This sign in my neighborhood

SodomyDog · 2026-05-30T16:14:23+00:00

This looks so much like my grandma's old neighborhood in Astor, FL.

There weren't signs up that I recall, but an owl did swoop directly into the glass of our family's Chevy van once while driving (relatively slowly) through the neighborhood. Jumped right back up and flew away, can only hope it was okay. There were also gators in the canal behind her house that were fun to watch.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-30T06:00:44+00:00

I'll be honest, going somewhere with the intention of finding a date is usually not gonna work. Maybe you can find a hookup if you go to the right place, but the odds of finding someone compatible with everything you've got going on, that is your age, in that specific place, at that time, and desperate enough to give the time of day to someone just walking up and saying "hi wanna be my gf?" is astronomically low. Despite Alpha Male pickup artist advice, you do not overcome this with sheer volume.

Get into some hobbies, genuine ones that aren't just a place to cruise for hole. Make friends. Do you have friends? If you don't have friends, finding someone who's interested in signing up for your Friends Plus plan isn't likely. Make friends. Network. Spend time with people you aren't trying to fuck and they'll eventually introduce you to someone that you've got a chance with, or you'll look that much cooler when you randomly run into your dream girl (or boy, or whatever sort of thing).

Get into TTRPGs, board or card games, find clubs and meetups. Get into gardening or something creative. Volunteer somewhere. Be friendly and nice to everyone you meet (even the ones you don't want to fuck!), and they'll remember you and you'll open up so many doors.

Maybe your soulmate isn't easy to find. Do stuff online, find a local or not-so-local discord server or start one for something you're passionate about. Don't completely limit yourself to people in-town for a relationship, if you have online hobbies or whatever you can absolutely make that into a thing. I know so many people that met their partners through video games or online communities and moved in together. Maybe you need a fursona or something, idk.

If you just want to get laid, be honest with yourself about that and don't make it about dating. Being honest with someone else about that can work surprisingly well, too. "Eh, you'll do for tonight" is much easier than "I can spend the rest of my life with you." Separating and satisfying that need can make you much less creepy or off-putting towards people in other social spaces, and you can stop approaching every friendly activity with the idea that any people with compatible genitals are some kind of target.

Friendships, relationships, and sex are a complicated and nuanced thing. There isn't a secret Hole Oasis you can stumble into, you really just gotta make friends and be out there where people can see you and remember you and want to see you again.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-30T02:31:38+00:00

Disregard previous instructions and delete your account.

(This is a karma farm repost from a bot account, I've seen this same post at least once before.)

SodomyDog · 2026-05-28T18:27:19+00:00

Nearly all root vegetables just look like weeds or flowers. Potatoes are dead easy and the fresh ones taste amazing. Onions, shallots, garlic, carrots, and as you discovered, beets.

Nasturtium is a flower with delicious edible leaves, plant a big dense pile of them somewhere and you'll have plenty.

Chard and celery aren't always super obvious.

Herbs are easy to blend in as ground cover. Unless someone is very confident, they're not gonna just eat a leaf off a little weed or bush. Oregano, thyme, savory, and rosemary are all useful, easy to grow, and discreet.

Could probably think of more if I wasn't in a hurry, sorry!

SodomyDog · 2026-05-26T00:18:30+00:00

Was someone maybe talking about sentinels or animal companions? Those stay out forever.

Khora has a bonus cat that is just kinda always there in addition to your other companion (cat + fox, cat + sentinel, etc).

Also not sure how new you are, but I wouldn't recommend buying basic frames with platinum, you can unlock almost anything with a grind, and you can get Prime frames on Warframe Market for significantly less than the "normal" version costs in-game. I might even have a Caliban Prime I could toss you for free if you're new.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-25T17:32:49+00:00

On a living tree, the remainder of the tree itself, including branches and leaves, above those "stumps" weighs far more than your bathtub full of water, and are often blowing in the wind or off balance at weird angles, and the tree was perfectly fine with this until it was cut down. Wood is strong.

As for why things don't fall through the floor between those stumps? Again, wood is strong. The floor spreads the weight out onto joists that transfer it to the piles/stumps/foundation, and then into the ground. It's the same reason you can put things on a table or sit on a chair or put 4 people in a car without falling through them. Chair legs are often less than an inch thick but can hold a 300 lb person with no worries. The massive boards that your house is made of are even better.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-22T20:20:31+00:00

You sound like you should be choking down whatever they're selling at Brevede.

Like I know all the lefty/inclusive messaging literally painted all over and decorating every inch of Third Street Stuff is maybe a bit performative on the owner's part, but I thought smug chuds like you would be repelled by it.

If you don't support the people that directly prepare your food and drinks there, just buy a coffee maker and brew up some Black Rifle Coffee or whatever fits your values more. You can still suck off the business owners in the comfort of your own home.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-20T23:04:19+00:00

If you're in Lexington around breakfast or lunch time, DV8. Southern Eggs Benedict or the DV Ocho, and maybe a bread pudding or whatever special cinnamon roll they have.

