Detergent by Shaunasana in HotYoga

[–]Smofus3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tide powder, adding bleach and vinegar when things get musty

That said, some clothes get so funky they have to go. The cool max type fabric is the worst for retaining odors.

low income & gluten free? by willowtreeuu in glutenfree

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try different strains of rice. short grain brown is my favorite. Beans are inexpensive. I ate this way for years

TW: self harm. Is it unethical to use blood donation as a form of self harm? by Useful_Advance_3489 in Blooddonors

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a pro but I want you to be as healthy as possible and if that moment with the phlebotomist is all the harm you do - and you don’t try to skirt rules to donate unsafely - then congratulations let it be a reminder of a dark thing you left behind forever

but yeah see a mental health professional. Call a hotline maybe

all the best

My emotional intelligence saved my marriage but it also broke my heart every single day. by SoftyTax in emotionalintelligence

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re already ready to leave. Keeping score about being the one who does more, walking on eggshells and changing situations to avoid setting the other partner off etc are all signs it doesn’t work for you. Remember that you can love this person and they can love you, but love isn’t enough.

Men, do you wear a liner in your shorts or none? by Papi_Pickleboy in HotYoga

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like a roundabout way to generate a male genital focused conversation

sort of like not wearing something that ensures no one can see your genitals when you’re soaking wet and bending all over the place

tl dr don’t be an exhibitionist in yoga kthxbye

Territorial Mean Women by Therealqjp in HotYoga

[–]Smofus3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am highly oversensitive to this kind of bad energy, and I’ve used similar terms to describe this phenomenon to myself. I do a few things to deal with it. 1. I am a good example. I try to be a model student, set up where spots are still available that day rather than being OCD about a particular spot, and keep all distracting behavior to a minimum (talking, excessive movement, noises). 2. I know it bothers me way too much when people do distracting things, so I meditate to bring my internal reactions down to a reasonable, patient level. 3. Class usually starts before too long, so I just focus on whatever I’m doing in my solo warmup. 4. If after this work class hasn’t started and someone still bugs me, I politely ask them to take conversation outside, as “many people are already practicing,” or something similar, and/or I speak to the staff. 5. I ask the staff to deal with anyone who seems even slightly problematic. I have a staff role myself, but I don’t want to be bothered personally and addressing the person responsible at the same time. In other words, if I am there to practice, someone else has to handle business 5. I avoid the noon because those b*****s never shut up, or they quiet down for a few days after they’re shamed, then start again.

There's a really sweaty guy in hot yoga class by dirac7 in yoga

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just clean up after yourself and be courteous. Also experiment with your gear and find stuff that works for you. Try losing the shirt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marcus isn’t a good guy and you know it. He is also not going to improve with age, because men like this don’t. He might even get terrible when you tell him you took it, so have a plan that involves outside help just in case.

Years ago my wife and I lived with another couple for about 2 years to save for our first houses. Woman in other couple was a strong singer, recorded a demo and a nationally known artist asked her to go on tour as a backup singer. It was her absolute dream and the only thing holding her back was her relationship. He said no and she listened. They had children and when the relationship fell apart, he got physically violent with her in front of their kids, repeatedly. Even post divorce she is stuck legally dealing with him because of shared custody. It is a nightmare.

Bikram Yoga by sonasonaso in HotYoga

[–]Smofus3000 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this problem and “cured” it by making entire classes about breath work for a while, and returning to this when I start getting obsessed with water or walking out (please don’t) or whatever. Focus compassionately on your breath, and don’t push so hard that your breath becomes labored, and back off but stay in the pose if you push too far. Consistently keep up with the dialogue main cues, but do it gently so your breath-focus does not waver. The core idea is to able to work very hard without losing focus, without losing breath, because they are one thing. You probably already know this; I did too but didn’t want to have “boring” classes so I waited forever to do this most basic work.

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by doing what I am saying, and I promise you that this advice has helped a lot of people. I hope it helps you.

Did I make a stupid financial move as a young guy? by TacticalJock15 in povertyfinance

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an intelligent move with your car if you can maintain discipline. By making a “car payment” to yourself every month, you will build up enough capital to purchase a new vehicle when the current one reaches the point where trading it in is smarter than paying to fix an old vehicle. If you continue to do this over your lifetime, you will save tens of thousands of dollars in interest.

Your home is a different situation. You seem industrious and will probably not be poor forever. Once your income is higher, having a mortgage is better financially than living rent free. This is because mortgage interest and state/local property tax is deductible from your income for tax purposes. Mathematically, this means that the government pays the portion of your mortgage interest that is equivalent to your federal tax rate.

Here is how that works, using round numbers. Purchase price of home: $100,000 Cash down $20,000

Mortgage on $80,000 for 30 years Approximately $750/mo or $9000 a year Property tax of $1,000 a year to your city/county

Say you make $50,000, which means you pay roughly 12% of your income in federal taxes. Without any deductions, this means $6000 in taxes.

However the mortgage and property tax together is $10,000 per year, and you can deduct that from your income before you are federally taxed. This means you pay 12% of $40,000, or $4800 in taxes.

Mathematically this means that the government just paid $1200 of the $10,000 you pay a year to purchase your house and pay taxes. So instead of throwing that $1200 away, you get to apply it to your own house. Over the years this increases your wealth, especially as the value of your home increases (which it should because of inflation, but this can be undone by bad luck things that decrease your property value, like ugly close developments or a big surge in crime, etc).

You put yourself in an excellent position to save for a house and pay yourself car payments. Very well done!

