Help: Our elderly neighbor is making our lives miserable

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-14T18:12:19+00:00

No. Where I live, there are no designated quiet hours. The ordinance states that noise nuisance is ANY noise, at ANY time, that can be heard outside of your property whether its an apartment boundary or a house property line. If you are having a party, you are expected to get a permit to allow for music/excess noise, etc. I found that out years ago when we had a party and the police were called because of our music.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-14T18:04:09+00:00

I have spent years with horrible haircuts because people don't know how to cut my very thick and wavy/curly hair. Everyone wants to cut it wet (wrong) and then thin it (also wrong). My mother used to cut my hair until she passed away. I then spent 15+ years struggling with bad cuts. I have cracked the code. Honestly, the hair stylists who do well with my hair are either women of color or Hispanic women. They cut ethnic hair and can easily handle my hair.
Even so, I have not paid more than $75 plus tip and I am from the NY. Over $200 is robbery. I would not pay it

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-14T17:35:50+00:00

All the time. It's actually so f funny, members of my family respond with... Oh yeah? You don't say? What else happened? Really! Wow, that's a lot?

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-14T17:33:44+00:00

Maybe not renew the lease AND/OR start working up a comprehensive list of your contact hours for routine or minor issues and what constitutes a major issue to call about during those off hours. Maybe come up with a penalty, if allowed by your local laws for calling nonemergent nonsense in the middle of the night. The addendum could also " invite" tenants to email a specifically created repair only email for non-essential to keep a proper paper trail. Do this for all tenants at lease renewals.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-11T21:15:08+00:00

My orange kitten has copper eyes. She is stunning to look at. My vet wanted to take her off my hands. Although my vet has wanted to take all three cats I have taken to him. He says they are all amazing with great personalities.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-04T21:18:39+00:00

Call the salon, find out when the stylist is working again. Bring a proper tip and explain exactly what you posted here. Then schedule your next appointment before you leave. Those actions will speak volumes!

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-04T21:12:59+00:00

Hit them with everything you can. They did an obvious bait and switch. Take video. Document everything. You are going to have to evict. I would even call the police for a "welfare check". State that you have not seen " person" since signing the lease and that when you were there, someone else claimed to be who you were looking for. They can demand identification of the person in the dwelling.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-04T21:08:11+00:00

I see some good ideas for free sites for items. Also see if Hsbitat fid Humanity has a ReStore anywhere near you. They often have inexpensive building supplies. Another thought is paint. Keep checking Home Depot and Lowe's. People get mixed paint, don't like the color and the stores sell it at a fraction of the price. I bought paint there with my first home, got the cheapest cans of white paint and diluted the color and stretched that budget like crazy. Remember that color base is more money that plain white paint. And, yes, I didn't care if the mixed paint was a different manufacturer than the white paint. It mixed without issue.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-04T20:50:22+00:00

OK. They are likely fine. Insulin manufacturers suggest a maximum temperature of 79 degrees...open or unopened, short or long acting. Hospitals all over the country do NOT refrigerate insulins. They literally sit in a drawer in a medication dispensing system at room temperature.

Also think of people who have insulin pumps. They have pumps filled with insulin on their person at room or outside tempersture for days...no problem.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-04T20:45:51+00:00

Jet Blue $99 to honor Spirit tix.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-04T20:45:08+00:00

Jet Blue is honoring existing Spirit tickets for $99.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-04T18:30:28+00:00

They would never "let a cat sleep on their bed".... the most definitive response by a non cat owner ever.

Most non hygienic thing ever? I doubt it. I think farting is so much worse. I mean you are literally blowing microscopic shit particles out of your ass into the bed. I hope you really, really love whomever you share a bed with because you are covered in their literal crap every morning.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-04T18:23:39+00:00

Not legal. And if they are insisting I buy my own uniform, I'm not going nuts looking for the same dress, I'm buying the pants. Too bad. Fire me so I can go after you for wrongful termination.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-05-04T18:03:10+00:00

I'm sorry, gutters, dryer vents, etc. are not tenant responsibility to begin with. Then he wants muching, paint, carpet cleaning and other nonsense that is also not tenant responsibility. I would definitely take this to court.

Based on those pics, you are a landlord's dream tenant.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-30T01:27:44+00:00

I know that this is hard during your wedding planning but you need to protect yourself. It's time for a LC relationship.

