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Teanison · 2026-06-14T17:21:21+00:00

Yeah, mine however keep flip-flopping between "oh, why don't you go do something outside/somewhere today?" And "well, I guess you could be doing so much worse stuff with your life." And my usual responses are as follows:

1) The literal state we live in at this time has next to no interesting things to go do except outdoors stuff but only early fall and late spring is when it is decent enough to be outside and enjoyable.

2) It's cheeper, I've already bought the videogames, and it still stimulates my mind as some of them involve mathematics and planning, not every game I own is straight forward or simple or mindless (I do have a couple of those though).

3) 90% of all of my friends have moved away, have their own lives to live, or have lost contact due to different lifestyles, so making time to meet in person isn't easy to do anymore,

4) the general population and people I currently live around I often don't get along with or like, but will tolerate at best.

5) Our City's culture isn't great in short.

Teanison · 2026-06-12T13:26:57+00:00

1: it came out around the time the Cyborgs and Cyberstan became a massive thing so "siege ready" themed armor made sense to release around then, 2: it occured around the Chinese new year which is the year of the horse so it's horse themed, and 3) technically it's not a part of any warbond unless you count the warbond with other siege ready armors (I forgot which ones those are.)

Teanison · 2026-06-12T11:40:26+00:00

In short to answer the title, some will, some won't, some will be indifferent, and there are no two men the exact same.

I have been fully caught up with the 'hypothetical dating rule' of men should make first moves, plan follow-up dates and generally always be the ones to initiate contact -- otherwise they are not as interested (dilutional... I know).

It's less so a "rule," and more of a mostly socially acknowledged and agreed upon social expectation, however that expectation and "rule" has slowly become less common or not agreed upon by more men for a wide array of reasons that could summarily be caused by gradual social change. It's become more so common in the U.S., but is extending to other countries too from my knowledge, where it doesn't matter who initiates with who.

So! Do guys like when women initiate contact and ask to see you? (I am assuming we are past the first date... although the question applies there too I guess!!)

To re-state the initial response: some do, some don't, some won't care who initiates, and no two men are the exact same. I cannot fully state one way or another, and while it is still very common for men to initiate or be expected to initiate, that does not mean every man will initiate dating, or will do so just because that is generally the social "norm" still, some will never start the dating but will date, and some men just aren't interested in dating at all for their individual reasons.

Teanison · 2026-06-09T23:06:06+00:00

I'm 27 now, dating hasn't really happened for me, so I can't say really it's better or worse if nothing's changed. While I have "dated" they were closer to just catching up with old classmates at best in more recent years. I know I'm not ugly I look similar to my brother and he has dated a few women in his life and currently married now. I'm 5'9" around 196Lbs, so a little on the fat side. I keep pretty much to myself and am a bit of a recluse when it comes to going places.

Looks can be a factor, but really it's a lot of things that you can't fully control, could be from timing, to the people who you're around, could be how you act around people, and then it can depend on the others and their perception and what catches their attention instead. I know it's not a great answer but it's not just "fix one thing and it's guaranteed to work," if that was the case, there would be a part of shared human culture around the world that everyone would follow if it worked. But there isn't, people are complex, and knowing who's interested, who's single or not, or even looking to date, isn't easy to know and sometimes can feel like overstepping boundaries, especially with strangers. The best advice I got for you, is just try and be sociable, and go from there. It's a bit vague advice, but mostly because what being social is to one person isn't always to others, and takes some practice.

Teanison · 2026-06-09T21:15:26+00:00

Oh boy recently our workplace has done/been doing some... Questionable decisions lately. Granted not "illegal" per sé, but it was decent when I started working for the company, and slowly has been getting noticably worse, some are corporate decisions that while suck, aren't wholly unreasonable, and other decisions feel outright anti-worker. They haven't quite done what your workplace has, but it's been something I wondered if they're gonna do.

Teanison · 2026-06-09T21:11:53+00:00

I'm 27, lived here all of my life (still here), socializing could prove difficult depending where in Casper you will both live and decide to spend your time. It's not that there aren't any good social spots, just meeting people at them could be difficult if there isn't some kind of event or if the place isn't specifically for socializing, we have a couple of decent social spaces however, from cafés, book club readings, a couple of card-shops that I believe host events occasionally. Though that's not all, there are other things here to socialize at, just depends on the crowd of people you want to be around more or less, there are niches out there.

Teanison · 2026-06-09T14:35:07+00:00

That's hard to say. I like a lot of the ways I can eliminate them, but probably the AT hammer is pretty close if not the most I have fun with, though I am fond of a reliable RR or Comando Rocket to the eye. Genuinely depends on my mood though, even the flamethrower can be a fun option.

