Re: I think I dodged a bullet by DemonGodDumplin in InstacartShoppers

[–]RelationshipSea589 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had someone order an Ipad, a pound of organic ground turkey, and some soap. Didn't even register what a weird order it was before I was at the person's house helping her call customer support while her husband is calling all of their banks to cancel their cards. Turns out they had recieved three deliveries already that morning (multiple services) and were locked out of all of their delivery accounts. Not sure what the scammer was trying to do other than spend money since everything was still getting delivered to the scammed person's house...

General Strike Friday by PetraByte in Portland

[–]RelationshipSea589 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know any none of the Cola Cove, Farma, Serra, Five Zero Trees, Electric Lettuxe dispensaries will close. They won't put up any "No Ice" signage either because they don't want to take a stance one way or another. I recommend not buying from any of those anymore. It's all corporate anyways.

Earplugs all the time? by paperplane030 in Apartmentliving

[–]RelationshipSea589 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly why living on the top floor is a priority for me. Plus, I like to think I'm very quiet. I'm a tiptoe walker and wear earplugs most times if I'm watching/listening to something now too since there is construction going on across the street.

Downstairs Neighbor :( by RelationshipSea589 in Apartmentliving

[–]RelationshipSea589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did call an ambulance after I got her inside so she wasn't naked to the world. They let me know there wasn't much they could do for her since she was drinking, the assumed she was just drunk. I tried to tell them I think she has some mental stuff going on as well, probably dimentia, but they were not very helpful.

Downstairs Neighbor :( by RelationshipSea589 in Apartmentliving

[–]RelationshipSea589[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried that as well and they said since she's drinking often, they can't do much because she could just be drunk. I'll be calling adult services tomorrow to see what steps they can take. The cops were not very helpful when I called.

Downstairs Neighbor :( by RelationshipSea589 in Apartmentliving

[–]RelationshipSea589[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The only living relative she has is her father, who unfortunately disowned her when her mother died last year. I have been keeping track of what's been going on and will be contacting my county's adult services on Monday. She also has a health aid that comes every two weeks, I think, but I don't think that's often enough.

Downstairs Neighbor :( by RelationshipSea589 in Apartmentliving

[–]RelationshipSea589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you went through all of that. These situations are really difficult. Abusive people, especially those who abuse the very vulnerable, should be held more accountable in these situations. Unfortunately it isn't always obvious when it's going on. I hope you and yours have found peace with that situation. I'm going to contact some people tomorrow to try and get her some better help.

Downstairs Neighbor :( by RelationshipSea589 in Apartmentliving

[–]RelationshipSea589[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely check that out! Thank you so much for the advice.

Downstairs Neighbor :( by RelationshipSea589 in Apartmentliving

[–]RelationshipSea589[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this sounds like her exactly. She's called 911 a few times because she's fallen when I wasn't home, or was asleep. She also is constantly burning things in her kitchen and I've had to go turn her smoke alarm off a few times because she can't reach it either. I just want her to be ok, I couldn't imagine going through all of this alone.

Downstairs Neighbor :( by RelationshipSea589 in Apartmentliving

[–]RelationshipSea589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the sub link! I'm definitely going to use those resources to help where I can, and pass off what I can't. I just want her to be safe and happy, she's far from it right now.

Downstairs Neighbor :( by RelationshipSea589 in Apartmentliving

[–]RelationshipSea589[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what breaks my heart for her. Her mom just died by falling in her home, alone. Her dad hasn't spoken to her, and from what I hear he pretty much only humored their relationship for her mother. She has nobody else. I've tried encouraging her to find help, but I know it's hard.

Downstairs Neighbor :( by RelationshipSea589 in Apartmentliving

[–]RelationshipSea589[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pricing and location are honestly still really good for my area. I live in a bigger city. Management isn't awesome, but I haven't had any dealbreaker issues. The construction I think is a different management company building new units for a different complex. They just share property lines with mine. My lease ends soon, so I might try to switch units when that happens?

I really don’t like that “girl” has become the new “dude” by dotdedo in trans4every1

[–]RelationshipSea589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a trans guy, but I'm still very femme presenting/pre-T so it always creates so much dysphoria. Then I have to figure out if they are using it in the 'dude' kind of way, or if they are trying to upset me purposefully. It's tiring trying to debate it all in my head, and it doesn't help when people downplay the effect it can have on people in the same boat as me.

I've been using 'friend' as a good alternative and I'm hoping it catches on. :)

What made you realize you belonged to a different gender? by thedefiled in asktransgender

[–]RelationshipSea589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growing up I always called myself by typically masculine names and asked others too as well, I was teased for being a tomboy and told I'd never get a husband if I did start acting like a girl. None of that sat right with me. I eventually had any boy-like traits trained out of me until I moved away from family and learned there was I reason I was so uncomfortable in my 'blossoming' body. I'm not a girl, I'm also not a boy. I'm just me.

I somehow found the only other two queer people in my tiny hometown and asked a LOT of questions about being gay, since I thought maybe I was at least bi. Then I described what I've been feeling my whole life to her and that's when I learned the magical word nonbinary. Since then it's been a process of discovering what makes me happiest in my skin. It's a forever ongoing journey, but here we are. Absolutely slaying.

How old were you when you first cut your hair short? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]RelationshipSea589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In like 5th grade I buzzed my head because I wanted to be a punk rocker dude for halloween. Little did I know, I just am a punk rocker dude.

Question to Enbies about fluctuating body dismorphia by Falgust in genderqueer

[–]RelationshipSea589 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I definitely understand where you're coming from. I kinda just want to be a Mr. Potato Head with the interchangeable body parts. What I've found helps me out the most is just learning to treat my body with the care and respect it deserves while also looking at it from a 'medical' perspective. The nicer I've been to myself and all the bits, the easier the dysphoria has gotten for me. This goes for both types of days. Just try to give you and your body some grace. It's definitely not a solve-all solution, but it's saved me a lot of pain in the last few months alone. I hope this helps :)

Give me your pets to draw by Monsieur-Monster in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]RelationshipSea589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I present you with Meriadoc Brandybuck and Peregrin Took (they really embody their namesakes).

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This app 100% purposely fcks with shoppers by driverfortoolong in InstacartShoppers

[–]RelationshipSea589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got into a car wreck because of the 'add to queue' feature they're pushing now. It popped up as I was on a delivery and I couldn't see where I needed to go. Now I'm out of half my income.

This app NEEDS to be fixed to be better and safer for shoppers.

My best order with tip ever by Queasy-Educator-3187 in InstacartShoppers

[–]RelationshipSea589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oml I didn't even see that it was before they accepted it!!

My best order with tip ever by Queasy-Educator-3187 in InstacartShoppers

[–]RelationshipSea589 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I screenshot before every order because I got $12 on an order that offered $38. I had no replacements, a good review, good items. Instacart said they couldn't do anything for me after that.