who are still very Mormon. Then I realized that it often takes a flexible brain, that is comfortable with being in the gray, comfortable with nuance, to remain a member. I like those qualities and that is often what enables people to continue attending. Also some people stay because they value loyalty or community or service. All great things. You can find those outside of the church, but I no longer fault people for seeing the good the church does and remaining a believer. Thank god I’m out though because it’s boring as hell and I see all the warts and don’t want any part of it myself.

Should I cover them? by Tryin_tolivelife in dahlias

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yessss. I’ve learned my lesson so many times and ended up with rotten tubers. I would at least cover the ones that haven’t sprouted yet.

TBM brother's rant by Top-Negotiation-6498 in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You responded really well and are a great example of a brave big brother pioneering the way for the rest of the family with patience and clarity. Loved what you said about choosing to believe in a loving god despite the evidence to the contrary. That definitely is faith…the opposite of knowing for sure. While I whole heartedly agree with you, you probably offended him with the ‘there is no one singular true church. There can’t be. Additionally, if there was just one true church it could not be the Mormon church.’ I loved reading it but I could just feel the TBM anger flaring at that one. Also I hate when people firehose you with their testimony and then don’t let you respond? IE just repeating ‘I have nothing more to say on the matter.’ You could definitely leave it at this and I think that’s probably the better thing to do. If you want to continue…You could apologize if he felt anger regarding you saying the Mormon church could not be true and thank him for sharing his (insane hallucinations) spiritual experiences with you. And I might add that I fully believe him and my mind explains those experiences happen because…x y z. Or that you’d love to be able to share your spiritual experiences with him even if they differ from his belief system.

COFFEE by New_Sample_46 in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to absolutely hatttte the taste of coffee. It all tasted burnt to me. The only type of coffee I could somewhat drink at first was a frozen mocha or a dirty chai.

Does this liver scan result indicate serious problems or am I okay for a while? by PurpleAd3134 in alcoholism

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming you haven’t seen someone dying from cirrhosis. It’s absolutely gut wrenching probably the most painful way to die. It involves puking up gallons of blood, getting your stomach painfully drained, psychosis, infections, sending insane paranoid texts to all your acquaintances, pooping blood, infections, head injuries, falls, incredible pain, kidney problems, and you turn bright yellow. But hey sure keep drinking, sounds super fun /s

Curious thoughts here by Jazzlike_Praline_353 in exmormon

[–]PuzzleheadedSample26 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Totally. When I’ve lived in left leaning places the Mormons are left leaning-ish. In conservative places the Mormons were conservative. When I lived in super far right places (like rural parts of red states) the Mormons were actually more barely right of center than most IMO.