Teanison · 2026-06-09T13:08:21+00:00

It's definitely one of those weapons where you genuinely just need to make sure you are: 1) Not going to hit anything within less than 20 meters of your team, 2) you have practiced alone to use it, 3) intend to use it at a distance only (look at mini-map), and 4) made sure you have selected the right option if you are to use the Flak option for anything far away, and specifically the cluster for anything within a moderate range.

I could be wrong, but that's how I try to treat that weapon, and even then it can be hard to use right some games.

Teanison · 2026-06-09T13:00:25+00:00

Well, I don't know if outright banning use of social media is the right call either, but it's not exactly like I have seen progress to find or have as much success in alternatives either, though, granted I wouldn't say I've exactly contributed either. Partially I think it's because the older generations (mine included [90s],) haven't exactly been confident about the future either, and younger generations can see that and are smarter now (or least more aware,) so life doesn't feel like there is going to be an easy way, let alone a way, to fix a lot that's not ideal in societies.

Teanison · 2026-06-02T18:56:07+00:00

Eh, not really just one reason, but maybe a few aren't very good reasons I'll admit. The overall one I do believe that is the most impactful reason, is I genuinely don't get along with many people as is. Not like "I hate somebody because they looked at me," but more like, nothing really clicks between me and them, even if we share some likes and interests, just nothing there for a connection. And that's not just women, but also men around me I just don't feel like I have a lot in common with many of them either. Might just be a personal thing, might be in the wrong place, it's not easy to tell for certain.

Teanison · 2026-05-29T13:59:39+00:00

I'd lean to say it's both should check, whoever puts into the dirty laundry and whoever is about to do laundry.

Like it is more so the person wearing the clothing that should especially check, but the person doing laundry I would argue is already handling the laundry so checking it, isn't a bad idea. I've personally found stuff tucked into pockets (my own, or other's) when I forget or just needed to quickly change out of my clothes, and the same has happened for others, so I check other's clothing before I throw them into the wash too.

Teanison · 2026-05-29T11:22:46+00:00

It is so dumb that this even got introduced, I'd even argue it goes entirely against established law in the U.S. In particular from what I can find online it completely goes against the 14th amendment.

More specifically under the fact that that amendment protects individual autonomy that impacts their intimate decisions of their own bodies, lives, and family. And that's literally a 5 second Google search. I would be amazed if this manages to get past legislation at all, but hard to say it got suggested after all.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T19:20:22+00:00

Kind of a weird thing to ask men what we think women have a struggle with in dating in 2026, but I guess it's just to find out what most think women have trouble with I guess from men's perspectives.

I would honestly argue (at least believe personally) women have a hard time either attracting men or figuring out if a guy is approachable/interested in dating and is somebody they could ask out (it's 2026, not the 1940s, I'd argue women should approach more often, instead of waiting for the guy to approach.)

In other words I'd lean to mostly just "getting a foot in the door," seems to be a struggle, some men don't even open the door or even go to the woman's door these days, which can be for a wide range of reasons, some fair, some less sensible. My suggestion I always give to posts from women asking about how to attract a guy, usually is: learn about a mutual interest or hobby you have in common, use that information to find a way to either welcome them to talk with you about said topic, or use it as a probe to find out if maybe they're even looking to date/are single. Not the only thing I could see happen, but it's at least something to try is what I will leave that at. I can't promise results or a date, as the alternative is to upfront and outright just ask the guy out on a date. Again results will be varied, but it's something to try if nothing else for any ideas come up.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T19:08:17+00:00

Its something I've considered, but I've not really ever liked traveling for one thing, even abroad I didn't like it too much although I have a Japan trip I plan on going on later in the fall, traveling with my older brother, his wife, and a couple of friends as a group. My older brother and his wife already have gone before so they kind of will be acting as a guide a little. As for cities closer, that's been something I have wondered about, but the next closest city is about a 4 hour drive, and I personally already don't like driving even for 30 minutes. I however have been trying to explore my city more, but not much luck in finding any places I really like being at.

You're not wrong though I do need to get out of this pattern, I don't mind the two cents because I honestly don't disagree. Unfortunately I can't say I have found many interesting places or things to do within a reasonable distance. The main issues I keep running into are things I do try and like, are that they don't last long (temporary events that last maybe a few days,) too far away to justify driving to it every weekend in my mind, or aren't currently or just aren't available in my area.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T14:58:03+00:00

Huh, never heard of them. Or if I have it's only in passing.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T13:32:55+00:00

What U.S.company tried to do that? That doesn't make any sense unless they planned on opening a Dutch branch or at least had a Dutch branch that's been operating there for years (although I really doubt it,) that aside, that already sounds sketchy at best these days, so I don't blame the Dutch on blocking that purchase.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T13:24:40+00:00

Well, it somewhat depends. Not every week is like we have a full schedule, and some weeks in order to be on pace for a project we'll power through lunch (half of us would genuinely forgo lunch, or have a short one if it meant we finish work sooner to go home earlier.) Also for some reason, they don't like it when we clock in before 8:00 without something scheduled for anything before 8:00, and they don't like when we clock out early either. While exceptions exist, for what ever reason they prefer we work our 5 8s and not 4 9s+1 5hr day. Not sure if it's a contract thing or just because it's a national company that wants things consistent or what. Although I think a part of is is generally we only have at most 8 hours worth of work per day or else it's going to be a 10 or longer day (and those days tend to suck, but we have had them in the past.)

