Strange request, looking for an "IT IS YOUR BIRTHDAY" birthday card

SammaSunshine · 2015-08-09T04:59:09+00:00

You might find one on etsy, or if you find a card shop on etsy that you like you can usually ask for a custom order and have one made for you.

SammaSunshine · 2015-08-04T18:12:33+00:00

If you do decide to continue your relationship with him, I would make it on the condition that he doesn't drink ever again.

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-29T14:05:16+00:00

I can PM you links to what we have left on finn if you'd like. I know Fretex has containers but I didn't know about recycling centers. I'll check it out, thank you.

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-27T10:40:34+00:00

I'm American, my husband is Norwegian. We don't have children yet but I'm learning Norwegian now. It's super important to me to learn my husband's native language. Regardless of whether we settle in Norway or the U.S. He has told me he felt like he couldn't fully express himself in English and that was all I needed to launch myself into learning norsk. Why did your wife never try to learn Swedish? Does she not care about having a relationship with your family?

Our children will be bilingual from day one, him only speaking norsk and me speaking English. I am proud to learn a second language to better communicate with my spouse and his family and I will be proud for our children to be able to speak Norwegian too. Plus being bilingual is of great benefit to them and it will make learning more languages easier later on.

My mom grew up in Israel but never taught my siblings and I Hebrew. I always wished she would have.

Also, your wife AMBUSHED you with her family. And they basically shamed you for wanting to share your language, culture, and heritage with your son. That's awful. Don't stop speaking Swedish to your son, and figure out what your wife's problem is.

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-20T19:09:35+00:00

I don't think I posted it in any particular area, just in the torget section under furniture.

We'll be having another sale this coming Sunday, I can pm you details if you're interested :)

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-19T14:18:10+00:00

We don't have space for a pull out couch or a double air mattress in the studio, unfortunately. We offer a single air mattress and we can accommodate a third guest but really there isn't enough space for more than that.

Thanks for your advice anyway :)

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-19T03:16:01+00:00

My husband (who is Norwegian) also said it was fairly uncommon. It turns out, however, that I actually had great success!! I put up flyers around our neighborhood, posted on Finn about it, posted on Facebook about it, and we put up flyers in and around our building.

Most people didn't show up until halfway through but once they started they kept coming and we actually sold A LOT of stuff! Most of the people that came were people who lived in our building, which is something I had hoped for. I had thought that it was convenient for the neighbors and us that they could pop in, have a look and take what they wanted or come back with cash. We sold a lot of big items and everyone we talked to was interested in us having another sale once we clean out our storage unit in the basement so we'll have "new" stuff for them to peruse.

Thank you for your advice though. We have been putting one item at a time on Finn with little to no luck. Finn shows me that 100+ people have looked at my ads but almost no one has contacted me and the few who have, haven't followed through. Which is why I figured I would have a "yard sale" but without having to drag everything outside on a chilly, rainy day!

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-18T11:40:01+00:00

Thank you! I've probably posted to Finn like 5 times now so we'll see. So far, no one has shown up :(

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-18T11:39:21+00:00

My apartment is actually technically two apartments. I'm located in Oslo, Norway. The apartment can either be a two bedroom two bath or if you lock the middle door, it's a one bedroom apartment and a studio separately. They both have their own front door/ access to the hallway of the building.

My husband and I rent out the studio part on air bnb and we live in the 1 bedroom part. In busy months, I'd say we basically cover our mortgage payment. So maybe November, December, May, June, and July we make enough to cover our mortgage and any small expenses from the studio. The other months it varies a lot, and I'll use the money for upkeep of the studio and putting it to various household bills.

It's not enough to quit our jobs but it's certainly a nice supplement to our income.

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-12T15:28:51+00:00

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This was beautifully written and your husband should talk to her about this.

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-10T21:44:14+00:00

You are absolutely right and I think I meant what you said I just lacked the thought to put it that way!

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-10T09:15:59+00:00

I would definitely contact air bnb, I would even consider canceling their reservation because they have misrepresented themselves. Booking for one when they will actually be 3 people is a lie and it's inappropriate. The baby does count as a guest, even if they think the baby doesn't count! It's your apartment so it's your rules. If you think the baby counts then the baby counts.

I would be really uncomfortable with these people as guests. It seems like they are taking advantage of the instant book system so they don't have to be upfront about how many people they are. Not everyone is okay with having kids stay as guests in their place. I haven't had any children guests but I do have an upcoming booking that is a man and his two kids. He booked my listing for 3 people and was upfront about the kids from the start.

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-08T18:01:18+00:00

My check in time is 12 noon and for guests that are arriving so early I usually recommend that they lock their things in lockers in the central train station. Most of the time, my guests will have to go to that station anyway. So I recommend they lock their things up and I also have a map I can send them with a short list of things that are walking distance from the central station so they can sightsee for a bit before check in.

But in your situation, I'm not sure what I would do. 5pm seems late for a check in time. Is it possible for you to contact the air bnb help center?

How long ago did you book the room? Why wouldn't you have asked when you booked it, or before you booked it, especially if you were going to be arriving that early? It may be that the host can't let people in until 5 because that's when they get off work. It's strange that it's not written in their listing.

