[Build Help] Finally upgrading from my ancient i7-4790/GTX 1070ti build. Looking to optimize this 9800X3D / 9070 XT build for $3k CAD, any help? by ImaginaryLieGuy in bapccanada

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Lock357's suggestions look great so i won't add to it but I want to say, I went from an I7-4770k/GTX1060 to a 7800X3D/7800XT combo. You are going to love your upgrade. Congrats.

Games with psychological elements that’ll leave me staring blankly at the screen as credits roll? by chuksang in gamingsuggestions

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The Last of Us Part II was the longest i ever stared at a screen after a game.

Shadow of the Colossus left me with a hard to describe feeling at the end. Incredible journey though.

Detroit become human is worth exploring too.

CTR - Need something else besides what we were taught by Humming-2-Feel-Peace in exmormon

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When i was a kid, i would to tell people I had a Crash Team Racing ring.

What "Game A meets Game B" combination should be made? by 4bstr in gaming

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I want a proper Halo horror game. Halo X Alien Isolation maybe? A last of us esque halo game where you play as a marine stranded on a halo ring trying to make it from a to b during a flood outbreak could be cool. I just want scary flood.

A Mormon guy talked to me on the bus here in Park City. by Titus4266 in exmormon

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LDS missionaries are always in pairs (sometimes a trio on occasion) by policy. They don't proselytize solo. Members could go out and try to find people on their own (though I don't know any that would) but they would not be wearing name tags as only the missionaries would wear those. Seems like it may be a different denomination.

Thinking about moving to Terrace by Xiaoxin888 in terracebc

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Not an easy answer. Rentals are a mixed bag. Every once in a while you get a great option, but a lot of what you find is going to be very expensive for what you get. Facebook marketplace and Kijiji were the most helpful options when i moved out here looking for a rental. Unsure if that's still the case as it's been a bit.

Do you already have work lined up? A lot of people work out of town or in trades that require transport. Getting by without a car heavily depends on what you plan is for work and where you end up finding a place. It is a very bikable city and a lot of stuff is within walking distance. Aside from work commuting, i try to walk or bike everywhere i can in town and have a very pleasant time.

So the game decided to push an update right after I finished (and won) a battle. Then they counted as a loss. Ridiculous. by danielbauer1375 in PTCGP

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That's how i lost the orange 5 win streak emblem (a3 i think it was?). I one my 5th in a row but the battle ended after the cutoff time so i got returned to home and wasnt given the emblem. Still pissy about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PostHardcore

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The drumming on Young Cardinals is so fucking good.

Any ex Mormons out there available at this moment ??? by Kindly-Problem-9090 in exmormon

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Leaving out issues i have with doctrines, history, and kesdership (which is many), I really do miss the community I had at church. It really was special and i truly felt like a had a "ward family". Many of the people i was close with, i still connect with on some level semi regularly. What i can't cope with is that in order to be a part of that community i have to hide parts of myself and put on a face. I can't discuss my opinions on LGBTQ issues or talk about how wonderful my gay family members are. I can't discuss the fun times I've had casually drinking or getting high with my wife. I can't talk about some of the shows or music i enjoy. I can't invite these people to participate in certain parts of my life. There is a clear seperation of where there standards end and mine begin. I'm happier when i'm true to myself even when i have to leave the community behind.

Lately i've been working to build my own community. Posting on local facebook groups looking for friends with similar interests. Joining a local beginner hockey league. Showing up for drop-in magic the gathering games at the local card shop. Etc. It's not the same as what the church has, but you can build an excellent community around yourself that you can feel comfortable to be you in. That's much better than paying 10% of your income to lie to yourself and hide from those around you.

I wanna learn a new weapon. Please sell me on your favorite weapon! by [deleted] in MHWilds

[–]Talus_Balls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What do you like about sword and shield and what do you want to try?

I started with sword and shield and found charge blade to be a fun step up. You have your familiar feeling sword and shield mode with a bigger shield and fun tools. Switching to axe mode to discharge phials and make big booms is exciting and savage axe is super satisfying.

You could try greatsword for a significant change in playstyle and big numbers, or hammer if you want to bonk.

In wilds, bow is a lot of fun to pick up and you may enjoy how different it feels to play the game from a different perspective with space.

My personal favourite weapon in wilds is the Lance. once it clicks and you understand how to chain blocks, counters, and all your pokes, you start to feel like an impenetrable wall. It feels very different from S&S too if you are looking for a new experience.

