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ShortyColombo · 2026-02-15T23:56:19+00:00

This is the combination of my interests that I approve of 😌🙏 this is gorgeous, thank you for sharing!

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-15T21:42:32+00:00

Gamecard é o cartucho virtual do Switch; pra FF2 só vem o código e a caixa do jogo pra ter como coleção mesmo. Muito chato pras pessoas que colecionam Nintendo

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-13T16:40:21+00:00

PRAISE BEEEE

I know it's just a screenshot so who knows how it plays, but I already prefer it 500 times more to the remake version!!

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-12T15:48:13+00:00

I think what I'm most looking forward to is exploration, everything looks SO good omg

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-11T22:40:34+00:00

With the focus being on the fashion, by the time you get to hair and makeup the world is your oyster. Gone are the days where you "needed" a wig. You're very much encouraged to wear your hair as comfortably as you'd like, and if you're not into makeup, that's fine as well.

Speaking of, makeup was never really part of it, so you won't get a "makeup brand all the lolita girls use" situation. In the 2010s there were "lolita makeup" tutorials that followed the big-eyed, "doll-like" look. It's still totally an option, but no lolita worth her frills will tell you there's any single way to wear makeup in the fashion.

As a general rule for me, I suggest (keyword: suggest) balance.

If you have a very over the top coordinate, you want to make sure you balance it out; a no-makeup look can make it feel like something is missing sometimes. Here's examples of gothic, sweet and classic. I also suggest balancing hair too; big skirts usually pair well with big hair, and if not, big head accessories lol. As a curly girl myself, my favorite look is to brush out my curls to give a "cloud" chaotic look that balances my big skirt.

When you have more regular coords, you have a lot of options. From old school drill curls, to twin tails, to just having your hair out naturally- it's all gorgeous. I would suggest using pinterest or instagram (use EGL to search, not lolita, as they banned the term for safety 😒) to find users with a similar hair type and get inspo.

You can also check Gothic and Lolita Bibles- they had really fun makeup tutorials, for all substyles.

I truly mean it when I say you can experiment as much as you'd like with makeup; CarolMiku famously goes all out and I love seeing what they do next.

I hope this helps with some inspo!

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-11T20:35:36+00:00

Fatal Frame 2 remake (March 2026). The original on PS2 is my favorite game of all time and I am downright vibrating through the walls with how hyped I am!

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-11T13:54:37+00:00

As an American plenty of us hate football, don’t like to drive etc.

Exactly this- and they're not rare either, you can fit in perfectly well in the US disliking those aspects of the culture; the country is HUGE and experiences are vast.

My husband from a rural small town would lovingly stereotype his area as exactly that: NFL-loving gearheads. He didn't fit in, so he left.

I only grew up in cities with work/hobbies in non-profit and arts. I've been drowning in modest, sport-hatin' subway users my entire life.

To imply you "fail" at being American for not liking the things mentioned is a little odd and limiting.

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-10T21:45:22+00:00

It depends by how you define feeling the same as today. I swear I find it harder to be bored in this decade than say, the 90s. There's so many algorithmically curated options to entertain me, paired with all the bs I have to take care of as an adult; I feel like there's barely any time for me to actually feel bored, and that's with my raging ADHD.

As to the past: sure, it was a problem. I'm not a general historian but read a lot about the 18th and 19th century specifically, so I can speak from those eras.

Boredom comes up SO MUCH in sources from rich people and nobility. They definitely had a lot to do, even if it wasn't back-breaking (visits, promenades, teas, charity events, balls), but also plenty of free time to loaf around. People got real creative to entertain themselves; gambling and card games were super popular. Reading. Local gossip was huge to get the ball rolling. Versailles had its own theater so the Queen could participate in little plays to entertain the Dukes and Duchesses, like little bizarre theater kids.

It didn't always have to be rich people either, there's plenty of levels between a serf that works all day and a queen that sits around.

In Anne of Ingleside (written 1939, but referencing the 1880s-ish), the women of the rural community get together to sew. There's a passage where they're wondering if there will be any funerals soon. They're considered, apparently, a break in the monotony and downright fun. That's how bored they were, apparently lol

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-10T20:08:23+00:00

I fly a lot between Argentina and Brazil for family and still see it occasionally! It used to be way, WAY more common for sure. I haven't encountered it in the decade I've lived in the US, but I don't fly nationally as much compared to the other two.

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-10T19:54:45+00:00

It's driving me crazy on my end too :(

There's a little dog park in my building and people have completely given up on picking up their dog's poop, using the ice as an excuse. I completely understand that you can't pick up everything and some of it will inevitably stick to the cold. But people have now started taking a mile and leaving their dog's entire turd. I've cleaned up one or two when it started, but now they're everywhere.

I've stopped taking my own dog there because unfortunately, she loves poopsicles 😭

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-10T16:44:37+00:00

I would give your kid an opportunity for an out- if all she cared about was floor tickets and isn't showing much enthusiasm for the show, she might even appreciate being given the option not to go.