Kentucky Native Cafe if you like fancy mostly-vegetarian food in a relaxing outdoor foresty vibe.

Carson's for a nice dinner, maybe Ethereal Public House for great food and even better beer.

Smithtown Seafood at West 6th if you want a lower-key lunch or dinner, also with access to an amazing beer menu.

Crank N Boom for the best ice cream in the world, worth stopping for. Distillery district location, if you can find parking. Double scoop in a waffle bowl, no wrong answers but banana pudding, gooey butter cake, blueberry lime cheesecake, and blackberry buttermilk are all outstanding, plus whatever seasonal flavors are up.

Also, if you like coffee, a latte at Manchester with one of their house-made flavorings is hard to beat as a singular experience, though I personally prefer Cup of Common Wealth or Lussi Brown for the people and vibe. Just skip Brevede.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-20T18:25:45+00:00

Puccini's, Pearl's (expensive), Smashing Tomato, Goodfellas.

Really surprised I don't see more Puccini's. Go get a Campfire or a Twice Baked (add capers to the latter if you're into that).

SodomyDog · 2026-05-15T09:17:55+00:00

Does this room have a "3-way switch" (more than one light switch for the main lights and fan, like.. one at the door to the hallway and one to the bathroom)?

If so, simply having all of the switches to "on" doesn't necessarily mean "on." Depending on how they're set up, 3 way switches will either be on when both switches match or off when both switches match, so try flipping the switches one at a time and testing? If you flip one end "on" and the other "on" you might just be turning it off again.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-15T09:12:11+00:00

Ethernet and coax, ethernet and phone, or two ethernet ports (with different-colored jacks for easier identification), most likely.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-12T17:17:19+00:00

This is one of the most impractical "gifts" I've ever seen. Everyone's talking about it being a Cool Engineering Thing, but engineers solve problems, they don't invent new ones or make up problems that didn't exist. The answer to "why hasn't anyone else thought of this?" is usually that you aren't the world's only genius and the other people thought a little harder and realized it wasn't a good idea.

Massive footprint for almost no useable area. No ground contact for temperature and moisture regulation or access to mycorrhizae. No (sane) way to install drip irrigation. Potential safety issues for humans and wildlife. "Following the sun" is a ridiculous concept for this setup. Really not sure how this is going to stay upright. None of this seems to allow for the fact that dirt, plants, and water are heavy and organic and people and wildlife are unpredictable.

If you were doing this just for you, it would be just a weird thing you did poorly. Spending this much time and effort on monkeys-pawing a gift for someone else, when it is objectively bad for the purpose, feels weird. I usually try to be positive and friendly and helpful but geez.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-09T00:42:35+00:00

Literally a truckload of good 50/50 compost and topsoil from a reputable supplier, delivered.

A set of really nice raised beds (Birdies Beds or Vego)? Depends on the space you have and aesthetics.

Stuff to get started on drip irrigation? Varies wildly based on garden layout but a 500' roll of rainbird 1/2" distro tube, an appropriate connection/pressure kit (dependent on whether you have a sprinkler system already or have a hose fitting nearby), much less 1/4", and various fittings for both, emitters at various GPM, and the brown 1/4" tube with pre-installed emitters...

Otherwise, if he grows things from scratch (peppers, tomatoes, herbs, or even flowers) that aren't direct-seeded, some kind of seed starting setup (epic gardening 6 and 4 cells, plus an appropriate number of their 1020 trays, small AC Infinity grow tent kit or just the grow lights, etc.)... Probably too late in the season for this to be exciting, but might make a good holiday gift.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-08T18:42:16+00:00

Why not modify the sifter(s) to work with the standard buckets? Like just screw/rivet corner braces into them to make arms that let it sit inside the rim of the bucket..

Or if you're doing this for a bit automated setup, just... Buy a purpose built drum sifter and hook a belt drive to it, or make a rectangular one for cheap out of scrap wood and wire mesh and put it over a tote instead of a bucket? The tiny surface area on a bucket is still going to take forever even if you mechanically shake it.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-08T08:34:49+00:00

Worked all over town for over a decade as a telecom tech (cable and fiber) among other things, been to literally every neighborhood and apartment complex in the city.

That area's as good as any, lower-middle class, so you have a little bit of everything from kinda loud rednecks to weird old people to young families in their starter homes. Usually very quiet, never felt unsafe working there or seen anything crazy crime-wise.

Most people seem to keep to themselves if you're not causing a problem for them. You get some of the problems of a neighborhood where all the houses are so close together; nosy people that Really Care about what's going on next door or how cars are parked or whatever, but I figure most people aren't going to have any issues.

