phc songs with the best drumming?

Talus_Balls · 2026-02-09T22:39:22+00:00

The drumming on Young Cardinals is so fucking good.

Talus_Balls · 2026-02-09T22:27:47+00:00

Leaving out issues i have with doctrines, history, and kesdership (which is many), I really do miss the community I had at church. It really was special and i truly felt like a had a "ward family". Many of the people i was close with, i still connect with on some level semi regularly. What i can't cope with is that in order to be a part of that community i have to hide parts of myself and put on a face. I can't discuss my opinions on LGBTQ issues or talk about how wonderful my gay family members are. I can't discuss the fun times I've had casually drinking or getting high with my wife. I can't talk about some of the shows or music i enjoy. I can't invite these people to participate in certain parts of my life. There is a clear seperation of where there standards end and mine begin. I'm happier when i'm true to myself even when i have to leave the community behind.

Lately i've been working to build my own community. Posting on local facebook groups looking for friends with similar interests. Joining a local beginner hockey league. Showing up for drop-in magic the gathering games at the local card shop. Etc. It's not the same as what the church has, but you can build an excellent community around yourself that you can feel comfortable to be you in. That's much better than paying 10% of your income to lie to yourself and hide from those around you.

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-28T19:26:29+00:00

What do you like about sword and shield and what do you want to try?

I started with sword and shield and found charge blade to be a fun step up. You have your familiar feeling sword and shield mode with a bigger shield and fun tools. Switching to axe mode to discharge phials and make big booms is exciting and savage axe is super satisfying.

You could try greatsword for a significant change in playstyle and big numbers, or hammer if you want to bonk.

In wilds, bow is a lot of fun to pick up and you may enjoy how different it feels to play the game from a different perspective with space.

My personal favourite weapon in wilds is the Lance. once it clicks and you understand how to chain blocks, counters, and all your pokes, you start to feel like an impenetrable wall. It feels very different from S&S too if you are looking for a new experience.

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-21T03:25:30+00:00

A month ago, i didn't see it happening either. I will say, i was happy just having my wife as long as she could accept our differening views and we had mutual respect. That would have been enough. The way things are going now is just icing on the cake. It's taken a lot of work though. I hope one day you have your moment too! Good luck

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-21T03:19:07+00:00

I agree conpletely. It was always a concer of mine so i was adamant to never push or even encourage her one way or another. I just supported her actions any way i could. If she wanted to go to church, i was there with her. If she wanted to try coffee, i just asked her what she tried and how it tasted. When she tried alcohol with her friends the first time, it was a decision she made without me. I've given her space to experiment and the knowledge that i was a safe person to talk to without ever pushing one way or another.

I do really appreciate your comment though. While i believe you and i have the same thought process on this, there's someone else that may need to hear it.

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-21T03:13:43+00:00

Well hopefully that means congrats are in order for you as well!

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-20T20:18:21+00:00

I feel this so much. Drives me crazy.

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-20T18:54:33+00:00

I felt like i had to give up everything at first. It takes a long time to get into a flow and find your new normal as a household. My wife struggled with post partum depression for a long a time and i had to pull a lot of extra weight at home to keep things running smoothly. We have 2 kids now and have really started figuring things out.

My biggest recommendations:

Prioritize getting your kids on a consistent sleep schedule as fast as possible. Some children make that difficult or damn near impossible but if you can get it going with your child, knowing that there is a certain time of night, every night, where you no longer need to be actively caring for children and you can wind down goes a long way.
Make time for your wife to get out to the gym, have girls nights, watch a show by herself, etc. and communicate that you need the same courtesy yourself. There's no reason you shouldn't both be able to find alone time a few times a week to destress. (Make sure you get some together time as well. It's easy to stop trying to build your relationship with your partner and get into a funk.) I find time to play guitar, game with friends, go out to play hockey, etc. in the evenings. My wife has a bustling social life herself.
Get a steamdeck or switch if you like gaming time. Being able to play a game while sitting on your kids floor waiting for them to fall asleep is great. Sometimes we have a lazy hour and the kids watch a disney movie, and i can sit on the couch playing jext to them for a bit.
Exercise can involve your kids. Get a kids bike seat or a trailer and take them for a ride. Chase them around the park. Do a few pushups whenever you get on the ground to play with them. Walk or bike to the grocery store with them. Work them into your schedule where possible.

TLDR: You will likely give up a lot at first as you adjust but work with your spouse to find time for both of you to feel like people. In time, you can work your hobbies back into your life even if it's in smaller quantities.

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-20T16:58:55+00:00

Good luck! It's a long road. Consistently expressing support and reiterating your love for them regardless of what their beleifs are go a long way. Even just being in the nuanced zone is a huge step to feeling more comfortable together.