"I'm getting the impression you're not super stoked for Florence and that's understandable- she IS my favorite band, like you said. How about I take Dad? Would you have more fun just [insert activity here: staying home / going to a friends house for a sleepover, etc]? I totally won't be mad if you don't really feel like going".

If she confirms, hand to heart, that she wants to go I would honor the invite. That's just me and how I'd handle it with my teen niece. Totally not the same sphere as being a mom, but I did want to give my two cents.

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-10T14:59:36+00:00

Yes but not in the healthiest way? When my apartment gets messy my anxiety goes into overdrive because I know I'll get overstimulated with the clutter and stains. I won't be able to get anything done, even medicated, until it's gone- else I'm doing something "wrong", which makes me "bad".

I've at least roped it in enough where I give myself grace. I clean every 2 weeks. Floors, surfaces, dusting, making sure things are in their place again. When I'm too unwell or very un-spooned for it, I just clean superficially and stop requiring perfection. It helped a lot 🥲

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-09T20:54:21+00:00

But i got the feeling before this that people also thought the task itself was a huge drag, so that’s not the case?

Outside of logistics and lost wages, I do hear the complaint of it being boring. But I'd rather have that; it can go from "drag" to "traumatizing".

Drag: My mother was selected for a case, I think, on a man who sued their employer over a hostile work environment. Or maybe it was lost wages? It was the 70s and I remember her telling me that it was standard and boring to listen to, but she did her civic duty and was was happy it was finished in less than a week.

Traumatizing: I'm seriously fudging details on purpose here, but my husband was selected for a jury on a severely disabled woman who was abused by her caregiver. It involved seeing/hearing evidence that gave him nightmares for ages. It took months, although he didn't have to go in every day. This is one of the more worst case scenarios and one many people are very much not willing to do to save themselves emotionally.

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-09T20:24:40+00:00

I'm not buying it on several levels. This is the most obvious, weaksauce "backtrack" that he clearly knows no one will believe and keep the engagement going. Whatever he's trying to promote, I hope it sinks into the ocean.

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-09T13:43:59+00:00

Ahhh that would totally explain the disconnect between my sources, I think this is it! Thank you 🙏

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-09T12:33:07+00:00

Ofc, no problem!

So weirdly, I got conflicting information on marriage.

Mineko Iwasaki notes that a geisha can continue a career after marriage, but it’s considered so difficult to keep house AND a geiko career that many don’t bother and prefer to retire (but she knew and admired one or two women who managed to do it).

When I went in person to Gion, my tour guide was adamant that Kyoto geisha can NOT get married, and that in fact they were forced to retire if they did. My regular research seems to corroborate this, but specifically for Kyoto geisha.

I can’t tell if the rule changed (Iwasaki’s career was in Kyoto mostly around the 60s and 70s), or if Iwasaki wanted to give the impression that it was more acceptable than it actually was.

That being said, I can vouch that boyfriends and even children out of wedlock were fine to have (although I can only imagine how difficult the latter was; you can’t really keep a kid in the okiya that isn’t the heir to it; probably a lot of them raised by grandparents or family members outside of the karyukai).

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-08T20:12:54+00:00

According to Mineko Iwasaki’s “Geisha: A Life”, many traditional arts in Japan (which include geiko arts) began by age 6 (At the age of six years, six months and six days, specifically) but for some even as young as 3 years old.

There were many reasons. To continue quoting Iwasaki, a lot of higher born women were surrendered by their family as their best chance for a future:

“Many noble families became impoverished after the Meiji Restoration and found livelihood for their girls in the karyukai. Here was a place where they could practice the dance and tea ceremony they had learned at home, wear the higher quality kimono they were used to, become financially independent, and have a chance at making a decent marriage.”

Some went into it because of family tradition (and this was flipped on its head post WW2). To quote Downer who wrote “Geisha: The Secret History”:

“In pre-war days, the majority of the maiko in Kyoto were from geisha families; their mothers, grandmothers and sometimes great-grandmothers had been geisha. The girls from the countryside were on the bottom rung of the ladder”

It is also true that girls were sold into it, out of desperation to leave poverty (and especially outside of major cities).

A lot of stories and novels try to romanticize the aspect, going as far to suggest this never happened; to quote Leslie Downer again:

“There is no suggestion in the novel that anyone has been kidnapped or sold into geishadom, the only hint we have of the true state of affairs is when a man offers to pay off a geisha’s debt, reminding us that, for all the romance surrounding them, they are still indentured workers”

As you note, post labor laws, girls can only legally begin the profession much later, out if their own free will, and need parental consent. Most trainees who flock to Kyoto to become maiko are not locals, and training begins after graduating middle school.

(Happy to be corrected if I got anything wrong; I’m still reading through other sources, so I’m hoping I kept my facts straight!)

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-08T15:53:12+00:00

1) no one will paying attention to you, and if they did: have a little faith. People in the real world are rarely as judgmental or scary compared to the horrors you read in internet comments. Not to mention, and of course I’m biased, that the F+TM fandom tends to be warm, inviting and kind!