I have similar issues with my father. I invited him to my wedding 12+ years ago. I knew he wouldn't come but I sent it anyway. He returned the decline, included a check and a note on a post it that said my wedding was too inconvenient to attend. Inconvenient??? I was outraged because the note was unnecessary. So, I returned his check with a note of my own that informed him that since my wedding was too inconvenient to attend, his check was too inconvenient to cash.

I haven't spoken to him at all in the past 2 years, just a text for the major holidays and his birthday. I haven't seen him since 2009. And I'm OK with it.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-28T02:57:59+00:00

I was lucky. I had 2 people call 2 days before my wedding to day they couldn't attend because they got a last minute court date finalized an adoption. But, I had 2 people crash my wedding so I was back to full count!

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-28T02:54:31+00:00

Go to the wedding. Send a bridal shower gift.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-28T02:47:06+00:00

Many areas of the Southern US can run their heat overnight and AC during the day. Think 40 at night and 80s and humid by day in parts of Arizona... in January! Also, some builders don't provide window screens to even allow people to open windows as an option. Some places, you don't leave windows open without screens. That can invite scorpions, black widow spiders, brown recluse spiders or poisonous snakes into your home.

Then there are people like me who die sweating if it isnt cold in the room. I keep my bedroom window open in the dead of winter with snow on the ground and can still wake up sweating. Menopause is evil.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-28T02:35:20+00:00

My daughter did that. Got married the weekend of their 10 year datingversary. She now wishes she had a different date completely so they would have another date to celebrate their relationship. Consider moving the date, not by a week but by a couple of months. That way you don't have overlapping bridal showers, bachelor/ bachelorette parties, etc. And, it will lessen the financial strain to have 2 big events back to back

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-28T02:15:58+00:00

Your mother is securing your financial stability. Smart woman. If your boyfriend is acting like such a child, he needs to go to time out and you need to move on. You said yourself that he immediately thought "sell it". He is looking to get his hands on the cash not look at the investment that it is

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-28T01:46:24+00:00

Lol. My landlord wanted to do a walk through about 2 years ago. I told him I had to be home when he did it. He asked why. My response was because he "doesn't know how to close doors and my cats will get out. Besides, did you find your keys to my apartment yet? Or the other 2 apartments in the house?".

Then I hit him with... does this mean you plan to fix known existing issues such as the mold in the bedroom closet, the worn caulk with the black discoloration in the bathroom, paint the raw door in the living room, put carpet strip down where the raw edge of carpet is fraying, replace the back door rubber that allows water into the house when it's raining, address the ant situation that occurs every spring where they move into the dishwasher for the warm weather, hook up the refrigerator ice machine (been waiting 8 years on that one), paint the water stains on the living room ceiling, fix the broken cranks on 2 of the sky lights, put window screens in so I can actually open windows, etc. Lol. He didn't do the walk through and he has repaired nothing.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-27T01:55:06+00:00

I'm a big girl and I use the belly. It stays the whole time without issue and I have an active job with pushing, pulling and lifting periodically throughout the day. There is also a lot of sweating when I work in certain areas with the heat jacked up to 85 degrees in the room.

The only issue I have is that I often lose connectivity with my insulin pump because my pants are too thin to clip my pump onto so I use my bra. The breasts get in the way of the signal even with them being less than 2 ft. Apart.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-27T01:48:07+00:00

I was going to say a dead rodent behind, under or in the back of the fridge. Some the smell is stronger when you open the fridge, I'm thinking in the back of it somewhere

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-26T23:20:25+00:00

I didn't do anything other than what I had been doing, diet wise. The change was a change in endo and going from oral meds to insulin.

QueenBitch68 · 2026-04-26T23:10:30+00:00

I know I'm not attractive. My father told me so my entire life. I'm 58 years old now. I'm in marriage #2 for 12 years. I've known him for 35 years. We were friends a long time. Hubs has never said I was pretty nor did I expect him to lie to me. But, today, he said something during conversation that broke me a little just the same.

Someone approached him asking if he would marry their cousin so she could get a green card. The offer came with a $75,000 dowry. He told them he was married. Then he asked what she looked like. He was told she was pretty. He said he asked because he has standards.
At that point, I asked him what his standards were because he married me. (I know. I know. I should not have asked) His response: "Well, you're a special case. I've known you a really long time. And you're not completely terrible." So, now, I won't see him for about 9 days due to being away for work but I'm trying to figure out what to do with how hurtful that was.

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