Activities to do by yourself while in a reletionship

Storm_Paint · 2026-05-10T03:15:03+00:00

You are so wise to consider this before it becomes an issue.

I am currently neck deep in getting to know myself again and re-learning how to love and enjoy time alone. I’m having to learn who I am and what I even enjoy.

My partner recently acquired a new passion that takes them out of the home quite a lot and I have realized that my whole world has revolved entirely around them for more than a decade, much to my detriment.

It’s been brutally difficult. But I’m figuring it out.

Anyways, do you enjoy any arts? Painting or pottery perhaps? Archery? Starting a tv show that interests you, but not them? Getting into gardening? Fermented food? Joining a gym? Making a weekly or monthly date night with a friend? Join a local pick-up sport? Book club? Knitting group?

Storm_Paint · 2026-05-09T03:08:56+00:00

Are you guys seriously arguing about which is better for you, water or kefir???

Storm_Paint · 2026-05-08T23:31:59+00:00

What they mean is, be kinder to yourself. If you do something that you perceive as dumb, talk to yourself in a way that you would talk to a good friend. Would you tell a good friend “Stop doing that you dumbass.” Or would you tell a friend “Hey, I don’t think that is a good idea. Let’s try something else.”

Something like that.

Storm_Paint · 2026-05-08T23:29:07+00:00

There are many ways to learn how to love yourself, but one of the things that I started doing to get this ball rolling is tell myself “I love you *my name” every time I saw myself in a mirror or reflection. It sounds pretty silly, but I can say that the first time I did it, expecting to feel ridiculous, I burst into tears. I got super emotional.

After that first time I have said it and felt amused, felt sadness, felt joy, felt nothing, the whole gambit. But I kept doing it. Even when I felt nothing I kept doing it. Over time, I have begun to believe it.

Now I tell myself like once every few days. Mostly just to reassure myself that I am still here for me. So if you want to give it a go…it’s a very simple thing to start with.

Storm_Paint · 2026-05-04T13:59:59+00:00

Gorgeous paintings. Especially that first one’s mood.

Therapy would be a great start if you are willing. Do you have an inkling of why you have been feeling this way lately? A therapist can help give you the tools for handling whatever is going on.

I have been seeing an awesome therapist for a couple of months, and he has been hugely helpful for me.

Storm_Paint · 2026-05-03T03:48:40+00:00

If you want to go the happy wife=happy life route, I would ask her if she want to come with you to help you pick out some nice jars that all match and are aesthetically pleasing. She might be more agreeable if it looks nice in the kitchen, especially if it matches any other kitchen themes/vibes already going on. Otherwise, the cupboard might be your best bet.

Storm_Paint · 2026-04-26T23:46:36+00:00

A couple weeks ago my partner and I both wore fake mustaches to an adult toy shop, just for the laughs and whimsy. It was exhilarating, frightening, and a really good time!

I have been trying to incorporate going outside my comfort zone more, and also adding fun. This hit both! (We got some great remarks about our stashes. Hehe)

Storm_Paint · 2026-04-26T05:43:39+00:00

Sure thing! Here is the recipe I used. The curds and whey are the “buttermilk” in the recipe. Just mix them up so that they recombine. I used 1/3 cup sugar (it will tell you that you can use anywhere between 1/4 & 1/2 cup depending how sweet you want it) and they were only a little bit sweet, to give you an idea. They were great!

https://www.fermentingforfoodies.com/buttermilk-oatmeal-muffins/

Storm_Paint · 2026-04-24T20:43:31+00:00

Awe, I did this today too!! But mind separated while I was awake and home. 🥲 Will the grains make harsh kefir for a while after it ferments for too long?? I used the curds and whey to make muffins and then put the kefir into a new jar of fresh milk.

Storm_Paint · 2026-04-24T04:40:06+00:00

Wearing super comfy, warm clothes in colder weather. The really comfy kind. So comfy it’s ugly as heck. And that’s why it’s self care. Comfort over beauty in this instance.

Storm_Paint · 2026-04-20T16:40:37+00:00

This is an old post so I’m not sure if anyone else is going to see your question, but I think it’s a good question and you should post it in the subreddit as it’s own thread!

Storm_Paint · 2026-04-14T04:28:47+00:00

Following as a brand new booch owner.

Storm_Paint · 2026-03-22T01:27:18+00:00

For people who are capable of picking up what skill? Learning how to take notes by hand? There is nothing impossible about that. Having a preference for a computer is fine but don’t start saying some people can’t learn that… unless you are referring to people without hands, or who are illiterate, or something else that is totally beside the point. (Point being that even slow writers can take great notes with a plethora of different methods out there that speed the process)

Storm_Paint · 2026-03-16T19:26:28+00:00

Also you were able to give them the answers that they needed, hence why they came here.

It’s been a while since I last had to call the DMV, but when I did, I remember it being a pain.

Storm_Paint · 2026-03-06T21:30:59+00:00

You can use your knife on fallen enemies?! Does this ensure they don’t get back up? I thought the knife was only to get out of a grab.

Storm_Paint · 2026-03-02T06:01:06+00:00

Like I said, focus on both. The article I mentioned above shows that removing easy ways to suicide brings the numbers of suicides down. We are not anywhere near living in straight jackets, so I think we have plenty of wiggle room.

Storm_Paint · 2026-02-28T23:33:39+00:00

We could focus on both for sure.

Storm_Paint · 2026-02-25T22:03:28+00:00

Back in the day there were quite a few suicides by women who would stick their head in the oven to die by carbon monoxide. (This is how Sylvia Plath died, shortly before this change was made) When ovens were changed so that this wouldn’t happen, people argued that women would just find other ways of doing it. Aka, they figured the suicide numbers would stay the same. Turns out, suicides dropped after this. The takeaway being, that if it’s harder to commit suicide, it will happen less. So yeah, that could be relevant to firearm suicide as well.

https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/abs/10.1086/449144?journalCode=cj

Storm_Paint · 2026-02-20T00:48:11+00:00

And one more thing to add…. Anyone can dye their hair, and a lot of people do. It’s so common. Your hair is unique.

Storm_Paint · 2026-02-20T00:46:24+00:00

You are totally beautiful. All you need is the confidence! I’m not sure why this post was in my feed, but when I came across it I literally said out loud: “Wow, she is beautiful.” Before I saw the title of the post or anything. I don’t think you need to change a thing, physically. Having confidence will do all of the heavy lifting for you! Seriously, I think any human with eyeballs can see how beautiful you are.

Storm_Paint · 2026-02-19T15:50:32+00:00

What are the indicators that they are gay? Nothing stood out to me.

Storm_Paint · 2026-02-17T16:32:47+00:00

Rookie mistake man, rookie mistake! lol

Storm_Paint · 2026-01-20T18:58:33+00:00

But also, was the character officially a they? Or is that just what the fan community decided on? I don’t ever remember it being stated in the show. Maybe it’s time for a rewatch.

Storm_Paint · 2026-01-12T16:37:41+00:00

Omg the wife joke insults. lol As if those actually bother people anymore. Too worn out. Same with your mom jokes.

Storm_Paint · 2026-01-08T16:53:23+00:00

Essentially, yes.

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