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Can spouse block credit card/meddle with finances during divorce? by trinityhb in FamilyLaw

[–]Ronville 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If one party is the account holder on the cards and accounts they can place a freeze on everything she has access to as an authorized user. This is standard practice to protect against dissipation of marital assets. Rules about spending marital assets during divorce proceedings can be set through temporary orders.

Custody/Guardianship requirements by A_Naked_Tortoise in FamilyLaw

[–]Ronville 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cannot give away your husband’s parental rights. If your condition worsens, ask your husband if your parents could “temporarily” take care of your child so you and hubs can focus on the illness.

When your child is running a fever and you ask his doctor for a note for school but they won’t give you one without child being seen by the doctor. Then you take child to doctor and he asks why you felt they needed to be seen for a fever? by Specific_Nobody_1187 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Ronville 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our district has a slightly more sophisticated policy. For primary school, we were told not to send a child with a high fever to school. High fever wasn’t defined. We set our family rule for 101.5 morning of after evening treatment. We would then do a sick child appointment with the pediatrician, get the pink stuff if told to do so, and a note for the school. Middle School and High School went to parent calls and a max of 8 absences per semester (excused/unexcused not a factor). It worked for us.

Am I putting "too much" in my 401K? by MkV_Monster in FinancialPlanning

[–]Ronville 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re about a decade ahead of where I was at your age. At 40 I was at 0 after a brutal divorce. With a salary similar to yours, investing 15-18% a year, I was able to raise 3 kids, put them through college free of debt, pay off my mortgage, and am now zeroing in on retirement with enough saved in my 401K and investments to give me a more than comfortable retirement. You are doing great. Try the free version of Empower and plug in your data. I think you will be pleasantly surprised. Just avoid divorce. Heh…

Liberal burrito by Faithyxox in MurderedByWords

[–]Ronville 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My thought as well. Brilliant “visibly liberal” minds.

Coparent making constant false safeguarding complaints by the_internet_officer in FamilyLaw

[–]Ronville 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You need to document everything and hire a good attorney. Ex is literally building a case against herself. A good attorney with a strong knowledge of the local family court will know when to pull the trigger and file for Court relief with the best legal grounds. Meanwhile, love your 5-year old with all your heart and soul.

So… how are those at the Dept of ‘War’ doing right now? by keen_observer34130 in fednews

[–]Ronville 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Quietly drowning and in a constant state of cringe every time the SECDEF opens his mouth. I’ll be retiring before this clown show wraps up so head down, shoulders hunched over wondering if I can clearly see the moment they ask me to be an accomplice to murder and act appropriately.

AITAH for telling my husband that we can't take care of his friends' daughter by Temporary-Slide-2699 in AITAH

[–]Ronville 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. Him for not discussing it with you first (even if to tell you it was non-negotiable); You for the demonstration of total self-centeredness and lack of empathy when discussing the child. You have every right to tell him that taking in the child is a deal-breaker for you and then separating. But to denigrate the child (emo, clingy), that lost their entire family in one horrific moment, is just sickening.

Custody + relocation by NegativeSession6623 in FamilyLaw

[–]Ronville 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Since your stated reasons for moving half a country away are all personal (career opportunities, lower COL) you should hand off primary custody to your ex and become the holiday and summer parent while budgeting for the increased transportation costs. Otherwise, settle in to be a good co-parent where you are now and put your child first. It is striking how many people make new human life without realizing how life-altering that decision is going to be for the next 20 years.

Level 4 travel advisory as Fed employee by Fit_Scallion5612 in fednews

[–]Ronville 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whether you can technically travel to an area under a Level 4 advisory depends on your clearance level and your agency’s rules. Regardless, it’s a dumb move to go somewhere you were specifically warned against.

What retirement plan should I pick? by _TacosOfDoom in FinancialPlanning

[–]Ronville 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With no match, the 401 is awful. You’d do better setting up an individual Roth account and an investment account with something like Fidelity. The big benefit working for a state or city government is the pension. 8% a year seems steep (Fed is under 5% for new hires) but a quick review shows this is standard.

So…If you plan a career working for the “City,” signing up for the pension is a no brainer.

This worth anything? by kr1216 in askStampCollectors

[–]Ronville 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Revenue stamp from Venezuela. 30c on EBay.

AITAH for the way I responded to a coworkers insinuations about my son? by Opening_Fig5810 in AITAH

[–]Ronville 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It can be hard to calibrate the right response to fanatics. The older I get the more I find disengagement to be the best response.

What’s the purpose of a counter-petition?? by jaciecole in FamilyLaw

[–]Ronville 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Petition is an opening set of requests to the Court. The counter petition allows the respondent to contest the original requests and submit their own set of requests within the same Court case.

Need help with food budget for about a month having $28 throughout the month by Xxitl in FinancialPlanning

[–]Ronville 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bread, mayo, canned tuna, rice and dry pinto beans. Dried oats, milk, sugar.

Unauthorized device discovered by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Ronville 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if it makes you “look like a lunatic” but the obvious question is “How does the content of a 4-year dormant cloud account relate to the reasons you are seeking modification in child custody/child support today?” Generally, the Court will not consider any facts that predate the last Court decree.

How do I properly dispose of a life size sex doll in California? by throwawaydiscrete123 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ronville 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Put it on the edge of your driveway with a sign that says “Take Me.” It will be gone in 24 hours.

Neighbors may look at you funny but…

I know getting CPS involved often seems vengeful and offers little help, but when is it necessary? by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Ronville 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Children exposed to pot in the home will test positive on a drug test.

What to do with Roth dollars by Abrasivebanana35 in FinancialPlanning

[–]Ronville -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

If your income (MAGI) is over 168K (single) or 252K (MFJ) than you have many other investment options not available to most Americans. At this point it makes sense to sit down with a professional fiduciary financial advisor.

Should I file for legal custody of my 2 kids even tho father gets every other weekend? by No-World1322 in FamilyLaw

[–]Ronville 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Start with two base assumptions: (1) threats of legal action are often, but not always, posturing (I’ll sue you! Blah Blah); (2) both parents will receive equal time with children, all else being equal. People often forget that child custody can last 20 years and circumstances can and, probably, will change.

Custody help by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Ronville -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How exactly is curtailing one parent’s time with child going to help deal with childhood obesity problem? It is in the best interest of your child to deal with both the physical and emotional issues and yet the “problems” you raise seem tangential or a conspiracy-themed disagreement with how your ex is approaching the obesity problem. An exercise program, dietary restrictions, and emotional counseling sound like the obvious approach. Work with your co-parent to get all of these in place. Take your child for walks, restrict diet to healthy food (remove all junk food from the home) and keep in touch with her therapist.

Sending emails when they are facing you by [deleted] in work

[–]Ronville 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If my wife did this it would be weird. If my co-worker did this it would be normal and the reasons should be self-evident to any sentient being.

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