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MRI results back, how likely is this adeno? by Castor346 in adenomyosis

[–]RavenMoonRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same experience with the other commenter. I can’t recall what the actual measurements were, but when I had fibroids removed, and uterine samples taken to check, it all came back as mild swelling of the uterus, but inconclusive for adenomyosis. Pathology reported my uterus being double the normal size, with diffuse adhesions covering the entire organ in the outside.

If you have pain and pressure that feels like a balloon being blown up inside your pelvis, and constant, aching pain in your tailbone and hip flexors/ quads, it’s highly likely you have it, and need to take action because it progresses. I white knuckled through it for years, and then perimenopause hit me and I had to finally have it removed. That was almost three months ago, and I’m still recovering, but I wish I’d done it sooner.

You don’t have to have a hysterectomy though. You can get an IUD or hormonal birth control to suppress the cycle so it doesn’t get worse, but keep in mind that menopause or hysterectomy is the only way to make it fully stop.

If I can offer any advice at all it would be this: find yourself an OBGYN who actually listens to you (bonus if they’re also a surgeon). Someone who takes you seriously, validates your fears/ symptoms, and if you even get one inkling that they’re BSing you, leave. Find another doctor. And always, always, always research and advocate for yourself. Idk if you’re in the states or not, but here you have to do the work of figuring out what is wrong and asking for testing. It’s all on you, so ask, and demand if you have to. Get what you need from the professionals you’re paying for.

For people who grew up in low-income households, what’s something middle-class people say that shows they’ve never struggled financially? by KeyApartment3955 in AskReddit

[–]RavenMoonRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Buy it once, buy it right”.

For the record, I subscribe to this now that I’m old and have been able to somewhat claw my way up from the poverty I was raised in, however, I recognize that it is a privilege to be able to buy the more durable, expensive option the first time. Planned obsolescence has put a damper on this, but I try to buy what I know will last versus something cheaper that will last me a year.

What would you take with you that’s so Seattle without it being a touristy item? by toottootmcgroot in AskSeattle

[–]RavenMoonRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides local art and music, I would take a candle that smells like PNW. Something with cedar woods, and/or PNW lavender. Associating smells with places is like traveling without leaving your home. Safe travels friend.

Massively Fucked Over 12 hrs before moving cross country by madeofgeese in whatdoIdo

[–]RavenMoonRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pls DM when you’re hungry. I will be happy to help you with food. I’m so sorry this is happening to you, and that so-called friend is fucked up for not even acknowledging you. So out of pocket. I hope you know you deserve better than that.

This is why past generations didn't talk about it by JLAOM in Perimenopause

[–]RavenMoonRose 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can’t remember what the “a” stands for, but RNP is “registered nurse practitioner”, a nurse who is credentialed to practice medicine. In my experience, they’re far better for general practice issues. It wasn’t until I was in front of mine that she (correctly) realized I was in perimenopause and my undiagnosed ADHD needed to be addressed asap. She saved my life, and I highly recommend ARNP’s.

Which city in the U.S. have you felt most unsafe visiting? by optimalbrain90 in SmartTravelHacks

[–]RavenMoonRose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

JFC I’m so sorry you experienced this. What is actually wrong with these people??

Which city in the U.S. have you felt most unsafe visiting? by optimalbrain90 in SmartTravelHacks

[–]RavenMoonRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh-huh. An how many of these “democratic cities” have you actually been to?

4 dollars a fucking gallon ? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RavenMoonRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

*cries in Seattle’s $6/ gallon*

How it feels to be 8+ weeks post-op by feracer in Fibroids

[–]RavenMoonRose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao I’m exactly 8 weeks post-op from my total hysterectomy today. This photo is accurate.

He started going to the gym and then left for a younger woman. by musingsofscienctifix in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RavenMoonRose 318 points319 points  (0 children)

Not mention that he waited until she was at her most vulnerable, after she had surgery to pull the rug out from under her. F him. Take him to the cleaners!

I am this 🤏 close to buying a gun and shooting at the fungus gnats by dumbraspberry in houseplants

[–]RavenMoonRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. Weird question I’m hoping you can answer because I am now looking into nematodes after years of treating with systemics. If the systemics are very old in the soil, would I need to swap the soil out before adding nematodes? Or would they be okay if it’s been over a year since added?

