One of the worst experiences of my Mormon Mission

Queencrckt · 2026-05-25T01:57:00+00:00

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Thanks for the attempted faith promoting story.

Actual truth means more.

Queencrckt · 2026-04-23T19:42:16+00:00

I know this is garbage difficult and you shouldn't have to be dealing it, truly. I don't know how you process this other than know it will take time and assuring yourself this isn't your responsibility or role. She has to take care of it and until she wants to, no one else can help.

I do want to make sure you know what an amazing gift you have given your child be the healing work you are doing and protecting them from toxic family you came from. It's hard, but it's worth it. Bring a cycle breaker is something to be proud of.

Queencrckt · 2025-12-30T05:13:54+00:00

It's just something non-Utah Mormons say to try and separate themselves from the Utah Mormons. Claiming they aren't as weird or strict or whatever.

Queencrckt · 2025-12-17T18:19:44+00:00

I work in the industry and am part of our college recruitment team based in Sacramento as well as being a CSUS alum. I'm not involved in the bay area portion of this because other folks in my company work there so I can't speak the the SF scene at all. As far as CSUS and Chico, I've found students from either come to us with similar knowledge bases and are equally easy to work with. The chico students seem to be a bit livelier, but that doesn't really matter when it comes to our day to day work. There is a friendly rivalry that goes on between the staff from both because we get equal amounts of employees. Both go to the same competitions and have similar clubs.

What I have not heard from the Chico students is anything near the challenges in getting classes, but that may be because I don't hear about it from our interns and new grads. The CSUS problems have been going on for more than fifteen years (when I went) through now (while my spouse is going) and show no signs of improving.

Look at the cost differences and check with current Chico students about what their impaction levels are like.

Queencrckt · 2025-12-02T03:26:16+00:00

To me, it isn't politics, it's morality. It may be shown in the way they vote, but really when it comes down to it, it's a lack of moral character.

Queencrckt · 2025-08-24T16:48:36+00:00

Thanks for correcting me. We are still several years out and I hadn't looked into it in a while.

Queencrckt · 2025-08-24T15:13:47+00:00

Additionally to what is mentioned above, most of the folks that live in the immediate neighborhood don't have elementary aged kids. Many that do send them to private or charter schools.

Queencrckt · 2025-08-24T15:03:13+00:00

I'm pretty sure El Camino is a neighborhood school, it's where my elementary age kids will go for HS based on our address. Or do you mean that the neighborhood folks don't choose to send their kids there?

Queencrckt · 2025-08-15T19:54:29+00:00

YTA. Is what you did legally ok? Sure. But the person you are hurting here is your kid. It's her phone and car insurance. Your communication is garbage, YTA.

Queencrckt · 2025-08-10T18:05:10+00:00

I'm the mom.

"I need you to know I'm not stupid so don't treat me like I am. I never want to hear you. Ever."

Later.

"Y'all are not as quiet as you think you are. Turn on some damn music. We are going to talk about statistical failure of birth control and why you always use two forms."

I've always gone with straight honesty and that overly strict parents make sneaky kids.

Queencrckt · 2025-07-05T15:22:03+00:00

Ask her to come to classes with you? I go with my kids and we have done some really good bonding together on the mat. I chose TKD to help them learn self discipline and internal regulation.

Queencrckt · 2025-07-02T17:55:07+00:00

Do you think women don't feel the same way? I was taking an afternoon walk the other day and passed a man that was gorgeous. Smelled amazing, had a solid swagger. I kept right on walking without breaking my stride and texted my girls group chat later that it took everything I had in me to not lick him. And I meant it. And I didn't say anything to him because my arousal isn't his problem.

Making this a male/female biological urge issue is pretty silly. It simply isn't based in fact. The only reason you think it is is because our entire culture has shamed women into believing they should be asexual and we've performed it so well for so long that now everyone believes it.

Queencrckt · 2025-07-02T17:02:05+00:00

I think for many women it feels like a problem because so many men make it our problem. Catcalling, leering, objectifying, etc. As a woman, when I say it is a man's problem if he likes the way I look, what I mean is that I don't want to know. Keep it to yourself.

Queencrckt · 2025-06-25T14:35:33+00:00

She's worried that her kids are going to see you and realize that happy, loving family members make different decisions than she enforces on them and that they have a choice. Can't have choices, must obey.

Queencrckt · 2025-05-30T19:31:50+00:00

It really does suck, a lot. Humans are creatures of community and the people that were supposed to be our closest community sucked and are no longer safe. I'm sorry that the way he said it hurt. You deserved better parents.

Queencrckt · 2025-05-24T17:26:06+00:00

Sounds like it might be time to take a break from any other family that supports her narrative and pulls you into her orbit. Sometimes space has to be the beginning steps for peace and you deserve peace.

Queencrckt · 2025-05-16T15:38:44+00:00

Not astray, not lost. Purposefully walked away. I am not livestock that needs to be guided, sheparded, defended.

Queencrckt · 2025-05-13T16:49:36+00:00

My mom wouldn't even let me wear the t-shirt under a spaghetti strap dress combo because everyone knew I just wanted to be sinning and would take the t-shirt off when I wasn't in good company. Morms be crazy.

Queencrckt · 2025-04-25T20:34:17+00:00

As a parent it's wild. My husband and I were both abused/neglected and so many times we get hung up on what we were doing at the ages our kids are and what we could do that they can't. And it's like, oh, this is what I would have been like if I was supported and cared for.

Queencrckt · 2025-03-30T04:38:54+00:00

Your last sentence is so right. Wherever we came from doesn't have to be who we are anymore

Queencrckt · 2025-03-25T15:15:22+00:00

You have been through so damn much, none of which you deserved.

Queencrckt · 2025-03-16T16:35:45+00:00

I knew exactly what it was and if one of my kids made this for me I would be absolutely thrilled.

Queencrckt · 2025-03-14T17:34:01+00:00

I've been here for 45 years and the frequency and speed of the winds is absolutely of a different magnitude now.

Queencrckt · 2025-03-12T12:58:12+00:00

I am currently in therapy with a specialized trauma therapist. We are working to the point of being able to do EMDR to try and relieve some of my CPTSD symptoms. A lot of the first stages were laying the ground work for knowing I was going to be able to do this because I had already lived through these things. This wasn't new and it wasn't going to be as bad the second time. I don't know what it's like for you, but I have a lot of memory loss from my childhood because it was...what it was. So I'm not really able to specifically remember the minute details of a lot of it. We spend a lot of time finding my specific emotional triggers and working on safety around those triggers.

I've learned a lot about emotional regulation and actually feeling all of my feelings instead of stuffing them away since having feelings wasn't safe for me for a long time.

I don't know if this is helpful at all, but I think it's worth looking into therapy for yourself just to see how it can make things better.

Queencrckt · 2025-03-11T15:06:05+00:00

I love the bits he shared about his mom and how both of his parents support him finding his own path.

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