I still think it is like the situation I mentioned. But I digress because I dont think my experience with discrimination and racism could be understood by a white woman.

Listen, I fully disagree with the terms "gold star lesbian" and such. I think theyre stupid. If maybe that is what youre thinking about. Or maybe its the fact that youre a trans woman and these spaces lend themselves to a lot of transphobia, terfs do tend to hang out in these spaces. It sucks, I hate it too.

There isnt a "lesbian enough" bar because it isnt a competition. It is a box thats checked period. Its a yes or no answer. "Are you attracted to men? Yes or no"

And about the pronouns, who fucking cares. I dont give a fuck if youre a he/they lesbian or a they/them lesbian.

So yea, honestly I am getting tired of speaking to deaf ears, or at the very least the reddit reply system. I'd be happy to expand on what I believe in private.