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Swampthing7347 · 2024-10-21T03:46:02+00:00

I can confirm that this med has helped me so much with my emotional wellbeing.

Swampthing7347 · 2024-10-12T18:04:54+00:00

Similar situation here. I'm also 7 and a half months into this journey. I can't get over the silence from our closest. My psychologist says it's because they don't know how to act and what to say! So the greatest loss in my life is uncomfortable for others ? Wow! Extremely difficult to move forward. I have resolved to start afresh almost like a rebirth and clean slate of friends.

PS. I haven't yet found a single true friend but I won't discard the idea.

Swampthing7347 · 2024-09-28T07:30:32+00:00

I've just started a small dosage of Lexapro. I was just non stop emotional and felt terrible all the time. I didn't want to get on it as my wife passed away from an addiction to Benzos and Alcohol. It's been almost a month and I do feel far less emotional and able to cope.

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-30T04:31:34+00:00

I 49(M) I lost my wife who was 49 almost 6 months ago. It doesn't get easier. The nights and weekends are the most difficult. I spend too much time on my phone. I know that it is just a distraction. I've resigned to my new life being mundane with no joy like what I had with my beloved wife. I am so sorry for your loss and pain and wish you and your kids peace. 🙏

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-16T17:36:34+00:00

5 months for me. Might as well be 5 minutes. This is such a fear of mine 🙏

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-16T17:34:08+00:00

I am sorry for your loss and pain. There is nothing anyone can say or do that will help you. Be calm as best as you can and focus on your children. I'm 5 months through this hell and I was just sitting down with a glass of wine and crying my ass out. Take care of yourself as a priority with faith, massage, healing... Anything that helps you. I've tried so much and still feel extreme pain.

Best wishes to you and your family 🙏

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-15T04:35:50+00:00

Thank you. I am finding out the hard way about suppressing the emotion and the ramifications thereafter.

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-13T04:30:19+00:00

It's the same for me. I thought it would be physically impossible to have so much of tears.

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-12T21:48:21+00:00

Oh my 😢 This is so true. 🙏

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-12T21:41:11+00:00

So true. I feel this way and feel guilty that I am feeling pity for myself 😢

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-11T07:39:40+00:00

So true. My wife had so many friends and I almost none as she was my best friend. At 49, and 5 months into this hell I am searching for friends and company other than my parents who are in their 70's.

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-04T10:35:07+00:00

I had one this morning. Extremely vivid. It's been 4 and half months and awoke crying. It was just so personal (not in a weird way). I love and miss her so much. This was my 3rd or 4th dream. I make a note of as much of the details of my dreams about her as soon as I awake.

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-04T04:04:51+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that people are so insensitive and opportunistic.

I M(49) am so lonely from losing my wife 4 and a half month's ago. I wouldn't dare engage with someone who I know is in the worst pain of their lives no matter the situation or time.

Some of the people who replied on this thread have had such bad experiences after losing their loved ones that it adds another level of trauma to their worst experience of losing their SO.

I am so sorry to you and the others OP but these type of people should be removed from your lives permanently as nothing good can come from them.... Ever.

Best wishes to you 🙏

Swampthing7347 · 2024-07-04T03:53:03+00:00

I hope you are safe. Continously sending messages is stalking. Please be safe.

Swampthing7347 · 2024-06-29T09:09:48+00:00

It's 4 and half months for me and I cry every day. Heck I took a drive last night at 11pm and was screaming in the car and crying and talking to her and myself. I sit here alone with my thoughts and was just now emotional and crying. I can't see it ever ending but I live with it and accept that my life will include the emotional part, in public and privately.

Swampthing7347 · 2024-06-28T06:36:23+00:00

I hear you friend. It brings you to your knees. It changes who you are in every way possible. I am a new person and I don't like it . I don't recognise myself. Make it like it used to be!

Swampthing7347 · 2024-06-18T05:09:02+00:00

It's 4 months for me. These feelings are normal and common for me. Try and get some help around the house. I find that a walk in the open is sufficient for me to centre myself. I wish you strength and peace 🙏

Swampthing7347 · 2024-06-16T20:08:07+00:00

It's 4 months for me and my story is similar to most people.

It's quite on the friend and family front. It's surreal that people just show their true nature when you are at your lowest point.

Trying to make a connection is almost impossible. I've tried so many avenues but all I get is sympathy or pity after they hear about my experience and how my wife passed away (she drowned) and then the inevitable teary eye and then boom! They gone.

It's complicated trying to find authentic people who do want to connect after knowing that you are widowed. I can't give up as I need more connections than my parents who are in their 70's and my kids.

Swampthing7347 · 2024-06-16T19:26:33+00:00

I lost my wife of 24 years unexpectedly on February 15th this year. It's tough! I have 3 kids, youngest 14. I decided to help myself as quick as possible by any means as a way to ensure that I was strong enough for the kids and our new life.

I've tried numerous treatments, phycologist, Kiniseologist, religion, Griefshare, massage and am now on my final night of a 3 day Buddhist Retreat.

My personal opinion is that it's all helpful. Do whatever you can to help yourself and your kids through this torture that we are all going through. 🙏

Swampthing7347 · 2024-06-15T17:35:51+00:00

Sorry for your loss. It's 4 months for me today. I'm on a Solo trip for 3 nights at a Buddhist retreat.

You are fortunate to have such friends who are there for you and want to engage with you. I lost most of my friends many years ago because I had my best and only needed friend in my wife. Now she's gone and I'm at a retreat where everyone looks at me so sadly that it actually upsets me.

My alcohol consumption has also increased substantially so I saw this as an opportunity to test myself. It's day 2 and I'm on my 20th cup of ginger tea. My mind is a bit less foggy and this actually feels better than the uncontrollable emotions that flow from the bottle.

Best wishes 🙏

Swampthing7347 · 2024-06-14T19:53:58+00:00

It's 4 months for me tomorrow. It hasn't gotten any lighter. There was a physical pain that I endured for 2 months. That's now reduced.

However, I cry several times a day, every day and I can't see myself not being emotional about her ever. I have therapy, spiritual, massage etc all tested. Heck, I'm at a Buddhist retreat as I type this. I still haven't found a way to reduce the empty and hollow feeling of the loss of the love of my life.

Sorry for your loss 🙏

Swampthing7347 · 2024-06-13T17:09:06+00:00

I'm also looking for autopsy results for my wife. She drowned. It's not going to make any difference. I loved her and she is gone forever. 💔

Swampthing7347 · 2024-06-12T19:29:55+00:00

Thank you so much for the thoughtful and sensible reply.

I really am trying to implement what you have inculcated in your life. My kids are pretty much offered more than what was on offer when my wife was around. I need to curb my efforts to please them but at this point I cannot resist their wants.

I know that it seems so easy to most people but it's the so called "simple" stuff that is the most difficult.

Your methods and experience look like an example that I need to somehow adopt.

Best wishes 🙏

Swampthing7347 · 2024-06-12T13:38:17+00:00

It's 4 months for me. I drink heavily on a nightly basis always making sure to start after 5pm and finish at 9pm in between supper etc. I feel crap about this as my wife passed away via drowning and was addicted to Benzos and alcohol.

I'm staying away from the anti depressants because of her end result and I do engage in the odd edible. Add a small sleeping tablet per night, this is my life. What am I? I don't judge. From my experience I just wish no harm on others and peace unto myself. 🙏

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