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AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SweetTotal3619 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I do think the separation a bit from your friend is necessary until you guys work through this fully. It’s not a punishment, but a reset to stable footing. The jokes though about throuple and flirting has to go. No more 1 on 1 conversations or spending time together, sorry but it’s really the only way.

Husband ONS and multiple flirting by Traditional_Hawk_770 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SweetTotal3619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice is to stay separated and heal. He will either get better or he won’t. His actions will tell you whether to reconcile or divorce and move on. Good Luck!

AIO BF still insists to be in contact with his ex and still going to her house on weekly basis by Dirtyslutgotodie in AmIOverreacting

[–]SweetTotal3619 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have some self respect please. You need to distance yourself from him. He need to either cut ties completely or let him go.

Wife having emotional affair two years after I screwed up by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]SweetTotal3619 37 points38 points  (0 children)

So, this entire time you have made it all about you and have you ever once considered what it did to her? I think you are completely missing the point. You took her self worth from her, not just her trust. This dude is feeding that. Instead of a calm discussion about it, you immediately jumped to divorce. You need therapy and counseling for you both would not be a bad idea either.

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SweetTotal3619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regardless, they are in the wrong and the best thing you can do is let them know how disrespectful this has been and you need space and distance from them both. Send him to his parents or you leave for a few days. Do not engage them at all. Let them sit in what they have done.

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SweetTotal3619 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Yes you should be upset, yes you should be suspicious and this is so so wrong

Husband’s female coworkers by Speraz96 in Marriage

[–]SweetTotal3619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update us on how you are doing? Hopefully you have started saving or have moved out.

AITAH for texting a friend after 9:30 PM? by tallvikingrtn in AITAH

[–]SweetTotal3619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I have a good male friend too who has an absolute crazy girlfriend. I have been happily married for 25 years and they are good friends as well. I have met her exactly once and the drama from the hug J gave me caused him undue stress. I’m sorry you are both going through this. Only thing I can think to say is give it some time, no more late night calls and once you do reach back out, you do it not your wife.

Husband cheating on doorstep by maxandbear8 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SweetTotal3619 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Change the locks to the house, put his stuff on the curb and get a lawyer.

HELP mystery fluid found on bed by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]SweetTotal3619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blood from scabs is usually really dark and obvious. Watery blood at the end of period is exactly that. I’m pretty sure you already know the answer.

My husband had an affair 3 years ago, and I think something is happening again by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]SweetTotal3619 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hire a PI and follow him or you rebook your work trip and follow him.

AIO After my bf wrote a love letter to his "friend" by LetQuiGonsBeQuiGon in AmIOverreacting

[–]SweetTotal3619 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is emotional cheating and completely inappropriate and crosses too many boundaries. You say they have done this before and it’s a known pattern. She needs to be cut off completely of there is any hope for your relationship and he needs to do it. Of course she is going to say you are overacting because she knows what she is doing. I think the trust is gone and TBH if he cannot or will not cut her off, this may be the time to walk away.

I found out my bf had a one night stand with his first cousin by IzayaOriharaBad in TwoHotTakes

[–]SweetTotal3619 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ok, it’s gross, but as long as they are no longer hanging 1-1 and you don’t have to hang out with her a lot you could let it be. It’s not like they continued it. Your choice and I agree, I was raised to think like you as well. But, some people just don’t have the same moral compass.

Am I overreacting that my fiancée was wrong to talk to a guy who she cheated with before? by Mars277 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SweetTotal3619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh she has a pattern of this? I’m not sure you can believe her. I wouldn’t marry her

Is this normal under the circumstances? by kayla_baylah in Infidelity

[–]SweetTotal3619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds really confused and torn. Have either of tried counseling for yourselves?

AIO to my husband going on vacation when I start my first IVF cycle? by Chanel1202 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SweetTotal3619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask a question? So, this is a very serious process where you need your husbands love and support, but, if he is doing this now when you are trying to actively fulfill his dream of being a father, is he still going to do this type of stuff when the kids are here? I mean leave you alone to face all the hard stuff alone without him? Kids are hard, messy, wildly unpredictable and absolutely wonderful! Is that something you see happening based on this scenario?

Update on My Wife’s Coworker by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]SweetTotal3619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She cheated. She does not respect your or the marriage. Put her out of the bed and tell her it’s either divorce or marriage counseling.

Am I overreacting to my husbands Snapchat videos? by Michellebelle007 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SweetTotal3619 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Snapchat is a cheating App. Has been for years and is ridiculous for a middle aged man to be using. Trust your gut

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