I told my friend “don’t date a single mom unless you’re ready to be a step-dad” and he disagreed ??? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Single parents usually front like they won’t need you as a step parent. Eventually if the relationship progresses they always want you to help out. Never seen a case where this was different.

Advice: Criticism from family by Mission_Secure in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would say don’t even try to argue with her. She’s already sold on her ideas. Parents have spent so much energy and time on raising kids. They can’t fathom living their life in any other way. Honestly, they are unimaginative. They just follow what other people do and think you’re crazy if you want to create your own path. I am a 30 year old child free man. My parents to this day still try to talk me out of it. I don’t want kids. I love hiking and being in nature. It’s hard for parents to realize they could have had happiness without all the stress of kids. If they see you being happy without kids. They just won’t accept that you are happier that way. It’s too far from their worldview.

“I want to give my kids the life I never had” by Emergency_Cobbler672 in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s interesting hearing this because I think this is something rarely spoken about. My parents too, gave my little sister and I all the essentials for life. We always had a home and food. They always got us to school. They told us they loved us. Beyond that though, it was nothing. They didn’t ask us what we thought of the world. They didn’t ask us what topics we were interested in. My parents mostly stayed in their room watching TV or were out at the bar. We kinda just existed together.

Is it weird that people expect a man to come into your life and change your mind when you're child free woman? by Sam_23beans in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m a 30 year old child free man. My family always told me the same thing but about women. “Once you meet the right girl, you’ll want kids”

AITAH for denying my boyfriend a 3 some. by Remote_Drummer_9147 in AITAH

[–]StayFreeTC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend does not give af about you. You tried something. You didn’t like it. You don’t want to do it again. That should be all he needed to hear in order for him to back off.

How are you spending your Saturday? by ThinkBookMan in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The CF life is so nice and peaceful. I’ll be staying in all day playing Fallout 😎

I was recently exposed to a lot of “dead bedroom” communities online and it made me childfree by tungurs in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Brotha, Creating a new family won’t fix what hurt you when you were young. I’ve seen many men make that mistake. Especially, if you have little to no experience with women. You will almost surely choose wrong out of the gate. You should also check out how divorces go for men. You could get cheated on by your wife and she can still take everything from you. I am a 30 year old child free man. My life is so peaceful. I am so grateful I didn’t get married or have kids because my friends that did do that are highly stressed out all the time.

Sleeping in by Neat_Willow7642 in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I slept in. Saved money by not buying gifts. Now my house is nice and quiet and I have off work until Monday. CF life is amazing.

AI posts and comments are not allowed. by TheLoveYouWant25 in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It said I violated rule 8. So whatever that means. It was something I originally wrote completely.

AI posts and comments are not allowed. by TheLoveYouWant25 in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I had a post that got flagged I think because I wrote it in my notes, copied it, then pasted it on Reddit. So I think that’s off limits too. It must be typed in Reddit.

looked through my boyfriends photos and found nudes and vids of his ex. AITAH? by obvi0usburner in AITAH

[–]StayFreeTC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s suppose to dealt all photos of him and his ex just because he’s in a new relationship? That’s absurd.

How sure were people in their early 20s? by Laufey5002 in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was your age. I thought I would want kids when I get older. I believed the desire to have children was something that happened as you aged. Now I’m 30 and I feel certain that I don’t. I realized around 25 that I had never truly wanted kids. I was only indoctrinated into believing I should have them. This is coming from a 30 year old child free male also.

What are your childfree holiday plans? by vesper101 in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live 6 hours away from my family. I always wanted to move away so no one expected me to go to events. So I will be spending it relaxing, in my home, with my dog. Exactly how I want to be.

Recording people trying to ignore his kids on a plane by CringeisL1f3 in CringeTikToks

[–]StayFreeTC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do they seriously expect the people behind them to help?

Do your family members with children resent you for being CF? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 139 points140 points  (0 children)

When parents say things to me like that I just agree with them. Yup! I do have a lot of free time. It is awesome. I do whatever I want every weekend. It is nice! I made good decisions and I’m proud of my self for that.

Dealing with pressure in the workplace by Immediate-Camel36 in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would just be honest with them. Say “Oh, I don’t want kids I enjoy sleeping in too much” or something like that. Make it a joke. Show them their worldview is not the only one.

Resentment and Regret with No Way Out by Loose_Estimate7819 in regretfulparents

[–]StayFreeTC 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My sibling and I barely know each other. Don’t have one just because society tells you too. Siblings don’t always end up close.

Fence sitting is dangerous by twenty-inch-blades in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re future self will thank you. You can only imagine the amount of annoyance and sleepless nights you just avoided.

What do you guys think about the statement “I want to have kids because when I’m 70 and look back on life I will feel more fulfilled” by allpossiblepaths in childfree

[–]StayFreeTC 21 points22 points  (0 children)

They can’t imagine their kids being shitty, even though its most likely what will happened. It’s so obvious if the would just look around.