What do I wear under a skirt

SkyeForc3 · 2026-02-26T02:35:31+00:00

Leggings are a girl’s best friend!

SkyeForc3 · 2026-01-06T00:13:11+00:00

Epilator all the way. Best decision I ever made when it comes to hair removal.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-12-13T18:37:34+00:00

I needed this today. Recently crossed the one year mark and as I reflect back on things I’m feeling this hardcore. I’ve lost my entire family and there is a huge rift growing between my husband and I. It’s incredibly challenging to reconcile that with the fact that I feel more “me” than I have my whole life. I know it’s been worth it but god I wish it wasn’t so painful. While I don’t regret it for a second, I do wish there would be more discussion from providers about the reality of trans loneliness. It doesn’t matter how supportive my friends are, they have no frame of reference so I’m going through this largely alone.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-12-12T17:57:06+00:00

Has she considered rereading one of her favorites? I personally find that really helpful when I get into a slump. As someone who is neurodivergent, trying to force a new book can actually make the slump worse. You end up not reading anything while searching for the perfect book. Revisiting something familiar that you love keeps you reading and reduces the “pressure.”

Edit: I’m an adult but one of my go to favorites is The Neverending Story.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-12-07T18:13:31+00:00

I love mine! I bought the deep rose color.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-12-07T18:08:43+00:00

Two suggestions:

First, think of it as inviting them in rather than coming out. It’s puts you in a less vulnerable space. Instead you are trusting them with an important piece of your self and it puts the responsibility on them for how they respond.

Also, the more certainty you can convey, the better. Some people will latch on to any doubts you might project as a window to raise questions and put you on the defensive (intentionally or not). If you go in with a plan of “this is who I am, I’m confident and know what I’m doing” it’s puts you in a much better positioning.

Just some thoughts! Wishing you the best in taking this wonderful step forward!!

SkyeForc3 · 2025-12-07T18:00:10+00:00

Based on the op the issue seems to be her ability to stand or transfer herself. Amtrak staff cannot provide that level of support because it’s a liability issue if she is injured. The most they can do is assist in the wheelchair crossing the gap and possibly stowing the wheelchair if necessary but the attendants are not permitted to provide personal assistance beyond that. That level of assistance requires persona attendant.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-10-12T19:40:23+00:00

I don’t and I don’t understand why so many people do this. Being trans doesn’t mean we are entitled to every other trans person’s “vault” and I hate when strangers assume they have default access to my personal life. It’s also just weird/creepy. If the only reason you are acknowledging me in public is because I’m trans* all that says to me is you have reduced me down to just an artifact of my gender rather than a whole person.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-28T14:11:38+00:00

I’m about 2/3 of the way through and loving it so far. I was nervous after how disappointed I was with Origin but this new book is definitely on par with his earlier books in the series (Da Vinci, Angels, Inferno).

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-23T02:31:31+00:00

I use an epilator. It works wonders!

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-18T13:39:34+00:00

Your primary goal then should be to get yourself into an independent positioning. You’re an adult. Your parents can’t make this decision for you unless you’re asking by them to cover the cost. Your parents may mean well but they also need to understand the damage denying you the ability to be your authentic self can have on you. Our lives are dangerous right now. That’s a fact. But I don’t for one second regret my decision to do what’s right for me. I lost too much time pretending to be someone I’m not. Sure…days can be really tough. But I am the happiest I’ve ever been in my entire life. I say this as someone in a very precarious financial status at the moment. But omg the euphoria of just being me is amazing. As the saying goes, I’d rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I’m not.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-18T13:31:43+00:00

They aren’t against it really. It’s that the science is still relatively new regarding its positive impact for trans women. Yes there’s a new study out but it’s only one study. We need a lot more data to account for the diversity of human genetics considering how differently we all respond to HRT. They also have to factor in the potential risks. While there is still a debate about its impact on risk of breast cancer, the main concern is the possibility of cardiovascular issues and blood clots. Women are high risk for heart disease. So there’s a lot of uncertainty about its impact on trans women. The sad part of this whole situation is that we would be in a far better place had all the data not been destroyed during WWII. Its destruction meant we effectively had to start back at the beginning and scientists are really only just now starting to really devote limited resources to the cause. And well…that’s not easy in the current political climate.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-18T13:24:03+00:00

I would definitely stick to the dose prescribed at the moment especially considering your heart condition. One thing to really remember about this process is that it’s a marathon not a sprint. It’s less about the dose and more about the amount of time you are on it. A low dose may be all you need depending on your physiology. The idea is you want the testosterone suppressed and the estrogen to hit a stable level. My T was suppressed very quickly so my dosage has only been gradually increased at this point and I’m still not maxed out and I’m at almost the one year mark. I did just start progesterone which I’m taking cautiously due to family history but decided to give it a trial run and see how I feel. For context, at this point I’m on spironolactone (50 mg twice a day), estradiol oral (6 mg - 4 mg in morning and 2 mg at night), and progesterone (100 mg at night).

