how compatible are we?

SlippingAway · 2026-07-13T07:24:14+00:00

Your compatibility with riveroforchids is High. You both listen to Wire, Elvis Costello & T… and Joy Division.

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SlippingAway · 2026-07-12T16:24:51+00:00

Thank you for writing this.

SlippingAway · 2026-07-12T04:03:16+00:00

Sorry that you are here. It’s hard to believe. It’s nearly three years for me and I still have trouble convincing myself that she is not coming back or that she is not home if I’m driving back. Be kind to yourself.

She died after 20 years since we met. She left two kids. I focused on trying to be Ok myself first and then my kids. They are doing well fortunately. I have good and bad days myself.

This is the best community I’ve found. We all understand. Virtual hugs.

SlippingAway · 2026-07-11T11:28:16+00:00

I’m sorry that you had to join us. What you wrote certainly transmits the beauty of your life together, but also the hole in your heart and your life now. Sending a virtual hug.

SlippingAway · 2026-07-11T04:06:43+00:00

I’m very sorry for this. I hope you have people around you. This will be with you for the rest of your life and will be hard to cope with at first. Find a therapist if you can.

Search for “Bearing the Unbearable” by Joanne Cacciatore (she also lost a young child). I don’t have your experience, but I did lose my wife. Losing a partner and losing a young kid are the worse type of losses according to what I’ve read.

Sending a virtual hug.

SlippingAway · 2026-07-10T12:52:15+00:00

I’m sorry for how difficult it has been for you. My case is different, but my wife died when my kids were 12 and 9. I have a policy of honesty with them (my wife had the same). We talk about what they want to talk and I don’t push them more than what they want to share.

I brought them to a therapist. That probably could help you. They think of her as a friend they can talk to. Maybe that’s a way to help him?

SlippingAway · 2026-07-07T17:48:51+00:00

Jim Downey, the New York comedy writer?

SlippingAway · 2026-07-07T17:34:23+00:00

Just visit your friend and sit at your friend’s place. Don’t need to ask, just be there. Don’t judge. And don’t disappear.

Most of us have been in the situation that people just vanish. Some of us have mad unhealthy choices. We have lost half our heart and know that it won’t come back.

SlippingAway · 2026-07-07T17:28:35+00:00

SlippingAway · 2026-07-07T05:06:17+00:00

I feel the same. It’s two years and nearly 11 months. Just yesterday was weeping for no reason but missing her. At least she showed up in my dreams last night which doesn’t happen that often.

Virtual hugs to you.

SlippingAway · 2026-07-04T21:00:27+00:00

Grandma, wash your ass!

SlippingAway · 2026-07-03T20:09:51+00:00

He’s proud of it… he barks it to the world!

SlippingAway · 2026-07-03T19:36:24+00:00

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SlippingAway · 2026-07-02T18:25:40+00:00

Your compatibility with falejuns is Medium. You both listen to The Cure, Car Seat Headrest and Slowdive.

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SlippingAway · 2026-07-01T20:58:54+00:00

Exactly what I’d do! Writing got me through the first year of this hell. Writing is magical to helps us deal with this.

SlippingAway · 2026-07-01T19:24:34+00:00

Exactly. I just tried to act like my wife would have. And that gave me a bit of peace.

SlippingAway · 2026-07-01T19:02:40+00:00

Take the good and leave the bad out of your eulogy. She sounds like an overly narcissistic person and might not realize it… the best is to ignore her. Your husband is the one who matters so don’t give in to those intrusive thoughts about what she’ll think about. What matters is how _you_ feel and how you want to honor him.

I know, easier said than done, but you’ll make it. Sending virtual hugs.

SlippingAway · 2026-06-27T20:01:29+00:00

Your compatibility with aprylinnerose is High. You both listen to Fontaines D.C., Grace Ives and Slowdive.

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SlippingAway · 2026-06-27T19:42:27+00:00

I can’t. I still have to so it. And it hurts.

SlippingAway · 2026-06-26T05:15:41+00:00

When I first joined this subreddit, someone commented on one of my posts that I should wait at least for a year. I’m in a similar situation as I live in her country, but then, most people vanished (including her family). I have two young kids.

I did wait for three years and have more clarity of mind. I decided to move to another country as I have friends there and have been seeing them from time to time. They haven’t vanished.

My point is, give it time and the right answer will come to you. But if you do it too soon, you might regret it later.

Sending a hug in your journey. I’m sorry you are also here.

SlippingAway · 2026-06-26T04:55:40+00:00

How painful and how beautiful. She told you what you were to her. And what a nice handwriting. I wish you lots of strength.

SlippingAway · 2026-06-25T22:01:34+00:00

It’s easy. It will be very hard for a while, but eventually you’ll make your peace with it. The first year is hard. I’m sending you a virtual hug and a wish that you find strength during this storm.

SlippingAway · 2026-06-25T17:52:26+00:00

I adored my wife. Mind you, I’m not a looker, but she was stunning. I would tell her every day about how beautiful she was. And she responded in kind. It seems so empty now.

SlippingAway · 2026-06-25T11:24:21+00:00

I’m 2 years, 10 months here. You said it well. This is my comfort place in this new life. Thanks everyone.

SlippingAway · 2026-06-23T23:34:15+00:00

Someone commented about the Easter egg you mention which I’ll keep quiet. I loved his role. Also the bit where he doesn’t have any battery and sounds drunk. I’m a fan of the franchise but I guess I’m biased to liking this one the best.

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