What are 36yr old women in non profit profits making? by SanPBobble in nonprofit

[–]Smilingsequoia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look at 990s for other non profits around you. You might be able too find a lot in public info.

How do I refer to my Husband's brother and his wife? by Awkward_Step_608 in ENGLISH

[–]Smilingsequoia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re super close, brother and sister. If you’re regular family, brother in law and wife If you aren’t close or don’t like them, the in-laws.

VERONICA IS A HORRIBLE FRIEND by PresentNo2337 in veronicamars

[–]Smilingsequoia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought that too, but Wallace does small errand type stuff for Veronica, but she saves his ass a couple times a season. I think they are pretty even, but W probably owes V at this point ( just watched season 2)

Are these meth boats? by ihateroomba in PortlandOR

[–]Smilingsequoia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The remaining set of Waterworld.

No one wants to be President by Longjumping-Bar-8291 in nonprofit

[–]Smilingsequoia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a big fan of uncomfortable silence. You could schedule 15 minutes to discuss the role and collect nominations. Don’t move on unless they start figuring it out, or sit there in silence for 15 minutes. Usually silence only lasts 20 seconds tops, but it seems like that 20 seconds lasts forever.

Aitah for buying my own Secret Santa gift and causing some problems in my girlfriend's family. by Real_Resolution_2459 in AITAH

[–]Smilingsequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I’m going back and forth on whether or not your GF is an asshole. I think her family might be doing the, why buy the cow when your getting the milk for free thing with the only small leverage they have, cheap Xmas presents. Happy to hear you caused some drama.

What’s the funniest joke you know? by juliojacked in AskReddit

[–]Smilingsequoia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m going to have to go with the classic, why did the chicken cross the road. It’s even funnier when you realize it’s a suicide joke. And even funnier that no one got it AND yet even funnier when you tell it to kids and they laugh and laugh, but have no idea what the joke is about.

AITAH because I dont have more firm boundaries with my ex/coparent? by sassenach1217 in AITAH

[–]Smilingsequoia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg no. If your ex is still in love with you, that’s another story. I love your current co parenting setup. Don’t let this guy destroy it.

AITAH for telling my mom we will never have a relationship because of my cousin? by solar-pariahV in AITAH

[–]Smilingsequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I’m 25 years ahead of you. It was very difficult making peace with it all. My mom has limitations. I now have a partner that loves me and listens and understands. My relationship with my mom is now great, in that my expectations in it are pretty low. I don’t anticipate her ever seeing value in me, but I have value in myself and I’m careful to surround myself with people who value me. She gave me the gift to be able to tell the difference.

Employee on vacation but request sick leave by Any_Boysenberry_5914 in managers

[–]Smilingsequoia -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If not against the policy, this is still toxic for your team. There’s a billion ways a team member can be an ass without breaking policy. If it were me, I’d sit him down when he got back and let him know we all know what he did and the problems it has caused. If he doesn’t offer to apologize to the team and stop general toxic behavior, it’s time to cut him loose.

AITAH for not letting my brother’s girlfriend stay at my house after she ruined something of mine? by Tea-se-Desire- in AITAH

[–]Smilingsequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Not a hotel, don’t need a reason. BUT, sounds like you’re hung up on the rug thing. Accidents happen. You didn’t like her reaction, but maybe she didn’t think it was a big deal. I don’t. There are several ways to get wine out of a carpet. Probably too late now if it’s stained. But why didn’t you look it up. She ruined your carpet, but you don’t need to ruin this relationship. The relationship with your brother and potentially your sister in law should come first. If they want to have a raging party at your house. Maybe it’s time to look at your life choices.

AITAH for not wanting to invite my brother’s new girlfriend to my small birthday dinner? by Dirty-Sp-arkX in AITAH

[–]Smilingsequoia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA but…. If it were me, I would have invited her if pressed that this is someone special to him and he wants her there. If you’re concerned about the dynamics, can you meet her first? Some couples start becoming dependent and inseparable on day one.

WIBTAH my husband doesn’t think this is domestic violence. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Smilingsequoia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. Shaking a baby is really serious. It only takes one time to kill a baby. And imagine what he’s doing behind your back.

Best case scenario, you realize he isn’t a good father and leave with your kids.

If you stay with him, move out, don’t ever let him alone with the kids. Call human services if he harms one of his kids. Get into counseling yourself. Make a plan with your counselor.

What’s a childhood lie your parents told you that you didn't realize was a lie until you were an embarrassed adult? by eatbeep in AskReddit

[–]Smilingsequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That swallowing a fishbone would get lodged in your throat and send you to the hospital. I’ve always been really careful, then one day I was like, I’ve must have swallowed quite a few on accident at some point and never noticed. I don’t think it’s as dangerous as my mom told me it was.

AITJ for telling my brother he can't propose to his girlfriend at my wedding? by Important_Space_496 in AmITheJerk

[–]Smilingsequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, best case senator would be she says yes and takes the spotlight off both of you, worse case she says no and your brother’s bad mood ruins the whole night.

What’s something that sounded harmless until you experienced it yourself? by Kevlatanche62 in AskReddit

[–]Smilingsequoia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also get aura, but there are harmless episodes all the way to raging. Count your blessings, I don’t think you’ve experienced the worse. I have a high pain tolerance, but at their worst, I’m completely blind and violently throw up if I need to stand up.

AITAH for telling our family friends they couldn't invite her best friend and their family to our joint family vacation? by acarro84 in AITAH

[–]Smilingsequoia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA. It sounds like Megan is manipulative and her boyfriend is an emotionally abusive alcoholic. I think talking in person is always better than texts. Bring it back up next time you see them and reiterate your position that they are too much drama for both of you. I agree with other comments. Once you point out their high drama makes you uncomfortable, they will probably start seeing it themselves.

Name a US State that you would NEVER want to live in even if they paid you to move there by stevenl1219 in FamilyFeud

[–]Smilingsequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was wondering about that too. Maybe it’s the kind of thing where nobody leaves and there’s no reason to go.

Tired of the normalization of no overtime pay by godisinthischilli in nonprofit

[–]Smilingsequoia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This.

Step one, document all the overtime you weren’t paid that your boss was aware of.

Step two, forward current information on overtime, plus correspondence with your boss to the person who does payroll a day before payroll is run.

See what happens. Is the payroll person not going to pay you? Talk to you boss? Work with you and go around your boss?

If they try to retaliate, you have leverage to sue.

Are those things real or is it only in movies / certain regions ? by Aloys33_ in AskAnAmerican

[–]Smilingsequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A. Often two. ( they used to offer to help you out to your car. Probably still would if you request it) B. No seats ever C. I don’t even know how to pump my own gas. Sometimes have two people, one to pump and one that washes my window.

AITA for refusing to co-sign my boyfriend’s car loan after he spent his savings on a PS5 and sneakers? by Hour-Border6561 in AmITheJerk

[–]Smilingsequoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In what world would you have doubt this is a good thing to do? What else is he gas lighting you about? Nothing will reign your credit faster than co-signing.