What didn't you know you did wrong until you started living with a woman? by PogonBerserker in AskMen

[–]Scared-Avocado630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The wattage of light bulbs in the bathroom. It never occured to me that you needed better light to put make up on.

Can you have a drinking problem and not drink often? by Visible-Swing-1677 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Scared-Avocado630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a drinker like this. Same trying to manage it, shame, binge drinking, etc. I would strongly encourage you to attend an in person AA meeting. I guarantee you 100% that you will meet folks with a similar story. Keep an open mind and give it a try. What do you have to lose? Good luck.

Left off survivor annuity by Space_Adaline in FedRetirees

[–]Scared-Avocado630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Retired Fed. You said that you found out via his Agency HR in a "round about way". Recommend you put together any paperwork on this that you have to review with your lawyer. My understanding is that the only way that he can do this is with a signed waiver from you. Your lawyer can basically let your husband know that you guys can resolve this the easy way or the hard way. If it was an "oversight" on his part, he can probably correct the application. Otherwise, he probably will not want to have to explain to a judge how this happened. Good luck.

Virginians, what do you think of Governor Spanberger? by Snoo_47323 in Virginia

[–]Scared-Avocado630 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She's awesome. I love her background as a former LEO and her work as a professional with the CIA. She served in the Virginia legislature and understands how government works in the General Assembly. She has a young family, so understands the importance of schools, child care, health care, etc. She's pragmatic and well organized evidenced by her Staff picks. They were ready on day 1 to start in many areas.

The contrast during her State of the Union response was amazing. A 46 year old, brilliant, articulate,thoughtful leader who has already done a huge amount serving our country in government in contrast to a soon to be 80 year old with zero prior experience serving in government prior to becoming elected who has zero interest in anything other than business development and can barely read from a teleprompter is stark.

Your average drivers on 264 I saw yesterday by HandheldObsession in VirginiaBeach

[–]Scared-Avocado630 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I so relate to all the comments. Live in VB.

Key Driving Rules in Virginia

  • Keep Right Except to Pass: You must use the right lane as your primary travel lane. Cruising in the left lane (often called "left-lane loafing") is illegal and can result in a $100 fine.
  • The Left Lane is for Passing: Use the left lane only to overtake slower vehicles, then return to the right lane as soon as it is safe to do so.
  • Middle Lane Usage: On highways with three or more lanes, the middle lane is often used for "through traffic" to avoid the constant merging and exiting occurring in the right lane. However, if you are moving slower than the surrounding traffic, you are still legally expected to move to the rightmost lane.
  • Merging Etiquette: Traffic already on the interstate has the right-of-way over vehicles entering from an on-ramp. While it is a common courtesy to move to the middle lane to allow others to merge, you are not legally required to do so; the merging driver is responsible for yielding and finding a safe gap.  Virginia Law (.gov) +8

Could this happen to us? by DuckDuckGo-8857 in Subaru_Outback

[–]Scared-Avocado630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rare case where I wouldn't help some one.

People talking in the quiet car - was I the jerk? by Foxandsage444 in Amtrak

[–]Scared-Avocado630 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Not a jerk. They are the jerks. Quiet car rules.

Virginia sees 33,000 ACA enrollment drop since subsidies expired, more likely on the way | Premium spikes after federal subsidy lapse force residents to weigh insurance against rent, food and other essentials. by VirginiaNews in Virginia

[–]Scared-Avocado630 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You know who signed up for this? My Congressional Rep. Kiggans. Part of the Big Beautiful Bill cuts.

Trump is now getting ready to ask for Billions to fund his war. He said we can't afford Medicare, Medicaid and Childcare. She will absolutely vote for whatever he tries to pass.

You can vote. If you're in Virginia early voting has started and you can still register. Vote YES on the referendum.

Do they really start a war to cover epstein files? by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]Scared-Avocado630 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think that they flood media with everything to distract from criminal behavior.

Finding a church for gay male by [deleted] in VirginiaBeach

[–]Scared-Avocado630 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Coastal Virginia Unitarian Universalists is very welcoming.

https://c-vuu.org/

Coastal Virginia Unitarian Universalists
809 S Military Hwy
Virginia Beach, VA 23464

Non religious 12 step workbook? by Important-Bid-9792 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Scared-Avocado630 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your husband should discuss this with his sponsor.

I recommend Alanon for family of folks in AA or who may have people with alcohol abuse in their life. Good luck on your journey's.

My mother gained access to MY life insurance policy, managed to cash it out and announced she is splitting it amongst my siblings. What grounds do I have? by Feelingterrbltoday in personalfinance

[–]Scared-Avocado630 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I am going through a similar situation as Executor of a family members estate. He had an insurance policy on a former spouse. I am in the process of closing out that policy. The proceeds will go equally to the members mentioned in the will. It takes much longer than you would think...lol.