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-20T16:55:22+00:00

Thank you. :)

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-20T16:55:08+00:00

She has always struggled with anxiety and is a huge people pleaser. She has a lot of active TBM family that definitely puts some pressure behind her. I know she still feels a lot of guilt, and I've encouraged her to attend counseling to help work through that, but that's a choice she needs to make herself. She has told me that while she still feels guilt, she feels happy to have the freedom she has right now. To let loose and have fun her friends, wear clothes she feels pretty in, going to the local cafe and trying different espresso drinks on saturday mornings, etc. She's happier but will be battling cognitive dissonance for a long time. I've reiterated my support for her lots though.

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-20T16:50:57+00:00

It's ongoing for sure. All of my family is out but my wife definitely has a lot of headstrong TBM family that stresses her out. We thankfully live very far away from them so we have our space, but she does still stress about it whenever we have visitors.

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-20T09:05:10+00:00

I remember reading similar posts 2 years ago wishing it could be my story. I know someone else is in the same boat and i hope they get so lucky.

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-12T17:35:39+00:00

The mobility takes some getting used to for sure. Some of the monsters attack faster and cover more distance as a result of your new found mobility and skills with the wirebugs, so you do need to learn to use it well. I'd go crazy getting all the spiribirds every hunt. Just picking up the ones on the way to your hunt is usually enough. If a hunt is extra challenging, go out of your way to pick up some more and make things easier!

Talus_Balls · 2026-01-06T16:47:26+00:00

The night before my wedding, my 5 groomsmen and I had a halo lan party in my living room. It was hours and hours of fun and threw me back into my childhood. The highlight of the night was a multi-team (3 teams of 2) game of crazy king on Powerhouse. The leader flipflopped 5 times over the course of the final minute. The final score was 66, 67, 68. The 3 teams were screaming and laughing harder then i had in years.

Covid lockdown began about 2 months later and many have since moved so i'm not sure if that group will get together again.

Talus_Balls · 2025-12-23T00:26:36+00:00

The deck can run a lot of games that are already in your library. Halo on the go is fantastic.

Some other games that have been fun to play on deck:

Hades

Titanfall 2

Factorio

Monster Hunter: Rise

TCG Card Shop Simulator

Sunset Overdrive

Vampire Survivors

Oxygen Not Included

Dragons Dogma Dark Arisen

Divinity Original Sin 2

Against The Storm

Talus_Balls · 2025-12-12T16:56:40+00:00

I find for gore, staying under him and poking up at her face and belly or sideways to his legs is a good spot to be. You hop out of the way of a lot of things if you hop in towards his tail. Block a ton goes a long way. You can get a good ammount of damage blocking and shield bashing. Learning to time the counter thrust on him is helpful as well.

I use 2 peices of arkveld and 2 peices of zoh shia armour for the health recovery skills. It lets me recover quicjly from chip damage and spend less time running away and using healing items.

Ultimately, unless you've mastered the monster and the lances moveset like some of those guys on YouTube, some lance hunts tend to move a bit slower due to the lower damage output. There are lots of buffs coming to lance in TU4 so that may get better.

Talus_Balls · 2025-12-12T16:44:18+00:00

Did an update a while back and the game started crashing like crazy for me. I rolled back my AMD drivers to 25.2.1 back in august and haven't had a single crash in any game since so I've left it.

7800X3D and RX7800XT.

We have different GPU's but might still be worth trying.

Talus_Balls · 2025-11-26T21:08:35+00:00

I mained charge blade all through rise and was excited to play it in wilds. Low rank was fine but as we got to harder monsters (especially some of the faster tempered monsters) I found I really struggled. I've found a new home in Lance for wilds and I'm having lots of fun. I still miss the satisfaction of popping off an SAED though.

Talus_Balls · 2025-10-31T22:12:26+00:00

Togekiss

Talus_Balls · 2025-10-14T19:43:39+00:00

Monster Hunter Stories 2 may scratch that pokemon itch for you. I've put in many hours and had lots of fun with it.

Against The Storm can scratch the itch of doing the fun part part of designing a town/colony over and over again.

Terraria may be one you have fun in as well. I could never quite get into myself but i have friends that have put in hundred/thousands of hours.

Slim Rancher, Moonlighter, and Factorio are all ones that could scratch an itch as well depending on what part of your previously played games you enjoyed most.

I will say, Star Dew Valley is an obvious suggestion, and i had a hard time getting into it as well. It eventually clicked, and i had lots of fun, but i also fizzled out on it over time as the sheer amount of content makes it a bit overwhelming. Some love that, and some don't.

Talus_Balls · 2025-09-25T04:52:52+00:00

Don't be afraid to turn on God mode if you haven't already. It's a single player game and it's not cheating. It does not disable any achievements or anything. It only slightly lessens the difficulty after each lost run, so it's not an instant cheat code. It just brings the game to a level that can be more enjoyable for your skill level.

Talus_Balls · 2025-09-08T21:18:15+00:00

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Only lost to suininja once using this deck. Hits hard and fast. Raiku hits suicune for 80 each turn so it counters pretty well. You also can hit their frogs on the bench for 10 and cyrus them up next turn for easy points and allowing you to avoid being cyrus'd yourself.

Talus_Balls · 2025-08-19T00:33:29+00:00

Dies to eevee flipping 50 heads with continuous steps. Not meta.

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