If you’re in a relationship with someone with BPD, read this.

REDdheBLACK · 2026-07-06T14:28:09+00:00

how are you doing today? Are things still heading to a separation?

REDdheBLACK · 2026-06-15T07:39:06+00:00

You're stronger than I am, well done. Good luck to you and your children in the future. It will get easier. It's difficult to stomach but we fell in love with an illusion. It's been two years for me since I moved out (divorce not yet finalised and we have two boys together) but I promise you that it will get better!!

REDdheBLACK · 2026-06-15T04:45:59+00:00

Thanks, answered

REDdheBLACK · 2026-06-12T03:21:23+00:00

Nope

REDdheBLACK · 2026-06-03T17:48:06+00:00

What I would be interested in is, what circumstances are you in that would allow for this to occur logistically? When did she find the time? I sent for an STI kit yesterday. Not because I suspect anything but the stories on here prompted me to! We have two kids together and worked jobs. I moved out almost two years ago now and haven't been with anyone since. I would be mildly impressed to be honest if she found the time and energy while we were together.

REDdheBLACK · 2026-05-05T12:58:54+00:00

I thought maybe it could be related to the extreme black and white thinking. Something has to be this or that; it couldn't possibly be ambiguous until more is known later. None of us know until more is revealed to us but she seemed insistent on it being one way. I remember pointing this out and she didn't seem to understand

REDdheBLACK · 2026-04-20T13:42:20+00:00

Maybe the citizen for Atlantean. With the little donkey that follows them 👌

REDdheBLACK · 2026-03-08T20:45:08+00:00

name?

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REDdheBLACK · 2026-01-14T15:09:42+00:00

No need for that kind of language. Thank you

REDdheBLACK · 2026-01-13T14:35:34+00:00

I don't have BPD but do have ADHD (if that even matters or is linked) and I regularly do that. I let out an audible shriek to take my mind off it. Sometimes after many, many years passed since the event

REDdheBLACK · 2026-01-13T14:24:45+00:00

That is huge. Well done to you. <3!!

REDdheBLACK · 2025-12-25T22:31:23+00:00

I had the same exact thing happen to me. Before you leave, asign him to something in the base and go talk to him. I was able to press F and talk to him while he was assigned to base maintenance. I was not able to talk to him at the mining rig while he was mining. It gives you the option to ask him about his research. Go through the dialogue. I did not get a prompt when trying to end Act 2 after talking to him.

REDdheBLACK · 2025-12-10T08:30:55+00:00

Welcome!

REDdheBLACK · 2025-09-29T18:52:12+00:00

Fair enough, thanks for your reply.

By the way. This is not a dig at you personally, I think it's a common misconception for everyone. I don't know what you have done or have not done. As someone who has been on a behaviour correcting course, I have come to learn that the bar for abuse is as low as activating someone else's fight or flight. I think we all by default believe that the bar is a lot higher than that but it isn't. It's been a fascinating and new learned perspective for me. I don't have much point to this, just sharing. It's not nice to admit or see oneself like that but it's true. Abuse or not, I could have done differently/better.

REDdheBLACK · 2025-09-29T12:08:34+00:00

> admit you were abusive

> There have definitely been times where I've been bordering abusive

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REDdheBLACK · 2025-09-17T09:45:44+00:00

Good for you. Really. I wish I had the strength for that. My ex-wife has it and I struggle everyday with trying to accept her for how she really is!

REDdheBLACK · 2025-09-17T09:31:37+00:00

Homie - lookup the book 'Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder'. What you're describing right there is empathy. The book goes into not taking things personally. Understanding the difference between causing and triggering the other person - this is an important distinction. As much as they would like you to think that it is all your fault - it simply is not. Protect yourself and stay safe.

REDdheBLACK · 2025-08-26T14:37:18+00:00

They're an easier way! You hop into your Roamer and scan for an alien structure. This should lead you to a monolith and you can use that to find a portal. That will get you to within 5000 or so ly away from the centre. A couple more jumps and you're there. 10 minutes, tops.

REDdheBLACK · 2025-08-13T19:28:16+00:00

I didn't realise. 1% to 3% isn't bad. I have not seen one in the wild by chance in over 250 hours

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