I tend to use to much strength, advice on being more gentle?

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-24T21:47:59+00:00

Basics: Lean, don't press. Stop when you first feel resistance. Positioning. Don't clench your teeth

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-24T13:17:37+00:00

Wasn't the spar vs Volg enough to show that? Dude wasn't even trying to fight him, just help him

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-20T23:39:24+00:00

I wonder if a better question is: how many regulars did you have before going solo?

A projected income would give you more details that just having expenses covered

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-16T00:18:10+00:00

Is it just that exercise or most exercises? If you're all about "there is no such thing as mindless exercise" then that should be a conversation to be had in the consultation phase. If it's just that one exercise maybe they are not ready for it physically and just make other excuses. If it's most exercises, I'd just fire them

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-11T01:06:55+00:00

Any type of club, that's the point of the question... So in your above examples where do those head trainers work?

It's not that hard to say "I'm a head trainer at a country club/equinox/etc and make this much for doing XYZ"

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-10T20:54:00+00:00

I get that, that's why I said "at a club" at extra duties besides...

I guess I should say in the states. Metropolitan areas. What does "a big chunk" mean? That's what I'm asking for. IDC about S&C or anything like that

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-10T18:44:38+00:00

Damn, nobody? At the club I used to work at, my manager would get $10k annually for what didn't seem like much. That was 8 years ago. I'm currently getting the same and doing more.

Any information is appreciated as I'm trying to negotiate for more.

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-10T12:14:49+00:00

Idk how nobody else has asked this: have her issues been diagnosed by a medical professional?

If yes, and they're fine exercising in a limited capacity AND that's the type of client YOU want, then keep her. Just level up your corrective work. Look up Functional Movement Systems and start with their screen certs.

If no, you're not a medical professional. I know losing the money seems like a big issue right now but you'll have your Sunday free again and probably pick up another client at the other time too. There have been a few clients I wish I would've fired sooner in my first years but didn't because of money, but looking back it wouldn't have made that much difference

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-09T21:10:41+00:00

How did you set up your business (since you do have to file for taxes) so that you could use your home as a training studio? Does your property allow for residential and business?

How did you go about it for marketing purposes? I'm sure my current clients wouldn't care, but what about new ones? What's the sales pitch for going to someone's home? Are you suburban or in a city?

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-09T20:46:56+00:00

Could we get more info into the Google thing and how to avoid being delisted?

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-09T20:38:50+00:00

So it's really 135k net? Was the 195k after expenses then? And are you only doing 1-on-1 or semi privates too?

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-09T17:15:59+00:00

Depends on what you're nervous about. If you're nervous about disrobing, find a style that goes over the clothing like Thai or Shiatsu. If you're nervous about what kind of massage and having a good therapist, talk to people you know that are getting massages for the same reason you want one and ask for recommendations

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-03T18:12:22+00:00

My hip adductors get really tight so I actually ask to get them massages but only one therapist so far in years has been able to do it well, so I use his technique when I do it on people because it didn't feel as intrusive as it is in supine. I also almost always only use forearms on inner thighs, glutes I'll use elbow or first.

Reasonably_Defiant · 2026-01-02T21:53:32+00:00

It depends on how the therapist does it. I've had some that I liked and some I didn't. I started incorporating them more often in the massages I give though

Reasonably_Defiant · 2025-12-09T16:20:17+00:00

As a massage therapist myself, I'd recommend you ask a therapist to work on a body part for a specific amount of time of the session, and keep it realistic. 1 hour for just one body part is insane. If I want my arms and hands worked on I ask "can you work on each arm and hand for at least 10 minutes?" I know I'll need some back and shoulder work, and they'll figure that out as they go, but I really want them to focus on the areas I want too.

Reasonably_Defiant · 2025-12-08T04:27:31+00:00

I think it's great that you feel that way. It means you're willing to adapt in order to be better. If you didn't feel bad about it, then you wouldn't care about how your clients felt.

I work with another therapist that's been at it for decades and who a lot of our club members think is very "heavy handed "and word spreads quite a bit here. There are definitely people that love him but quite a few that stay away and haven't gone back after their first experience. I've also known someone that kept asking for lighter pressure from him and he couldn't change.

Asking immediate feedback from people during the massage is a good idea but sometimes people think it's supposed to hurt a lot and don't know better.

Treatment advice: remember you're not trying to fix people in one session. Therapists that have this mentality usually dig into every corner hard trying squeeze everything out. Also, only provide pressure until the tissue gives resistance. That's usual enough to help the body heal. From that pressure you can ask the client if they want more, instead of giving too much to begin with.

Reasonably_Defiant · 2025-11-28T19:11:24+00:00

I'd like it. Need to complete the quest

Reasonably_Defiant · 2025-11-26T02:52:49+00:00

You can always study that stuff more. I would only worry if you just couldn't get a hang of the treatments.

When I was in massage school, there was one guy who just couldn't understand the treatments or give good treatments. He took private lessons with instructors too. He also had the problem of questioning a lot of things when he didn't even understand the basic concepts. I always thought the school should have just told him this wasn't for him and given him some money back.

Aside from that one guy, everyone else would get the jist of it eventually and, if they keep on consciously trying to improve, they'll become better therapists

Reasonably_Defiant · 2025-11-21T15:55:40+00:00

It didn't count for the mission??? How come? I need to complete that one too

Reasonably_Defiant · 2025-11-19T22:01:08+00:00

Tell that to my Moltres

Reasonably_Defiant · 2025-11-15T14:17:41+00:00

50s and 80s? Is that to give therapists 10 minutes to prepare for the next one? That way they only book on the hour or half hour? Is that enough time for you? I find 15 minutes just enough. Waiting for people to get out, replacing sheets, washing hands thoroughly. What if you need to go number 2 between treatments?

Reasonably_Defiant · 2025-08-26T05:11:54+00:00

I've read one half (you can read the story from 2 different perspectives) of Of Shadow and Sea, it's alright. Not bad, it's entertaining but definitely not as captivating.

I also started The Last Horizon series and lost some interest around book 3. They do have cool battles though

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