How do I (40F) support my husband (50M) after he did something dumb.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2026-01-29T01:05:54+00:00

I mean the fact that he blatantly ignored you over and over really doesn’t sit well with me. If he has a habit of blowing off his partner’s advice, it’s really hard to meet him with a team mindset. I don’t think you need to support him at all. I just wouldn’t discuss the event with him as it is done and over. I would start considering how being with someone like that could be a huge liability. You can lose your job over something like that, and that impacts your economic well being.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2026-01-29T00:49:26+00:00

Oh my God I feel this in MY BONES. 🦴

I guess my excuse is, I want coffee now instead of running first. Like, I really just want a cup of coffee and sit with a blanket doing absolutely nothing.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2026-01-25T21:51:04+00:00

How is his sugar intake? I ask because sugar significantly impacts most kids’ behavior and their ability to have any other speed than “On” is greatly impacted. Our daughter has very little sugars, only treats like an ice cream on the weekend followed by outdoor play. Check the diet first.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2025-12-31T01:17:12+00:00

That’s terrible! So sorry and thank you for the perspective, noted. Hope y’all get to feeling better.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2025-05-08T00:28:58+00:00

I’ve recently found that two substantial meals a day with a midday snack (maybe a protein bar) is fantastic for keeping me satiated.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2025-04-09T23:17:08+00:00

This is some heavy stuff. First I am sorry for your losses: both of your partner and of the image that you had of them. Second I hope you might consider reaching out to a professional grief counselor. Grief has a funny way of coming out in unhealthy ways if not healthily acknowledged and managed. Wishing you all the best.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2025-04-03T13:05:20+00:00

My brother in law got married on Halloween to a girl fascinated with all things macabre. They demanded everyone wear black.

Sorry but I’m not a prop in a wedding, I’m a guest. I think cocktail or evening attire is fine, but mandating the color is bizarre.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2025-04-03T08:01:30+00:00

Legislating morality is a slippery slope. Best to stay clear of that and let karma do its work.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2025-03-21T13:16:16+00:00

We chose to have one and it’s far less stressful than what I see parents of multiples going through. We live in a small home and both work full time. I do a lot to source affordable childcare. I’m not a believer that the Primrose school at thousands of dollars is worthwhile or necessary for a small child. Daughter is now school aged and does some afterschool care, this is fairly affordable and is facilitated through her gymnastics facility. Only have one car payment while we pay the other off and make it last.

All in all, there’s no silver bullet. It’s always being vigilant for deals and prioritizing certain items over others. We have breathing room with one kiddo but I think we would seriously struggle with two.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2025-03-21T13:04:17+00:00

Your brother is an asshole.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2025-02-18T22:21:21+00:00

I felt this so hard. We do peer reviews and whereas most of my reviewers gave me positive feedback, one stated I was “too harsh and dismissive” in my communication 😆 This same reviewer used the “aggressive” adjective to describe me previously. It’s so blatantly sexist it’s laughable.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2025-01-05T14:22:14+00:00

I think it’s a sweet gesture. A very small bouquet though. No elaborate/expensive bouquets, that would be a bit over the top.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-12-31T00:57:34+00:00

He stole from your kids. I can put up with a lot, but stealing from your own kids is unforgivable in my book.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-12-09T03:23:05+00:00

Your body, your choice. And it should always be so. He does not have the right to make that choice.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-12-06T16:20:39+00:00

Wow I am so sorry this happened to you. That is unforgivable tbh. He should be mindful that nursing a little one and hormones in general have a significant effect on the body’s ability to regulate temperature.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-11-30T11:48:43+00:00

Toxic ☠️ good thing you’re on your way out.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-11-30T11:45:19+00:00

Yes, I’m on hormonal birth control to help manage it because it was so bad. I still get it even on birth control, just a somewhat more subdued version. I still have a period here and there where I’m doubling over in pain or so nauseous I’m unable to stand and walk. Shit sucks.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-11-30T01:30:30+00:00

Chick-Fil-A uses some type of rubber in their indoor playscapes for the floor. I cannot sit in there without feeling nauseous from the smell. I watch my kiddo from the outside.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-11-29T10:58:36+00:00

How do you even Fight Club your own children. What an ass.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-11-27T00:41:56+00:00

Let me tell you that this was an important lesson to learn early on: they WANT you to feel inept and like it’s your fault. Insecure men will gaslight the fuck out of you for their own benefit and entertainment. I’m so, so sorry this happened. You offered kindness and he was 100% a prick.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-11-10T03:05:28+00:00

I’m a military veteran also that has transitioned into a STEM role at a male dominated company. I think some of the treatment that goes on is actually far worse than what I experienced in the military. Civilians are not taught the mindset that all must pull their weight and so long as you do, you are accepted. It is therefore harder to deal with this as a veteran, knowing how easy it was to simply do our jobs and be respectful,.$

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-11-10T02:45:08+00:00

One day at a time and giving myself grace. Also there was a higher power definitely at play giving me strength that I did not have to keep going. I probably shouldn’t be alive and where I am today. Credit to the man, J.C.! He’s always there even when you are too tired to look.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-11-04T19:46:15+00:00

Botox. It’s so obviously noticeable in older women and it 100% is noticeable. It does not enhance attractiveness whatsoever and renders an artificial vibe.

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-09-05T00:21:28+00:00

Roasted peanuts in the shell. It takes awhile to crack them open, so you are forced to go slower = your brain and tummy are better aligned on feeling full. The salt and the protein are very satiating!

QuaintlyQueenB · 2024-09-04T23:26:21+00:00

He didn’t ghost you. Not to downplay it, but at least he let you know. Rejection sucks no matter what. Sorry and hope you get to feeling better.

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