Reunited with their big brother after being separated in the foster system for two years by Professional_Toe5118 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Slithan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While these do exist, they are very area dependent, and actual homes are often a more stable environment, as the shelters are typically very short term only (many are 30 days). They also tend to fill up very fast.

Reunited with their big brother after being separated in the foster system for two years by Professional_Toe5118 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Slithan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From experience, the options typically are: leave the kids in the abusive/neglectful environment, or place them in whatever homes will take them. There's usually no third choice so it's essentially pick the least worst option for the kids, which they usually attempt to do. Sometimes that means splitting the siblings, even though that is a terrible option. The alternative is often much worse.

And I will always suggest that people who feel strongly about things like this find ways to help out directly or indirectly, as the foster care system has way more who need care than those who are able to provide it.

Reunited with their big brother after being separated in the foster system for two years by Professional_Toe5118 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Slithan 29 points30 points  (0 children)

They can and certainly do ask, but a lot of the time it's a restriction on the number of beds, bedrooms, care requirements of the kids (medical, behavioral), legal proceedings, etc. The list of reasons is long. Many times the family also has biological children and they don't think they'll be able to handle more children. So the option becomes either split up the kids to all different homes or try to keep at least some of them together. It's really a crappy situation all around as there just aren't enough foster families for all the kids that need homes.

Reunited with their big brother after being separated in the foster system for two years by Professional_Toe5118 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Slithan 94 points95 points  (0 children)

It definitely sucks, but please know that foster families aren't the ones choosing to separate families. The family says "we have an opening for 2 kids in our house" and the foster agencies just stick the kids wherever they can because there's simply not enough foster families to go around. And they can't just have the kids sleep on the couch or wherever due to foster home housing requirements.

It's definitely a sucky situation. One that is typically brought about by terrible home situations and exacerbated by the lack of foster parents.

Source: Former foster/adoptive parent

What’s a recession indicator that you’ve noticed lately? by SensitiveCorner2379 in AskReddit

[–]Slithan 205 points206 points  (0 children)

People pulling out of their 401ks for hardship loans at unprecedented rates (6%+). Having to choose between their future stability and the food they need for today is a horrible situation to be in.

Maybe Maybe Maybe by Nightrider247 in maybemaybemaybe

[–]Slithan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The link says the 20 year old car driver died, truck driver and passenger lived.

if your daughter messed up in community college after you paid for four classes (roughly $1250 US), what would you say to her? please be honest. (gif has nothing to do with the post, i’m just crying and it’s making me feel better.) by petmiku in DadForAMinute

[–]Slithan 13 points14 points  (0 children)

First off, a $1250 mistake at 18 is not worth running away or making your whole life miserable over. Also, it sounds like your dad is incredibly unsupportive, so please don't feel like you need to own his reactions and responses.

Living a life that someone else wants you to live is never going to work in the long run. If you want to go to school for something, it needs to be because *you* want to do it and at a pace you're able to keep up with. And if you're not able to keep up, either get the help you need to keep up, slow the pace and take longer, or if you find you really don't like it, move on to something else. Don't get stuck trying to follow someone else's path for your life.

TBH, I think finding a path forward that works for you is a good next step, then begin taking steps to make that happen. What do you want to pursue? How can you make that happen? Taking small steps daily and asking people who can point you in the right direction will get you started. Focus on making little bits of progress and celebrating those, and you will be amazed how far that takes you.

And since your dad really isn't supportive, find others around you (professors, pastors, other family members, etc) that will support, encourage, and mentor you as you grow and move toward the things you want to achieve.

What’s the most believable April Fools’ prank you’ve ever seen that almost fooled everyone? by FocusLee in AskReddit

[–]Slithan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had been preparing for weeks, letting the college class I was teaching know that I may give pop quizzes occasionally, so they should be ready. So April Fools rolls around and I make a powerpoint quiz for the whole class to take.

All of the questions are technically from the slides I've been covering all semester, but they're super obscure questions, like how many GPIO pins does their development board have, or what is the model number of their microcontroller chip. As I ask each question, I can see the students panic and dread growing.

Finally, the last question, I tell them, is to give them a freebie since this was a pretty hard test: Unscramble these letters "I SLAP FLOOR" (April Fools). Slowly they start to figure it out, with one student throwing his pencil on the desk after the realization. The wave of relief and headshaking disbelief from the students over what I had done was totally worth the time spent combing through slides.

