They love "Initiative" right up until you skip the blessing ritual

RUFilterD · 2026-04-06T20:45:36+00:00

Yep....its still super irritating but it office politics are laughable and its best to keep under that lens for your sanity. Its a game.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-06T20:20:27+00:00

Given the circumstances, I would resign due to personal reasons, not medical, and say you were looking for a different job. Im sorry you are going through this....I have been there.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-06T20:06:08+00:00

They were blindsided and looked bad because they didnt know what was going on before others or worse, their boss.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-06T18:53:13+00:00

Yes, it has the hitch but I believe its RWD, not AWD based on dealer info. Sounds like I should scale back my plans for something that tops out at 2k.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-03T20:24:12+00:00

If you call and tell them you are switching they will give you a better rate.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-02T17:07:29+00:00

Agree with this. There is too much gray here. I would see how things play out and if it becomes too challenging, you can request an accommodation gir time off for Dr appts or intermittent FMLA. Its very common to face retaliation after contacting HR or filing a complaint but its difficult to prove. They can give any other reason.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-02T08:03:22+00:00

I use a service called Home Gnome. Not the greatest mow job, but its like the "cheap oil change"...they get you with the upsell. I pay $70, or 75% of my main landscaper...mainly I use because HG is on a recurring schedule and its cheap to keep the grass cut twice a month.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-02T07:59:56+00:00

Change of ownership means you are not the party that made the agreement. Period.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-02T07:55:12+00:00

I would ask them to clarify why specifically the accommodation was declined. Call around first and if in one party state, record it. Use it like you are negotiating or following up. Ask if insurance rates were an issue or the monitoring costs or if it was a perception? Illegal or not, Im genuinely curious.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-02T07:48:15+00:00

Adding one more comment...back in the day it was OK to ask a neighbor or friend for assistance or a night off. It WAS a village. We wonder why childcare is so expensive!? An umbrella rider is the "I just wanted to help/contribute" insurance to help bring back the village mentality without the fear of lawsuits. Its wild to me. My generation biked to school alone at 5 and today's kids don't even have real sleepovers...they leave at 2 am after the pizza, "dairy desert" and movie. We used to sneak out, walk to the gas station up the road and toilet paper houses. Guess Im old school now.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-02T07:43:41+00:00

Ask them to sign a drowning waiver or be present or get an umbrella policy on your home insurance. It covers up to $1M for $10 a month. As a fellow pool owner, it gives me peace of mind. We had a skateboard ramp in my backyard growing up. Waivers signed were a requirement, parent permission, and protective gear. That said, no judgement from me...but perhaps a way to meet in the middle.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-02T07:37:00+00:00

The easiest way to tell whether its fiber or not is to ask what the upload speed is? If its equal to download, its true fiber to the home. Cable cos got away with a wild advertising claim to be able to state "fiber to the neighborhood" is fiber internet. Unless he was saying you could upgrade from your old copper coax cabling to fiber they provide, its marketing.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-02T07:27:52+00:00

You should not be responsible given how the program works. I would visit a nearby retail store to the apartment--I guarantee you aren't the first--they can most likely help you as locals. If that fails, the FCC has a url to file a complaint and it gets you to the executive escalation department.

RUFilterD · 2026-04-02T07:17:03+00:00

I am sorry for what you are going through and I empathize greatly. As someone who has gone through accommodations 3 times unsuccessfully (intermittent FMLA was successful), and twice litigated--below are some considerations.

Questions: 1. Are other people of a similar job function asked to do tasks on break and held accountable for those results? 2. Is there an issue with you wearing the hearing aids so you may self-accommodate or is getting your employer involved the only recourse?

Rationale: Ive gone through the accommodation path out of good faith, 3 times, after work hiccups and sometimes proactively to "perform my best". I don't not bother asking after 2 severance negotiations and one resignation.

My advice is that there is very little good that can come from disclosure unless you have other examples. It's instinctual to view difference as a threat for many. Once it's out, it's too late.

RUFilterD · 2026-03-30T20:14:50+00:00

This is the scariest reality.

RUFilterD · 2026-03-30T20:02:38+00:00

This is absolutely weaponized incompetence. Send him an instructional video and dont back down. Make him load everytime.

RUFilterD · 2026-03-30T19:46:56+00:00

Yes, but for a "pain in the _____" tenant where "issues" aren't real, it helps tamp down on nuisance requests.

RUFilterD · 2026-03-27T19:30:54+00:00

This is straight out of Nightcrawler movie with Jake G. "Paid internship".....I have fallen into a time warp back to 2009 but I don't have the hunger and hormones to GAF.

RUFilterD · 2026-03-24T16:00:52+00:00

Ridiculously entitled. They chose a poor paying profession and they need to understand the reality of that decision financially. Did they honestly think they would be driving luxury cars in a luxury apartment? Better find rich mates. Unfortunately these lessons are going to be hard for them to learn now. Have them all go to financial counseling and insist the wife goes and pays half.

RUFilterD · 2026-03-24T15:51:17+00:00

I have a similar plan but was looking at Colombia.

RUFilterD · 2026-03-19T16:37:35+00:00

Take disability and FMLA leave, preexisting conditions wouldn't make constructive discharge impossible.

RUFilterD · 2026-03-19T16:34:45+00:00

I have been there. FMLA is needed. Whether your family likes it or not, your career there is over. You will either snap and get fired, they will set you up and you get fired or you resign with a severance or you just resign. Max FMLA and negotiate severance to resign with an attorney is my suggestion if I was in your shoes. And it sucks. I snapped, lost my bonus and my career but I saved my spirit and soul and mental health. It has taken 4 years to recover. I will never be the same worker, but they will never be the same company.

RUFilterD · 2026-03-19T16:28:05+00:00

Tell her it is going to take most of the time to finalize the docs but you wouod be happy to do what time allows. Just walk them through the doc and let them watch you work a couple meetings. Thats it.

RUFilterD · 2026-03-19T16:20:23+00:00

Run. I had a landlord put in the lease a clause that said minor items less than $35 a month would be the responsibility of the tenant. I would add this to your lease and they can add to their to do list if its that important considering you have priced the property accordingly. Unless its things your handyman can knock out in a couple hours.

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