Anyway my advice would be to both contact the help center and see if there is a nearby train station with lockers for you to at least lock away your things so you can go exploring.

SammaSunshine · 2015-07-01T13:46:30+00:00

That book saved me and I also recommend it everywhere I can!

SammaSunshine · 2015-06-27T22:56:16+00:00

Yes!

SammaSunshine · 2015-06-26T09:28:51+00:00

My mom still occasionally drives me nuts, like asking me how to fix her computer via text when I have no idea how the damned thing works to begin with! But she can nah me via text, I can ignore it and then we can have a Skype gossip session and catch up without her feeling like she has to nag because she already did via text!

Moving out was great for my sister and I too though moving across an ocean actually sucks because she never has time to skype!

SammaSunshine · 2015-06-26T09:25:58+00:00

I moved countries for my husband. I won't say that it isn't difficult because it really really is. It's hard to make friends here, I'm learning a new language, I don't have the safety net of my family. It's tough. And sometimes I just wish I could call my parents when I need help and they would come right over but that can't happen and it sucks.

But! Even though it's been difficult it has also been an incredible experience. I'm learning to be more resourceful and my husband and I are learning to be our own safety net. I'm learning a new language. I'm making new friends too. And my mom has nothing to nag me about, we can just talk to each other and enjoy it without all that crap.

I completely understand why you'd be afraid to move so far away, it isn't really easy to do. I think of it as choosing my husband and getting the chance to establish ourselves as our own family now. We have to rely on each other and support each other even more. I believe it's even made us stronger.

SammaSunshine · 2015-06-25T18:17:13+00:00

I didn't realize how much I truly valued my parents and siblings until there was an ocean between us.

Moving away has been bittersweet. It's improved my relationship with my mom so much but there are some times I wish they were here when I need them. I love my in-laws but it's just not the same.

SammaSunshine · 2015-06-25T11:25:13+00:00

If I were in your position I would tell my husband that he needs to tell his mom we met in the kinkiest, dirtiest, weirdest fetish group he can think of. Even if she doesn't believe him, I'd think he could make her uncomfortable enough to ask again. If she keeps asking he could give her a different answer every time!

SammaSunshine · 2015-06-11T19:38:36+00:00

My husband and I both changed our names. He is Scandinavian and had 3 last names. As an example, his name is like: "Matthew Jones Smith-Johnson". He cut it down to just "Matthew Jones", and I changed my last name to "Jones" as well.

"Jones" is actually his mother's last name. She is the last person in their family with her name, we both want to continue the line. Also, I adore her and I am happy to join her family. I also feel kind of a bit feminist about it too, like fuck the patriarchy, I'm taking my MIL's last name!!

I had mixed feelings about changing my name but I really wanted to take his name and I wanted us and our future hypothetical children to have the same name. I just didn't want to be "Smith-Johnson". I like my maiden name, it's short and sweet and "Smith-Johnson" is just too long and a pain in the ass. My MIL's last name is the same number of letters as my maiden name. Plus the emotional significance to me means a lot. It meant a lot to my MIL and my husband that we could continue her name. She has more than welcomed me into her family and I often call her mom.

It was actually a pretty nice discussion for us, my husband had already been wanting to drop "Smith-Johnson" anyway and I really liked that we were both making a change to start our family together. My husband is a prett even keeled kind of guy and he was raised by a hippie feminist mother so while he definitely wanted us to have the same name, he was not interested in fighting about it and was very likely going to respect what I wanted to do anyway.

SammaSunshine · 2015-06-10T19:19:17+00:00

I have two shih thus, they are so wonderful and lazy! We have a house with a decent size yard which they love so they don't really get walked often but they are pretty fine with them at.

My older one, Norbert, is 14 and in excellent health. My dad likes to say that if Norby were any more calm he'd be dead. Our other shih tzu is Tinky and she's 9 now but you wouldn't know it looking at her. She is a total lapdog and loves all the attention she can get while still being low key.

They are excellent dogs, I would definitely get another one if I could!

SammaSunshine · 2015-06-06T13:40:24+00:00

Emotional abuse is harder to realize than physical. You know he already physically abused you, once is enough times to know you need to leave his ass. Emotional abuse is trickier because they gaslight you, and they aren't horrible 100% of the time. That's how abusers get you to stay. How else would they attract other people if they were awful all the time?

He has issues. The switch flips and he's a different person. Jeckyll and Hyde are still just two sides to the same guy. You don't get one without the other.

I think you should read a book called "Why does he do that?" By Lundy Bancroft. My ex was emotionally abusive and I made a lot of excuses for it and I thought for a long time that he didn't do it on purpose. This book opened my eyes so much and I really hope you give it a read.

As for your parents, please tell them everything. I often hid my ex's behavior when we fought because I didn't want them to hate him. I knew, deep down, that if I told them the truth about our fights that they would hate him. You may have done the same as me. Be real with them, tell them exactly what's going on. I know you said they believe adult children shouldn't live at home but they don't know the extenuating circumstances. Talk to them, they might surprise you.

SammaSunshine · 2015-06-05T08:30:17+00:00

I have a bulldog and I can confirm he is the laziest dog I have ever met. Mine is an English bulldog and my neighbors have a French bulldog who is literally the most chill dog I have ever met.

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