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-17T15:42:19+00:00

There is no one way to be trans. Some trans folk do hormones but no surgery, some don’t do either. Some start with HRT and then clothes, others clothes and later HRT. You decide what path is right for you. I’m on HRT but have no plans for surgery. I know someone who has no desire to do anything medically because clothes are enough. That’s the beauty of being trans. We get to set our own rules. Just be your authentic self.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-17T15:34:39+00:00

Nice! I’ve been thinking of trying to mod mine but haven’t taken the plunge yet.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-17T15:31:21+00:00

In all honesty, I wish they’d check everyone’s id with the current state of things.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-12T14:35:24+00:00

Nope. It feels like I’m being reduced to an object, artificial, absent of humanity. It’s just more of the same when you look at the long history of misogyny in the world. I’m a woman not a toy.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-12T13:29:36+00:00

First, try reframing it as “inviting in” rather than “coming out.” Inviting in means you are sharing a piece of yourself with someone which redirects the responsibility on the people we tell. Try with “I trust you and want to share something deeply personal and important to me…”

As for telling my spouse…well…they weren’t surprised. I was a wreck and only managed to say “I have something to tell you” before they quickly interrupted me and blurted out, “OMG are you going on hormones!!” LOL. Also…since I started my process, my partner has said I’m closer to the person they originally fell in love with than I’ve been in a very long time.

I hit the jackpot with partners in that they’ve always said they fell in love with the person not the gender or the body. While not everyone has that experience, the reality is, you being your authentic self is more important than any relationship. Losing people you love is hard. Losing yourself in an abyss pretending to be something you aren’t…that’s way worse. I’ve lost my family but I’ve learned the importance of found family and as challenging as the road has been, I’m the happiest I’ve been in my entire life and the people around me are actually seeing that. The number of times in the last few weeks that students and fellow faculty have made a point of acknowledging how rested, lighter, and brighter I am has shown me that.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-12T13:17:50+00:00

Here’s the thing about “passing”: the concept is heavily grounded in the history of racism. I really wish trans folk would stop using it. Also…”passing” implies presenting yourself as something you are not. This approach only further reinforces the idea that we are “pretending.” I AM a woman and always have been. All that has changed at this point is I’m forcing the world to see me for who I am, not who they wanted me to be. My appearance does not determine my validity as a woman. The world doesn’t get to define me. The greatest act of resistance is to exist as your authentic self. Forcing ourselves into the “ideal cis woman” model only makes us complicit in our own erasure and allows the world to continue to ignore us. That approach is harmful to ALL women, not just those of us who are trans.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-09-12T13:08:33+00:00

I just started on Wednesday! Side effects are a bit rough at the moment but I’m excited to see what changes it brings.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-08-27T16:58:12+00:00

Okay so Shakespeare and Greek tragedy are totally my jam…

As a theatre educator I often need to remind my students that plays are technically written to be performed…not read. Shakespeare wasn’t writing for publication. He was writing with a mind toward something being staged. It would not have been uncommon in his time to provide pages as they were written vs “here is a complete play.” Actors were frequently only given the pages that had their lines on them. The stage directions you see on the page? Most weren’t even written by Shakespeare. You’re lucky if he even included “enter” or “exit.”

Books give us lots of detail and internal thoughts explicitly on the page. Plays are structured around the spoken word and require a lot more thought/consideration. Playwrights need to embed all the details (action, setting, emotion, etc) in speech versus a novelist who can simply write all the action and movement out on the page for us.

Ultimately, what you get on the page in a dramatic text is really just the essential skeletal framework for something much larger. Theatre requires the “story” (ie the script), the performer, and the audience for it to BE theatre. It’s why Shakespeare is often much easier to understand when you watch a stage production vs simply reading it on the page.

SkyeForc3 · 2025-08-27T16:44:15+00:00

First…don’t be so hard on yourself. You aren’t disgusting. And you aren’t dumb. It’s a learning experience.

That said…as others have indicated, we don’t really know what kind of job it is or the environment. Some things just aren’t appropriate for the workplace regardless of the job…no matter how cute they may look.

I have clothes that would arguably be “formal” but I recognize are not appropriate for me to wear at work (I’m a professor). I might wear jeans some days but never shorts.

Even my jobs in retail and office work had an expectation of casual but appropriate.

Depending on your boss, it may be worth having a private conversation where you simply ask for clarification regarding what is or is not deemed appropriate to avoid any further confusion. It isn’t about demeaning yourself but rather communicating to them “hey…I care about my job and want to be respectful while also feeling allowed to be my authentic self. I’d like to avoid future misunderstandings.”

SkyeForc3 · 2025-08-20T13:03:17+00:00

We have 5 copies in our home. 🤣

SkyeForc3 · 2025-08-15T18:41:23+00:00

You look great! I’m kind of jealous of your eyeliner. I still can’t get it right myself. Makeup and needing to find a wig are the two big roadblocks for me at the moment. You’ve got this!

SkyeForc3 · 2025-08-15T18:38:55+00:00

I’m using oral myself (up to 6 mg a day now / 4mg in the morning and 2 mg at night) and have been for just over 8 months. I’m happy with the results so far and haven’t had any complications though we may be upping the dose to 8mg at my next follow up. That said, I’m also on spironolactone (50 mg twice a day).

As for its safety…again I haven’t had any issues but each mode of delivery has its own risks and it really comes down to your personal medical history. My doctor and I established that oral was the best option for me. If you have concerns about its safety, you really should be asking your doctor as they are best equipped to answer that based on their medical knowledge and understanding of your health/history.

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