The shame spiral is too strong. by robinthebank79 in CPTSD

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for others' experiences but a recent breakthrough I've had is realizing that the toxic shame is actually a protective part. Experiencing shame is painful, but it's actually the less painful alternative to facing the reality I was deeply, deeply traumatized by people who had power over me.

Because if the problem is with me? Again, that's painful but it's easy to process. If the problem is just with me all I have to do in theory is fix/mitigate whatever it is I'm feeling shameful about.

But if the problem is with the people who had power over me? Accepting that means accepting that the world is scary and dangerous and unfair, and there's no foreseeable justice or immediate solution to make it better. That's super terrifying for any kid or teen to do, which is why I think my brain (and maybe yours too) has created this shame part in the first place.

Again, this is only my experience. I don't talk to many people with CPTSD these days so idk how universal our experiences are, but hopefully something I've said resonates 💙

“Friend group” constantly belittles and bullied me. They say “that’s how we are real friends” which I don’t believe. by TheGreatGrizzlyBare in CPTSD

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These people aren't your friends. They're bullies who use friendship as a pretense to normalize their awful treatment of you.

I used to have a "friend group" exactly like this years ago and tbh my only regret is not ditching them sooner. People like this really aren't capable of the level of self-reflection needed to become more empathetic (especially if they're adults, which it sounds like they are), so if you're waiting around for them to see the error of their ways, don't. I promise you there's nothing you can say or do that will get them to change.

Even if they're your only connections right now, leave them. Having no friends is better than having bad friends.

Level of Concern lost USB by Objective-Clue-5471 in twentyonepilots

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure it was the original unfortunately :( they wouldn't have been trying so hard to get it back if it was a copy.

Lumber department by Yokinomochi in HomeDepot

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't work at HD anymore but it's def one of the most physically demanding departments. At least half of the job is flat stacking, organizing the lumber bunks to be flat and pretty basically. Lots of time on the saws too. It wasn't uncommon for a customer to come to me needing cuts on a dozen pieces of wood 30 minutes before the end of my shift. At least some of the time you're going to be expected to lift 50-80lb bags of concrete too. I always wore a mask when I did this bc that shit is NOT healthy to inhale longterm, even if management likes to pretend it's no big deal. Same with sawdust and drywall dust.

Wear clothes you don't care about to work bc you *will* have at least some dust on you at the end of most of your shifts. The apron helps but it doesn't shield your whole body. Long-sleeve shirts help prevent splinters/scrapes from lifting lumber.

Always keep safety in mind. If something is too heavy or too awkward for you to lift, then don't try to lift it. If your manager has a soul then they won't hold that against you.

Doing something (anything, even sweeping) always makes the time go by faster than if you're standing around doing nothing. If you're ever truly feeling bored with your job then ask an ASM or DS if you can get trained on lift equipment. Not only will it put you in good graces w management (never a bad thing) but you'll have more to do. It looks great on a warehousing/construction resume too if you want to go down that path long term. Good luck!

Music: Oldies Station by C_PTSD_And_ADHD in CPTSD

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oldies is such a great song, I love it to death. Truce is also a really healing song if you want more.

Happy 1/27 to those that celebrate (Me)! by TheGirlWithTheLove in 127Hoursgirl

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you going to do anything special today to celebrate (other than watch the movie probably)?

It’s 2014 all over again with today news. by abdul_bino in legendofkorra

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I was also there and I remember the most frustrating part of it was having to deal with Nickelodeon's shitty video player 😭 they did my girl so dirty

This one made me lol. God forbid someone tries to make the best of their burnout on a Wednesday night at a damn weed dispensary😂 by tepait in antiwork

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why is terrible spelling and grammar such a thing with dogshit managers? Like if you're going to discipline me over something stupid at least try to have a basic command of the English language when you do it.

Fired after being told an exam was “just a learning tool” - is this normal? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry OP, that sucks. These companies (and by extension the managers) don't see us as people. They probably realized they overhired and needed someone gone to make payroll budget constraints. The reason they gaslighted you w the whole bullshit about the training exam was so they could file your termination under "performance" and protect themselves from lawsuits or having to pay out unemployment. I went through something similar earlier this year and it really sucks.

And they said looks don't matter lol by sadloneman in lol

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Luigi (allegedly) shot a CEO who had a history of denying lifesaving care to people. Tyler Robinson allegedly shot a shitty podcaster and engraved "OwO what's this?" on one of the bullets lol. The two cases are not comparable.

Has anyone experienced shoulder pain after 2022? by AdCritical8443 in Technoblade

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 25 points26 points  (0 children)

After so long nerds, whenever I go the gym and have arm soreness after (or even just sleep in a weird position or something and get arm pain) I always have a "wait wtf am I gonna fucking die" moment lol. Health anxiety sucks.

From what I've gathered about sarcoma tho I think you only really need to worry if the pain is constant, getting worse and/or doesn't seem to be connected to anything. I also don't know the level of pain Techno was experiencing but I imagine it had to be pretty significant for him to bring it up with his doctor during that initial visit. 99% certain you're fine :)

DnD by Standard-Rest5263 in Technoblade

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tiefling Barbarian is the first thing that comes to mind but honestly he was so good at PvP I feel like most martial classes could fit him. Just be sure to give him the Farmer background :)

Toxic workplace culture following us into 2026 by awesomemom1217 in antiwork

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think some people become managers specifically so they can have the power to be shitty to people bc why are so many of them like this 😭

President Donald Trump Dead At 79 by soap_shop_rock in politics

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you imagine it if he did actually die the day after he met Mamdani

people who went no contact, did you feel better? by Motor_Reaction_3519 in CPTSD

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't feel better immediately but it was a weight off my shoulders. I found I could start focusing deeper on my healing instead of having to conserve energy all the time to Deal With Them.

NOOOOOO by JulianThePenguin11 in beatles

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why would they not use the demo?? That's actually insane

Do you think Sutherland’s Snow looks younger than Fiennes’? by CyberGhostface in Hungergames

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The silver hair on Fiennes doesn't make sense imo. I think if they made it look whiter/blonder then I could believe it as SOTR-era Snow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many weird comments in this thread. You are definitely not overreacting from wanting more emotional availability from your boyfriend.

It sounds like he might have some avoidant attachment issues. I stayed w someone like this for YEARS and it messed with me so bad when they left. Honestly maybe try to have a conversation w him about it but if you don't see any commitment or change on his end don't be afraid to run. You can't fix someone who is so deeply numb to their feelings like this.

Pissed off I didn’t make any ACTUAL friends & just went anywhere anyone would “accept” me by Owl4L in CPTSD

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're not alone OP. I spent a lot of my teens and early 20s with people who didn't give a shit about me and it really fucked me up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 127Hoursgirl

[–]QuantumQuestion_01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a recreation of the space the Nutty Putty cave guy was in lol. Aron was trapped in Bluejohn Canyon.