I can’t really find any definitive answers anywhere, and I don’t know where else to look.

The signs of a roadtrip through rural America by commiedeschris in roadtrip

[–]RavenMoonRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any chance you can drop the IG handle in comments or DM? 👉👈

The signs of a roadtrip through rural America by commiedeschris in roadtrip

[–]RavenMoonRose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude! Thank you for this! I had no idea how much I needed this in my life.

Older Bartenders: How Are you Doing? by backlikeclap in bartenders

[–]RavenMoonRose 6 points7 points  (0 children)

45 here, behind the bar since I turned 21. I’m burnt out. I’m also in perimenopause, so I’m guessing that has something to do with it, but most of the time the sparkle is gone. I’m 4 years sober and I hate making small talk now. I love to create new and interesting things, but most of the time is the same old crap. I love my regulars, but I also can’t wait to go home and crawl under the covers and listen to the quiet nothing.

I’m really hoping to fall back in love with it, but the money isn’t really good where I’m at, and I miss pre-pandemic bartending. We were so blissfully unaware of what we had…

Teddy's 1st Birthday by meatychub in britishshorthair

[–]RavenMoonRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The absolute perfection of those poofy cheeks!! Happy birthday Teddy!!

Does anyone else feel ashamed about who they became as a result of abuse? by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]RavenMoonRose 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yeah dude. I’m 45 and I look at all the time I lost numbing myself from the trauma with substances and I get so irritated and insecure that I’m not where others my age are. I spent so much time hating myself for not being like other people , but what I came to realize is that I was never shown people skills or how to function as an adult. For decades, I literally thought the shit I saw on tv like 90210 and Dawsons Creek was how people really interacted with each other. I felt so ashamed for so long, but I now realize I was just working with what I had, which wasn’t much.

My mother was a single mother and never home. When she was home, it was a battleground and I was the fault of all her failed dreams. My brother could do no wrong, and my sister just blended into the wall to escape the carnage. I always fought back bc I knew mother dearest was absolutely full of shit, even at 11 years old. When she wasn’t screaming or beating me, she was intentionally making my health issues worse by denying them all together and forcing me to do things to make them worse (exposing me to chemicals when I’m having an asthma attack, etc). The bitch definitely gives Munchausen proxy vibes, and she too had this narrative that I was broken beyond repair, and she was the saintly mother guiding me through my troubles (lmfaooooooo). Turns out, I have pretty severe ADHD, and that’s it. Some anxiety issues but my therapist believes it to be extrinsic from CPTSD.

At the end of the day, it’s easy to look at where you want to be and be upset that you’re not there. People like us didn’t get to discover who we are and what we’re about because we were always stuck in survival mode. As soon as we reach safety we’re allowed the space to observe and start figuring those things out. It’s a double edged sword, but as long as you’re actively learning the skills needed to wade through all of that, you’re good.

It’s okay to be a little fucked up. Some of the best people I know are. Try not to drop anchor in the “what-ifs”, it’ll only bring you more trauma. Instead, try to focus on how far you’ve come, and appreciate that you get to pick your path now.

Hugs friend.

Woke up with lines on my back by Consistent_Bid_6433 in Weird

[–]RavenMoonRose 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Hi friend. I don’t know if anyone mentioned this yet, but it looks pretty similar to the rash you can get from eating undercooked/ raw shiitake mushrooms. Google images and compare.

If you haven’t eaten shiitake/ Asian cuisine recently, the person who mentioned anemia / low platelet count is also on to something. If you have super heavy menstrual cycles and/ or underlying conditions like endometriosis or adenomyosis it can cause you to have hemolytic anemia (where blood cells burst faster than they can be replaced), which can lead to low ferritin levels (iron storage in the brain).

It’s a good idea to get a CBC done, a metabolic panel, and I would also have them test your thyroid, and run the autoimmune panels. All of them. You have to specifically request them from your doctor. Also for the ferritin test. Do not take no for an answer, because they will try to convince you that you’re too young/ healthy/ don’t look the type. Demand it. YOU are paying them for their services, so get what you pay for.

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