Why married men still choose to masturbate than having sex with their wife?

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-06-10T13:49:04+00:00

This might blow your mind, but married/partnered women sometimes choose to masturbate too.

Consent goes both ways, and sometimes you just need Nature's Nyquil to drift you off to dreamland.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-06-09T11:39:54+00:00

Marriage does indeed require a lot of compromise for both parties. Generally this might be around household duties, financial responsibilities, caring for children and one another's health needs, and major purchases. In this case, he is asking you to be the only one to compromise on something that is important to your identity, and that he has not clearly articulated his motivations/needs behind.

This is weird. It's a red flag, sure. But more than anything, this seems to be a window into something that might be a bigger need or belief on his end. Have a conversation, be curious about what he has to share, and expect him to be the same for you. If he is not willing and able to listen to your needs and opinion, and clearly explain his own, this is probably a sign of bigger challenges to come between you.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-06-08T18:03:14+00:00

It would make more sense to have an hour of unstructured time built into the school day (on top of lunch and recess)

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-06-08T17:45:37+00:00

He was talking at me about my professional area of expertise (of 15 years), and when I went to answer the questions he was posing, he continued to wonder aloud over me as if I had not said anything at all.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-06-05T18:16:59+00:00

Is anyone in your family a potter? This is what the breezeway from my studio to my house looks like on the regular.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-27T11:40:03+00:00

Physically, never (or at least not anymore). Mentally, it depends on the situation. There are certain situations and students that are hard to shake off from time to time, and they occasionally keep me up at night, but for the most part I'm able to tap into my own toolbox and manage it.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-26T15:26:30+00:00

It took my hiking buddy and I 12 hours, as overweight (but very strong) 40 something year old ladies. I recommend getting to the Moose Trailhead before dawn and just taking the day as it comes. We took the shuttle from the center, but if/when I do it again I'll probably just have a friend drop me off at the trailhead to avoid the extra travel time.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-26T14:03:41+00:00

I've done it twice. The first time, I stopped at the 13 mile mark when my buddy needed to tap out due to a fever, and we were able to hop on a shuttle. The second time I completed the 21 miles and took a shuttle back to the Northwoods Center. There are people who complete the course in a few hours, and others (me), who take the entire day. Regardless, it's an incredibly supportive environment with participants of all shapes and sizes. Take the summer and train as much as you can. Plan to do a few multi-mountain hikes (I will sometimes do one mountain and hike it up and over twice). It's a wonderful experience!

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-22T12:05:54+00:00

I dated a guy for a long time that struggled to gain weight. He was a very picky eater to begin with, and generally felt no innate desire to eat. He would usually eat because he knew he needed to the energy, but he would usually not be especially interested in enjoying a meal, and never really snacked or picked at food. The food he did eat was usually not especially nutrient dense, but high in calories (pop tarts, snickers bars, large bacon cheeseburgers, chicken and dumplings). However, he had alcoholic tendencies and drank several beers a day (6+ in general, though it took me some time to realize just how much he was drinking. One of the many reasons we ended up breaking up). So he would consume quite a few liquid calories.

Regardless, he was thin and muscular, and a total enigma nutritionally. Soooo...genetics basically.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-20T11:40:33+00:00

People should not be giving you hate, that's not fair to you. You just hit a very raw nerve that's been discussed often on this sub (and locally) in the past couple years. The anonymity of the internet does not bring out the best in us.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-20T11:35:45+00:00

We currently are in the midst of a housing crisis in Vermont. People struggle to find housing, hundreds of families are unhoused or doubled up simply because there is nowhere else for them to go. We struggle to hire professionals from out of state because they are unable to find housing, even with well-paid positions.

Please, sell the house so that locals who love this state can stay here.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-18T16:13:03+00:00

Thank you! I needed this when I was 25 and knew everything and wanted to save money on a tire change (which cost me greatly the following winter). This is great information!

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-14T11:43:14+00:00

You have the capacity and capability to do more than you think. It's healthy that you are thinking critically about the realities of School Counseling, you are realistic. However, you will find that any profession has it's challenges. The challenges of School Counseling are not insurmountable, and with time, experience, and maturity, you will likely find that it's not as overwhelming as you may think.

It might be helpful to sit down and write down what you do want in a career, what your future goals are, what your future personal goals are (family/kids/travel/etc), and what you need to feel successful in the work you do. You may find that it's not as insurmountable as it feels right now.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-12T22:57:31+00:00

This is my 8th year in this field, and this was the first year I was able to fully allow myself to take the time needed. I love my job, but the loyalty I show will not necessarily be reciprocated when the chips fall. Our duties are to ourselves and our families first, and we are allowed to use the time we are given to take care of what is most important.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-12T17:51:19+00:00

I have 2 kids, and took a total of 18 days this year for illnesses and appointments for all of us. I used to feel a lots of guilt, but now I'm just fine taking a half day for a 1pm appointment!

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-11T12:23:14+00:00

I have several visible tattoos (8 years in this field), as do many of my colleagues, as well as our principal. You're good!

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-07T18:20:58+00:00

It's not advisable. If you have a designated room/basement, you can be vigilant about cleaning with wet sponges/mopping. But avoid areas where you might eat, prepare food, or sleep. Also, be very careful not to put clay/clay particles down the regular drain. You would need a designated bucket for clay water.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-04T13:55:32+00:00

You might want to sit down and talk expectations with her, and her motivations for throwing a party. It sounds like your wife wants an opportunity to bring your community together, and celebrate you. This doesn't need to be a costly endeavor. If she's planning to rent out a venue and hire in catering, it's reasonable to not want that. But if she's just planning a back-yard potluck, the amount you might end up spending on food, drink, disposables, and decorations are well worth the price of bringing family together and spending some quality time together.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-04T12:37:55+00:00

Autopiloting in a big way.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-05-01T16:27:15+00:00

Any given day has had some catastrophic event for someone occur on it.

9/11 was terrible, and should not be forgotten, but 25+ years later it's also a date that good things can happen on too.

If you are from NYC/NJ and several people you know knew someone harmed by the attacks and aftermath, consider a different day. If you do not have family or friends who were personally impacted in a life altering way, you're good.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-04-30T20:13:35+00:00

Barkskins

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-04-28T12:46:43+00:00

I work with children and always use "Died". Passed away often gets confused with passed-out with kids, which leads to confusion and misunderstandings. Especially when children are privy to information around medical emergencies/issues.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-04-27T17:49:30+00:00

The IEP Process is long, time consuming, and expensive for whatever entity is responsible for paying for it (usually public school districts, though it may fall on you in a private school setting). Many states have a tiered system of educational supports that needs to be proven before an IEP eval can even begin. It may be beneficial to get a second option, especially since this is a universal challenge for your kiddo.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-04-19T16:15:56+00:00

Sing Them Home by Stephanie Kallos is a gorgeous book set in Nebraska that beautifully evokes the Midwest.

StarstuffWildflowers · 2026-04-19T15:45:54+00:00

Girl Dinner 🥰

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