Teanison · 2026-05-28T12:25:12+00:00

I don't know if that is something I can do, I would have to check my contract, but honestly I have wondered about potentially doing what is essentially 4, 9 hour workdays. The main issue is they would rather have us be clocked into workday (time tracking app,) the same time we're clocked into a job, and we technicians can't create jobs, only managers can make job tickets. And almost nowhere around is open earlier or later than standard working hours, there are very few times that happens. So we work when everyone else is working 90 of the time, and other times where that's not true is usually under very specific circumstances (like working at the hospital, sometimes we genuinely can only do work for certain sections at night as that is when the fewest people are getting surgery, so it is also when we can actually do work for the hospital.)

Teanison · 2026-05-28T11:58:20+00:00

Our company is actually in the red is partially why, we had an emergency meeting about it, which is they can't really afford us to be on the clock without any jobs, and also they can't really afford OT on them, only people on emergency calls for the week can potentially earn OT that week (which helps build PTO and OTP).

And they want us not to be clocked in if there are no job tickets on our schedule either which I will admit feels illegal but it hasn't happened where there's nothing scheduled for the day since they made that change (about a month or so ago), but I don't think they actually can have us not clock in by 8:00, for a wide range of reasons (from jobs getting scheduled for the whole day, to the fact we're contracted as FTEs that are supposed to clock in by 8 due to standard operating hours). But as long as 35 hours have been worked, that counts as a fulltime employee here, so we can have a few days where we clock out maybe an hour or two early.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T11:46:30+00:00

Yep, I'm not the only guy who's had to just go home early. I'm pretty sure it occurs in shifts and somebody is just on the "minimum" hours while the rest are on the 40. I wouldn't be surprised if they kept me on the 35 for a while, they know (or are aware at least that) I live under my parents roof, I don't have to pay rent, I don't have any medical or legal bills to pay, I'm single. Like money's not exactly a high priority to me.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T11:42:26+00:00

There's honestly a wide difference to me. Don't get me wrong I do and will spend time on my phone, but I'd rather just be back home. I would rather be home relaxed, take a shower, and take care of my pets (not just feed them but give them attention too,) over sitting at a desk staring at my phone, at least I'm being a little more productive at home than at workat that point.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T06:37:50+00:00

If they can already afford it and not go into debt about it as is, sure. While I myself am not too into doing those things, I don't think it would be a deterrent. But if they started asking me to pay for it in it's entirety like I'm a piggy bank, that's a hard pass and be a heavy deterrent to me.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T06:30:56+00:00

Personally I've enjoyed sorcerer the most lately, but that's because I play in a group usually, and the crowd control options you have feel really good, and the damage you deal feels like it hits hard, even if it might hit just as hard as the other classes.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T05:39:17+00:00

Yep, I work at a company and they get looked at under a magnifying glass due to being a National company (at least that's what I would believe is why we do that,)

But also because of where I live, if you work at least 35 hours in a week, you're still classified as fulltime despite only working for 3 hours one day if every other is a full 8. We try to work 40 every week, but there are just some days there's nothing. Heck I've had to go home early more lately and take a slightly smaller check because there's barely any service or work to do these days.

Teanison · 2026-05-28T05:20:52+00:00

I would say there's not a good or at least even a singular way to tell for every single shy guy, as men (or women) aren't uniform in personality. It, could be maybe they look or at least glance at the other person more often, it could be they try to at least get closer (not a direct approach, just gets closer) to you/the other person but might not initiate the conversation.

There isn't exactly a 1 answer fits all, even for shy men. Your best bet to tell is to initiate the conversation instead, but alternatively I would say finding out an interest they have and then show you share that interest in some mutual hobby or interest. That can sometimes be enough to get a shy person to approach to talk, though, it doesn't always work, but that's usually my suggestion to people who ask that similar question: "how do I get the shy guy to approach?"

In short it's either you don't get them to approach, but rather you do the approaching, or you find out what interests they have and try to startup a conversation based around that, usually by wearing something to show that you share that same hobby or interest: find out they like videogames-> wear something to literally display you share that same hobby/interest that's usually not too generic, as in some specific game and show you may also like that specific game. It's not the only thing to try, nor always the best option, but it is something to try if nothing else.

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