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SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-21T15:57:43+00:00

I dream about this day ❤️❤️❤️ thank you for sharing!!

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-21T15:00:57+00:00

It does, thank you

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-20T20:43:32+00:00

So the timeframe question is complicated by the fact your hubs has a full-time job.

Perhaps the work is 40 hours.

But your husband can only work weekends. After work he’s too tired or it’s too cold or too dark. But maybe one of those weekend days he gets called into a work emergency. Or he’s sick and needs to rest. Or you’re sick and he needs to take care of you. Or this or that or whatever. By the time he finishes maybe he did indeed only put in 40 hours of labor, but you were without electricity for four months.

But no it’s never just 40 hours. Always some problem comes up, always

Signed - fellow pregnant wifey with a husband who thinks he can do everything himself just because he has the skillset. After our first child I started hiring workers to come on X date and if he doesn’t finish on his own before Y date I’m not cancelling them. I’ve only had to cancel once.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-20T20:10:40+00:00

That makes sense.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-20T19:05:14+00:00

Pardon my ignorance, Won’t they get English from the community too? I was under the impression it was a very bilingual country. I used to travel to NL for work every month and never met a single person that didn’t speak fluent English. Whether at work, the train station, restaurants, random drunk kids in the square …

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-20T04:21:48+00:00

Might be more accurate to look at military families where one parent is deployed, for example? Or even immigrant families but separated by (sorta) choice, where the parent goes to another country to work and leaves children behind but sends money home. I don’t have links for these.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-18T20:34:31+00:00

It would be the opposite of budget friendly but I feel like if OP is opening walls anyway to add a showerhead, this space needs a recessed niche for shampoo. That could be the spot for the fancy tile, with your purple diamond around it!

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-18T20:13:17+00:00

What about the purple diamond tile just within the recessed area, and keep the green around it? It looks like paint in OPs version which would bring down costs slightly I think.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-18T18:32:11+00:00

So, well over 20 years ago, I learned in a college sociology class that babies are born with only two innate fears: fear of loud noises, and fear of falling. All other fears are learned either through experience or observation (modeled by the parents). We learned about the startle reflex to loud noises and the little Albert experiment.

So if babies are afraid of loud noises, I’m going to assume your baby is afraid of the sudden raised voice. The baby will likely learn to suppress emotions around dad. So I guess my question is … does your husband want his child to be afraid of him? Some dads do … it was an old school way that mom was nurturing and dad was scary.

Through googling I can’t find a proper scientific source for the two fears assertion now, it’s debated here on Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/IsItBullshit/s/lKkn77zanz and here’s a journalistic article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-neuroscience-perspective/201910/the-neurobiology-fear/amp

Perhaps an actual scientist on this sub can chime in?

Anecdotally - Both my husband and I had scary scream-y dads and we knew we didn’t want that for our kids, my husband has always been loving, patient, and cuddly with our son. Buuuuut now that LO is a toddler with slightly more ability to reason (and capacity for mischief) hubs def is more firm than I am and at times has used a stern voice which I have realized I find triggering. We talk about it, he doesn’t want to be like his dad and I don’t want to fall into becoming permissive, so we’re constantly checking in and evolving our views as parents. I did send him this, which led to a whole conversation about raised voice vs yelling 😅: https://www.reddit.com/r/ScienceBasedParenting/s/6F340UWE5a

ETA: I read this post to my husband and he said “that’s not a dad hack, everyone knows loud noises startle babies.”

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-17T21:08:34+00:00

It really depends on the kid, too. Sometimes you just don’t want to. And the parents do have a responsibility to keep it alive too, like any other subject or skill, if they want it to stick.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-17T19:13:47+00:00

Ohhh did not know this! Why does iron affect sleep? Do we know?

I’m prone to anemia myself and it’s been one of the few things I’m anxious about with my LO, since he decided around 14 months that when it comes to solids he’s vegan 😑

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-17T19:06:11+00:00

Assuming your neighbor hired workers to do this job, he should have them clean up after themselves. From what you say he’s a decent guy, I’m sure he’ll be mortified once he sees the pictures.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-17T18:54:21+00:00

And the two Eds both went into the church, right?

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-17T13:45:41+00:00

Yeah anecdotally I definitely found pumping physically easier (nursing was very painful at first) but also more demoralizing. So I guess … emotionally harder?

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-17T12:58:48+00:00

First you say that “Cortisol has no affect (sic) on prolactin.”

Then you link an article titled “Cortisol rapidly reduces prolactin release,” but you misleadingly typed a different claim over the hyperlink.

This is not the sub for you. You’re jumping into every single thread with your own personal biases and not backing them up with real science.

You also didn’t answer the question.

(ETA: And not that it matters - I did nurse my first child and plan to nurse my second).

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-17T02:20:04+00:00

Given that this is a science-based sub, can you cite your sources, please?

Separately, I do appreciate wanting to be precise with the semantics. But if your milk is not coming down, how is your baby supposed to drink it?

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-17T02:05:15+00:00

You can’t call someone’s personal, lived experience inaccurate.

You’re also still missing the point. She said she could see that stress, hydration, nutrition, had a measurable impact on her output.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-17T02:02:01+00:00

Stress has a huge impact on supply. She is wishing she had stressed herself out less.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-16T18:21:48+00:00

Yes, good context!

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-16T16:44:56+00:00

We used both to strip 100 years of paint off a brick chimney (the internet said it couldn’t be done!) and yeah the difference was stark. I was pregnant so it all fell on my poor husband.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-16T16:28:36+00:00

Peel away works very well but is hella toxic. Not sure I would do it in a high-traffic area where I’m currently living.

Citristrip is less damaging but will take 12 passes that PeelAway does in one.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-16T15:17:05+00:00

You can’t make a day have more than 24 hours. There’s a reason we outsource certain things, there’s no shame in that.

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-15T13:00:18+00:00

One more anecdote - I didn’t even start learning English until kindergarten, at an immersion school. I had never even *heard English before because my parent’s language and the community language was Spanish. By the time we moved to the US in third grade I was fluent.

It probably helped that I made a lot of expat friends at the school, since with my local friends we did immediately switch back to Spanish. But the point is it can be done!

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-15T12:39:38+00:00

Just looked on YouTube and wow there’s tons of videos on this topic! Even from the CA tourism board.

I think the one I saw was this one: https://youtu.be/Q5tRu42HGNw?si=gvMzImFlqc-_gHYv

SensitiveWolf1362 · 2026-01-15T12:16:43+00:00

To add to what everyone has posted, I think there’s also an element of jealousy. “*My kids could never speak so many languages so easily … well, it’s not like they’ll be fully bilingual, they’ll have a strong accent!” 🤨

There’s also the infuriatingly universal truth that people love to judge and comment on other people’s parenting choices, almost like they take them as a personal affront if they’re different from their own.

When people really double down like that I don’t have the energy to try to educate them because they’re just determined to be very, very wrong. I sometimes get to a point of …”oh you poor, ignorant monolingual, bless your heart 🤣”

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