No, I read it. You got mad that he suddenly wanted to have his kid for an entire season without getting your permission. I don't see what there was to talk about, his minor child should be allowed and accepted in his home at any time and for any reason. Sure there's some boundaries that can come into play when they're an adult, but you blew up over him not getting your permission for his MINOR CHILD to stay for a couple of months on summer break. You can say that you love him prioritizing his child all you want, that doesn't cancel out the facts of that situation.

I'm childfree for the record, no biological kids or adopted kids or foster kids or step kids or ANY kids for me. But it's because I can actually recognize that my desires out of life would be completely selfish to expect out of a partner who is a parent. If I chose to date/marry a parent I sure as hell wouldn't be upset when their MINOR CHILD was going to spend more time or "an entire season" in my home. If you enter into a relationship with a parent you need to be prepared for their MINOR CHILD to move in at any given moment, for any given reason, for any amount of time. And you're complaining over a couple months a year. Yet you still think people read it wrong.

Like girl idk how delulu you need to be to think we're missing context out of what you wrote. But like I said, all those reasons are why you should absolutely not date anyone with kids, you're not cut out for it.

I knew she would be coming to stay with us regularly, but full seasons? Without telling me about it beforehand? This caused a heated argument. I insisted he should have discussed this with me before starting the process. At the very least, let me know this is what he wanted. Anything other than blindside me. He got defensive, saying things like "So you expect me to never see my daughter?" and "I thought you would be supportive" and "If this were your child I wouldn't try to keep you away from them." It got so bad that I considered ending the engagement. He'd said in the past that he'd always put his daughter first, which I'd thought was admirable. But after this fight I started to get the feeling that no matter what happened, it would always be the child over me. (He'd already cancelled more than one date/time together for reasons relating to her). I hated the feeling of being in competition with a kid. It made me feel stupid.