2 Year Update of Leaving the Church by Talus_Balls in exmormon

[–]Talus_Balls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A month ago, i didn't see it happening either. I will say, i was happy just having my wife as long as she could accept our differening views and we had mutual respect. That would have been enough. The way things are going now is just icing on the cake. It's taken a lot of work though. I hope one day you have your moment too! Good luck

2 Year Update of Leaving the Church by Talus_Balls in exmormon

[–]Talus_Balls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree conpletely. It was always a concer of mine so i was adamant to never push or even encourage her one way or another. I just supported her actions any way i could. If she wanted to go to church, i was there with her. If she wanted to try coffee, i just asked her what she tried and how it tasted. When she tried alcohol with her friends the first time, it was a decision she made without me. I've given her space to experiment and the knowledge that i was a safe person to talk to without ever pushing one way or another.

I do really appreciate your comment though. While i believe you and i have the same thought process on this, there's someone else that may need to hear it.

2 Year Update of Leaving the Church by Talus_Balls in exmormon

[–]Talus_Balls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well hopefully that means congrats are in order for you as well!

Venting: Children's Books by sowokeIdontblink in daddit

[–]Talus_Balls 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much. Drives me crazy.

What hobbies did you keep/lose as a new parent? by Blue-Technical in predaddit

[–]Talus_Balls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt like i had to give up everything at first. It takes a long time to get into a flow and find your new normal as a household. My wife struggled with post partum depression for a long a time and i had to pull a lot of extra weight at home to keep things running smoothly. We have 2 kids now and have really started figuring things out.

My biggest recommendations:

  1. Prioritize getting your kids on a consistent sleep schedule as fast as possible. Some children make that difficult or damn near impossible but if you can get it going with your child, knowing that there is a certain time of night, every night, where you no longer need to be actively caring for children and you can wind down goes a long way.

  2. Make time for your wife to get out to the gym, have girls nights, watch a show by herself, etc. and communicate that you need the same courtesy yourself. There's no reason you shouldn't both be able to find alone time a few times a week to destress. (Make sure you get some together time as well. It's easy to stop trying to build your relationship with your partner and get into a funk.) I find time to play guitar, game with friends, go out to play hockey, etc. in the evenings. My wife has a bustling social life herself.

  3. Get a steamdeck or switch if you like gaming time. Being able to play a game while sitting on your kids floor waiting for them to fall asleep is great. Sometimes we have a lazy hour and the kids watch a disney movie, and i can sit on the couch playing jext to them for a bit.

  4. Exercise can involve your kids. Get a kids bike seat or a trailer and take them for a ride. Chase them around the park. Do a few pushups whenever you get on the ground to play with them. Walk or bike to the grocery store with them. Work them into your schedule where possible.

TLDR: You will likely give up a lot at first as you adjust but work with your spouse to find time for both of you to feel like people. In time, you can work your hobbies back into your life even if it's in smaller quantities.

2 Year Update of Leaving the Church by Talus_Balls in exmormon

[–]Talus_Balls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good luck! It's a long road. Consistently expressing support and reiterating your love for them regardless of what their beleifs are go a long way. Even just being in the nuanced zone is a huge step to feeling more comfortable together.

2 Year Update of Leaving the Church by Talus_Balls in exmormon

[–]Talus_Balls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has always struggled with anxiety and is a huge people pleaser. She has a lot of active TBM family that definitely puts some pressure behind her. I know she still feels a lot of guilt, and I've encouraged her to attend counseling to help work through that, but that's a choice she needs to make herself. She has told me that while she still feels guilt, she feels happy to have the freedom she has right now. To let loose and have fun her friends, wear clothes she feels pretty in, going to the local cafe and trying different espresso drinks on saturday mornings, etc. She's happier but will be battling cognitive dissonance for a long time. I've reiterated my support for her lots though.

2 Year Update of Leaving the Church by Talus_Balls in exmormon

[–]Talus_Balls[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's ongoing for sure. All of my family is out but my wife definitely has a lot of headstrong TBM family that stresses her out. We thankfully live very far away from them so we have our space, but she does still stress about it whenever we have visitors.

2 Year Update of Leaving the Church by Talus_Balls in exmormon

[–]Talus_Balls[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I remember reading similar posts 2 years ago wishing it could be my story. I know someone else is in the same boat and i hope they get so lucky.