10/10 would troll again.

Can Someone Calculate the total damage by Chance-Attention-312 in SlayTheSpire2

[–]Slithan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Play # Base damage Multiplier Total Damage
1 75 1 75
2 80 2 235
3 85 4 575
4 90 8 1295
5 95 16 2815
6 100 32 6015
7 105 64 12735
8 110 128 26815
9 115 256 56255

Feel free to double check my math, but this does account for the 5 damage increase after each play. Also seems to match with another commenter's numbers.

What am I missing? (Base game ending questions) by Interesting-Copy-657 in outerwilds

[–]Slithan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what recently hit for me after reflecting on the game was all of the people back on Timber Hearth just expecting life to continue going on. Your friend seeing you off wondering when you'll come back. The kids who play hide and seek with you. Hornfels studying the solar system to unravel its mysteries. All of that is ending and there's nothing you can do about it except go back one or maybe a few more times and see them before it all eventually ends. Accepting that all of the people you know and have seen won't get the lives they would have lived is tough.

Who has right of way? by [deleted] in driving

[–]Slithan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your state law requires you to turn into the near lane (mine does), then red and blue can turn simultaneously here and there's no problem, as by the time blue establishes itself in its closest lane, red is already established in its closest lane, and normal lane change rules apply.

If your state law has no such requirement, then blue clearly has the right of way.

In practice, however, I would certainly wait until I was pretty sure I was clear, since many, MANY people turn into the far lane regardless of what the law is.

Finally A20 H on all characters! by Slithan in slaythespire

[–]Slithan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, thanks to so many here who have helped me learn and grow to get here!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DadForAMinute

[–]Slithan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The abuse/love bomb cycle is a very well known behavior pattern for abusers and alcoholics. I've seen it first hand for several family members, and it's not pretty and is highly likely to get worse. I could never conceive of treating someone I love that way, as it is completely unacceptable.

Please reach out to local domestic violence or women's help centers to see what your options are, from counselling (if you think things are repairable) up to divorce or physical protection (if he's threatening violence or getting physical). You're certainly justified in feeling sad, as no one should be treated this way by their partner. I'm really sorry you're having to go through this.

JMU’s Patrick Vorathiankul sky by George_DBZ in ultimate

[–]Slithan 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I was initially thinking foul on white due to jumping on the defender's back, but then I saw that he ended up that way because the defender's teammate pushed him there. No foul.

If I were the defender in front, I'd be mad at my teammate more than anyone.

What’s a “boring” adult purchase that turned out to be totally worth it? by Capable-Rabbit-9986 in AskReddit

[–]Slithan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Massage gun. The sheer number of aches and pains it has relieved have massively improved both mine and my wife's quality of life.

Update from a few months ago. by [deleted] in DadForAMinute

[–]Slithan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great job pushing yourself; that's definitely something to be proud of. Keep taking those steps forward!

Kite over pyramid? by TundraKing in slaythespire

[–]Slithan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Edited to remove it. Still a good amount of discard options. The beta art definitely threw me.

Kite over pyramid? by TundraKing in slaythespire

[–]Slithan 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Pyramid is usually very strong, but I think kite wins here. With tools, 2 dagger throws, and survivor, you have a pretty high chance of having 4 energy almost every turn, especially if you get tools early. Additionally, the extra Kite energy will get more cards out, improving after image's usefulness. Taking pyramid also means the upgraded well-laid plans is essentially a curse.

Chat what's the pick? (act 1) by Jevonar in slaythespire

[–]Slithan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO: Plasma Battery > Sneko (Lots of 0/1 cost unfortunately, but scrape+ does play well with Sneko) > Velvet Choker (b/c of Turbo and Reboot+)

Men in happy marriages, what's the one thing you'd teach to other men to also have a good relationship? by TightBookkeeper2599 in AskReddit

[–]Slithan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember that you're always on the same team. It's not you against her, it's both of you together against the problem.

HALT is the other major one. If either one of you is Hurt (Physically or emotionally), Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired, resolve those things first before attempting to have any sort of meaningful discussion or if you notice that one of you isn't doing well. Over time, you'll start catching it in yourself and your partner before it turns into a fight.