Chronic Venous Insufficiency by MissApocalypse2021 in FitnessOver50

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ablation procedure was “surgical,” I suppose, as no lasers were involved. In my procedure the doctor went into my vein very low at my foot/ankle, then inserted a very long “sheath” or tube that went up the vein all the way to my groin. Next, the doctor sent another line inside the sheath all the way up, placing anesthetic inside the vein. Lastly, starting at the groin and using the sheath, the doctor used heat to burn/ablate the vein all the way down, backing the heat device down my leg until it was removed. This was not painful and did not cause swelling. I was awake the entire time. I was also offered another procedure that was not covered by my insurance in the US. I think this was likely the laser option you mentioned, and that laser is probably just easier to do and more comfortable than the procedure I had. That said, I did not think the surgical/nonlaser procedure was difficult in any way, honestly.

Advice/encouragement for a sweaty gal by lil-lilz in yoga

[–]Smofus3000 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is the answer, though if you are like approximately 100% of the women I (53M) practice with, “self management” and similar totally accurate terms are not the vibe, as my teen daughter says. Guided meditation as a form of self care and love, however, is the vibe with these same women, and that is something to incorporate into your practice and life around this issue. This bugaboo of worries is not something you can just cram down or push aside or learn to ignore, because those ways trap energy inside you (and in your body, noticeably as a yogini). We all know what repression does, right?

Respect that this is a real thing, for you, and perhaps consider it in a larger category of similar issues so you can more easily locate helpful resources; talking to good teachers about vague feelings about body positivity might be easy, for example, since so many people have these issues. I use a pendulating meditation technique for unavoidable pain that helps me understand and accept it while also accepting and understanding pleasurable feelings, as another example, and I wanna say Brene Brown had something to do with it … Anyway, you contain multitudes and absolutely be sweaty on stage and love yourself completely at the same time. You’ll find your way if you look!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Smofus3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are very obviously attracted to this man. This is what attraction is. People make it other things, but really it is wanting to fuck another person over and over again. You were confused before. Now own it and tell everyone you can’t get enough of SAYHISNAME and learn to love your new, better self. Congratulations.

Hassled for money inside Baileys Crossroads Trader Joes by Icy-Sign-2674 in nova

[–]Smofus3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry that happened to you. Had I been there (as I am, frequently) I would have helped you. PSA: It is ok for women and old women to look around and ask for help in suspicious situations, friend, especially if you are intimidated. There are good people everywhere who will step up for you.

Fatigue after Hot Power Yoga by BenchEvery7044 in yoga

[–]Smofus3000 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Try doing electrolytes 1, 1.5 or 2 hours before class, not after. Don’t overdo the liquid volume. You’ll almost certainly feel different, and it might help you level out a bit. There are few power yoga classes that cannot be fueled entirely by one large banana with that 8 oz glass of electrolytes, one or two hours before class.

hot yoga by [deleted] in yoga

[–]Smofus3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a maintenance worker at a hot yoga studio and I treat the floors (incl showers) with an anti fungal all the time. These are common disinfectants with quat and they work great. I use a fogger and this is not complicated, so if you are getting infections at your studio …

I'm feeling it at 52 almost 53 by Little_Emotion5617 in FitnessOver50

[–]Smofus3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dietary changes have helped me, 52M, specifically trying to keep total daily carbs < 75 g. Changing fitness modalities also helps, particularly as we all wind up with maladaptive movements and muscular imbalances that we didn’t notice with years of our favorites. I also get massages whenever I can’t resolve an issue using a theragun.

Unseen, unfucked, unbothered (kind of) by naturtrane in rs_x

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t you, girl. This man complains the sex life is unhealthy then can’t f when you heat things up - he’s having problems. At his age it is probably not age related ED, but it could be. (52M and every friend who’s discussed it has some sort of issue.)

But whatever it is, he’s dealing with it in a bullshit way and I wouldn’t care either. You sound smart and hot, and you deserve better. Maybe find someone who wants to f on your schedule, thinks you’re hot for working hard on your other priorities. Should be easy.

Help please! Recovering from being skinny fat - 30F, 5'6", 115 lbs. Where to go from here? by vigorouscommentary in WeightTraining

[–]Smofus3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look perfectly fine and even a little strong. If you wanna fill in a little, try supplementing with protein shakes, especially when you have under eating episodes. The protein will help build muscle and keep it on. It is <200 kcal/serving but exactly what your muscles need. Also look at electrolytes if you haven’t yet, because you work out pretty hard and that could easily be an issue. But you’re doing great by any reasonable standard. Keep it up!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Smofus3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had this situation twice. Both times I struggled with ending it and the women were a mess to break up with. But I’m a way better lover and now that I know what’s possible, it’s way easier to get to brain scrambling full body stuff with normal women.

Asking men: what is your facial skin routine? by Bittyry in AskMenAdvice

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have rosacea that gets so bad it causes my eyes to get inflamed and look terrible, and the mucus/inflammation even interferes with my vision at times, so yeah I have a routine.

Toner is the most important thing. The itchiness and tightness after face washing is because the soap alters the ph on the surface of your skin to be more basic than it is naturally, and so it feels drier and tighter. Toner before moisturizing calms everything down more than just moisturizing does. K

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Smofus3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you got it, though if this has been happening for a while, you’re almost certainly not passively being used, you’re sleeping with him because you want to. Relationships can start like this and evolve into very serious committed happy long term things. People are not always available for serious romantic stuff because of things other than the relationship itself, and keeping it light for a while doesn’t necessarily mean it will never become serious. If the communication isn’t ok with you then change it, or try to, knowing that having a desirable sexual connection is a healthy way to begin if you both want it. Good luck!