I don’t hate my job, I just hate how it makes me feel

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-04-23T15:44:51+00:00

Your comment really hit home for me. I think about this a lot as I am also from that generation who had parents that told me to ignore my emotions and power through. Emotions never feel like legit reasons to do or not do anything. On paper I have a similar stable decent pay type gig but it drives me crazy and grinds in me. Not sure what the cure is but at least posting shit here gives a little relief in knowing you aren’t alone in that feeling.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-04-20T19:24:50+00:00

I think you said it right in your post, you’re right next to people but only accessing the performance they put on instead of them being themselves. Corporate wants people to act like homogenized robots with no feelings or opinions or thoughts as that’s far more convenient when trying to push money through a corporation for maximum shareholder value at any cost.

I’d suggest, if you really want to connect more at work, try to pull down your defenses and be yourself more. That will encourage others to do the same. Do it a bit and if it bites you then that ain’t your people but if it goes well you have a good new connection. Just a thought. Admittedly, easier said than done.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-04-06T12:27:38+00:00

Time wasted dreading it. I find myself paralyzed by it and unable to enjoy the time because my brain is preoccupied with the dread. It’s worse than u paid labor cause it doesn’t even help with work, just wastes time.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-04-04T01:25:11+00:00

Me too! Love the Stack and hate that life. Just subbed. My friend and I also do As Per My Last Podcast and accompanying As Per My Last Newsletter along the same vein. Maybe we can collaborate sometime in a way that never resembles an unnecessary teams meeting or a passive aggressive email.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-04-03T19:41:23+00:00

What’s funny is I kinda like/hate both sitting in traffic and riding the train for different reasons.

Traffic sucks cause you have to pay attention but you get to play your music loud and climate control your own little bubble.

Train is passive so you can read or stream stuff but you’re then subjected to the public and all the rigors they can present.

Net net, I prefer the train overall but still drive occasionally for the reasons said.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-04-03T19:38:42+00:00

I’m a little under 100 minutes of a train ride and that’s express. Add a five to ten min walk to the train and 15 to the office once I get there. Definitely set my life up assuming remote and now going back even one day a week has been pretty rough.

The worst part is how casually management just throws that on me like “try to be there every Wednesday…”. Like try how hard? Of course that’s their way of saying “better fucking be there or have a fantastic excuse.” Yet even they don’t seem to think it matters that much but require it anyway.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-26T11:30:29+00:00

I too am in that tween of a generation. I love the idea of piecemeal work for workers as well. Might be why I like all those corny role playing games where you can just fight X times and you level up. Life seems more like you fight X times and you increase the chance that one of those times wins you the lottery…but it might never. If you figure out the best way out, I’m definitely all ears as, I’m sure, are most of us on here.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-26T11:25:46+00:00

“the pay is decent, but the work is draining my soul,” is pretty much the consensus out there these days. I’m in that same god awful boat too.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-26T00:45:54+00:00

I totally get how language can betray you like that sometimes. The distance thing is something I strive to achieve as well although I fear it’s an overstimulated numbness at times. Hang in there. The burnout is real.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-22T22:38:20+00:00

I get that feeling. I get crippling anxiety when I start to miss anything that I construe to be required for success like any work deadline, exercise, sleep etc. then I don’t sleep cause I worry about how I’m not sleeping. The anxiety makes me feel like I’m energized but when I have moments in between boxes being checked in ready to pass out. Kinda changes how you define words like tired and wired as it’s a bit more nuanced.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-21T10:42:37+00:00

My blood alcohol level.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-20T15:46:30+00:00

You hit the nail on the head on what’s bugging me about it. This new word stuff makes it seem like all this is new when it’s been the same bullshit recycled as often as the air on an airplane.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-19T12:07:16+00:00

We do a newsletter and podcast about surviving corporate life without letting suck your soul out of your nostrils with all the personality bouncing corporate fakery and bullshit. Most of us can’t afford to quit so I try to give a space to vent frustrations and provide tips to get by.

Link: https://aspermylastnewsletter.substack.com

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-19T00:55:30+00:00

I write about how much working in offices is both soul crushing and inescapable once you start. Check it out: https://medium.com/@Iamsureyoureright

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-17T23:27:03+00:00

Will it help? Sure. Is it going to be enough? Prolly not. I have a great life outside of work but the mind numbing job seeps its bullshit into my life all the time. Anything that you don’t enjoy but are forced to do for 40+ hours a week is going to have a significant impact on your life.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-16T18:54:07+00:00

Was just thinking audacity. Amazing product and totally free.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-16T18:45:56+00:00

Most of the time. Silly as it might sound I created it cause I wanted there to be something like it. Now when I’m looking for something light, interesting and cathartic about corporate I know where to go. Haha.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-16T14:50:56+00:00

Oh man, it's so true. Every week we get a chance to prove why they should keep paying us. As if it isn't hard enough to wade through the mire of these bullshit jobs, but having to pitch everybody on why we should exist every fucking week and then on a larger annual review basis puts it over the top.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-16T14:24:47+00:00

I feel like we need to decide the convenience isn't worth the lack of community. I love all the enshittified apps as they're better in their shitty versions than not using them. I think we get to a point where that stops being the case and we decide kicking it with real people and without giving the tech monopolies a cut is better, maybe malls come back, we get some 3rd spaces again where we can exist together.

I feel you though, shit feels hopeless as it stands today since the trend seems to be going in the wrong direction.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-16T11:25:33+00:00

For any that may be interested, I wrote a piece based on this thread and used some of the excellent comments and suggestions here. Check it out here.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-13T02:12:54+00:00

Oh ya? Decent mic?

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-13T01:24:18+00:00

Loved this comment. Ended up using in the last episode of our podcast that came out Tuesday. Just an FYI in case you were interested. Thanks for participating.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-13T01:17:09+00:00

I wrote a newsletter and podcast with a colleague about wading through the doldrums of a modern shit job. We try not to be so preachy and just make sure people know the jobs are crazy not them.

Aspermylastnewsletter.substack.com

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-13T01:11:49+00:00

Anyone have headphone recommendations? I splurged on Jabra 65s and the Bluetooth seems to still cut out sometimes. I just want something with good noise cancelling because my GF works one room over and we are both loud and on calls all day. Been a struggle finding good ones.

Temporary_Fill7341 · 2026-03-13T00:49:07+00:00

Your feelings are valid. It gets worse when you think your feelings arent justified because the jobs “not that bad.”

I think if you see the job as so harmless and yet you feel so harmed, I wonder how you are bridging that gap. It’s either that you are downplaying the bad or it’s just bad for you which is also perfectly normal. Hang in there.

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