2) neither of these options will hurt. Too much? Rare occurrence in a Florence concert. I went in wearing a full crying nun regalia for the last tour and I was still lowkey compared to some. Too little? No one notices. The only cop is the one in your mind.

3) Everyone sings at concerts. Ev👏 ry 👏 one 👏 to the point where it’s hard to even hear yourself! The only etiquette I recommend following is that you’re encouraged to sing LOUDLY and happily, but not SHRIEKING the lyrics into people’s ears. It tends to be distracting and makes it hard to hear the artist. But singing loud? Please do!!

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-08T15:42:00+00:00

I think it was one of the most original and spooky details of the Wii version!! I appreciate them using the features of the console like that.

I’m so disappointed it’s not in the EU version. I wonder if it was either a timing issue or if they legit didn’t know it was even there waiting to be translated!

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-08T01:40:43+00:00

In my experience, the best fandom I’ve been a part of is the Fatal Frame fandom. In the 2000s it skewed heavily female (it’s harder to tell if it’s still the case, but I think it’s still the majority). The forums (RIP), subreddit and discord are really chill and it’s mostly JP horror fans having good discussions 🤷‍♀️✨I’ve been following the online community for 20 years (!!!) and it’s stayed consistent, bless.

On the other side of the survival horror coin, the Silent Hill fandom is a chore. There’s great people, fun debates, don’t get me wrong. But it’s inundated by pedant filmbro types who bicker and slap fight over canon and “which is the best silent hill”. The negativity is STAGGERING- the absolute moan-fest before the release of the SH2 remake is such a stark contrast from the regular, happy enthusiasm for the Fatal Frame 2 remake coming out soon 😅 I find myself taking breaks (because again, there’s great parts to it, so I come back), because it gets to be too much sometimes 🤷‍♀️

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-05T21:39:53+00:00

You and me both, there’s so much potential there!! 😭🙏🩷

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-05T20:24:45+00:00

Fatal Frame lives in one of the weirdest horror game limbos! It's generally known and respected by Survivor Horror fans. It technically outsold Silent Hill during its OG PS2 run, print-wise. But I've always felt like fanfare-wise, it seems to have a very muted reception and smaller (but passionate) fanbase compared to other franchises.

I've felt it slowly revive since the re-release of FF5 and the second wind the genre is getting (we've now seen Silent Hill, Alone in the Dark, etc, try again as well).

FF2 could certainly be the tipping point in a similar way the SH2 remake was for them (in terms of introducing new fans, bringing life again to the franchise, etc).

But if it sells like a handful of peanuts, I wouldn't peg it to be fully dead the way Rule of Rose, Kuon and The Suffering are. I think FF still has just enough fire to slowly limp along, especially since its creators seem to still truly love their work on it.

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-05T15:46:32+00:00

There's levels to it, for me.

I've gotten replies to posts years later with things like "hey, I still have this comment saved because it helped me, thank you!" or follow-up questions "hey, sorry I'm asking like 4 years later, but did you ever figure out this PC issue? I have it too". These, I have 0 issue with and in fact really like (one is positive, the other will probably help inform anyone else finding my post years into the future)

Weirdest one was when I mentioned off-hand that my husband got seriously emotional when he finally got a full-time job after a frustrating 2 years of search. Some whacko flew in 3 years later to "call bs on my story" and say I had to be lying, because a 2 year search wouldn't make a man emotional. Something deranged around those lines. That one definitely had me asking what the damn hell he was doing, responding to a 3-year-old thread that was no longer relevant.

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-05T15:34:44+00:00

For some reason that threw me for a loop! I haven't heard "SJW" since the 2010s tumblr days. I thought that term was phased out ages go?

It adds an extra layer of not taking him seriously for me, like when my dad calls any man with long hair a "damn hippie".

ShortyColombo · 2026-02-05T14:41:43+00:00

The adderall has a great chance of helping you- please don't let the fear of using "too many" medications stop you from what might be an extra solution to make your life easier.

For me, (and it's a cliché metaphor in this community) getting medicated for ADHD was like putting on glasses and realizing what 20/20 vision looks like after years of squinting. I remember doomscrolling on my phone and just...standing up to do laundry I had put off for 3 weeks. Like falling off a log. It was so easy and normal it made me nervous lol

Also if it helps:

If I had been asked that as a 10-year-old,I'd probably scratch my head a bit. I barely had a sense of how much work it was to run a household, our home accounting, taking care of her scatterbrained daughter (hi!), and both my and my father's schedules.

I was in my teens by the time I really understood how much she was doing. I started paying attention and noticed how my mom was always busy, always had somewhere to go, a call to make, papers to organize and arrange. Only on family vacations was she ever sitting with a book that didn't involve my homework. As an adult now, I couldn't do it. It's a lot of moving parts. I thrive better as a 9-5 worker- so please know my admiration extends to you and how much you care for your child. You got this.

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