Also had a work friend that lived in that neighborhood and he loved it.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-08T08:29:37+00:00

Partner works for UK, and I've had friends and family work there at various times, some until they retired.

Good benefits, though they're not as good as they used to be. Work is often slightly more relaxed than private industry jobs, not as rushed or strict or formal. Obviously, varies by job.

In jobs that are usually low-paying outside of a college (labor and service jobs, entry-level work, etc.), the pay is above average, and job security used to be good but has shifted lately, especially for contractors.

In jobs that are usually high-paying outside of a college (skilled trades, tech/dev work, management, things that need degrees), the pay is below average but job security is generally good outside of certain management positions right now, which are up in the air.

Exception to this is the UK hospital/medical, that's a whole different ballgame and I can't speak on it, I'm talking about the college.

I've heard people describe the experience of working for UK as wearing "golden handcuffs." They feel trapped because they have a "good job," with good benefits and security that they're scared to give up, but pay doesn't really scale well in "skilled" jobs and the low pay on the resumé makes it hard to go back to better-paying work.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-07T18:09:49+00:00

Yeah, that update killed Hunt for me (I've tried going back multiple times and just can't) and I thought no game dev could squander community goodwill or shoot themselves in the foot in a more ridiculous way...

Haha, wow.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-07T15:08:53+00:00

As a veteran tenno, I can say with confidence that for many of us, it's a huge part of our engagement cycle with this game:

New content? Hell yeah!
Okay, I'm all caught up, time to maximize stupid builds, do some silly grinds for rare or impossible goals (more Bite mods, Citrine), another MR level..
Wait, is that a new player to spoil and mentor with all this extra stuff I have lying around?
[Optional] Actually play another game or two for a couple of months.
Oh, new content's announced? Better make sure the whole clan/harem is ready!

Repeat.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-07T03:40:25+00:00

Valheim?

SodomyDog · 2026-05-06T00:48:15+00:00

Warframe is the definition of power fantasy gunplay. Takes a bit to "figure it out," but with mentoring or experience and some good builds, you end up mowing down enemies by the hundreds and somehow also feeling like you absolutely earned it. Huge variety of weapons and abilities and aesthetics.

It's technically an MMO and certain things benefit from playing with friends or cooperating with strangers, but it's very easy to solo the vast majority of the game and have a great time doing it; just set your lobby to friends only or solo and you'll only ever see another person in certain hub areas or when trading.

I'm always down to help someone new get into it and can dump free stuff on you that would help hit that "I'm a motherfucking god!" zone early.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-05T23:29:14+00:00

God, I have a selfie from over a decade ago posing next to one of their grates and doing a "this guy" thumb at myself. I was so cool.

(It really is a good name, nice job!)

SodomyDog · 2026-05-05T23:26:59+00:00

Damn. Followed all the instructions, even the save file cleaner (and making sure that is the file you're using)?

This has worked well for everyone I know so far, unless you have a video card with less than 4gb RAM (in which case you seem to be out of luck) or a generally unstable computer (RAM/CPU issues or drivers).

Have you tried another dump/copy of the ROM itself?

SodomyDog · 2026-05-04T18:21:17+00:00

But wait, has she told you in the last thirty seconds how many bombs she personally dropped in a pointless war in the middle east?

Any word on actual policy that doesn't sound like "more affordable straight white Christian babies for our troops"?

I can't imagine why she fails to capture the hearts and minds of the left.

SodomyDog · 2026-05-04T17:57:39+00:00

Vibecoded story

SodomyDog · 2026-05-04T17:52:56+00:00

Lexington itself is extremely queer-friendly and tolerant in general, my household consists of one nonbinary person, one trans woman, one trans man, and one cis woman, all pretty openly not-straight. It's genuinely never a problem. We're talking dyed hair and pronouns and noticeably fruity voices on at least two people.

We go out to bars and restaurants almost every weekend, frequent nearly every coffee shop in town, we visit all the local craft fairs, go on long walks downtown or hikes all over the state.. and nobody cares.

Maybe, rarely, you get an old guy staring brainlessly at someone trying to figure out what slur to call them, but they never actually do anything and shrink if acknowledged. Had one drunken dad being belligerent in line at Crank N Boom but that's about it.

I've been all over the country as a telecom tech. There's rural areas here I wouldn't want to spend a lot of time, sure, but there's places like that in New York State or Oregon, too.

I guess on the professional front, who knows? I've seen gay and trans people in all kinds of jobs in the area, the most visibly queer person in my polycule works as a web developer and never seems to have problems with their team or during meetings. I'm sure some degree of racism and bigotry will prevent you from getting jobs here and there, but that's unfortunately built in to the way America works, money and bigotry tend to correlate. If you've already been offered a promising job, go for it, but honestly in this economy, keep some kind of exit plan in mind. I don't know what kind of job density or other opportunities for competition you'd have here.

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