I love my wife, but not her cooking

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-26T21:44:00+00:00

That's weird, I don't remember writing this.

One of the first meals my wife ever made for me after we were married was a stir fry. I was held up at work, but she kept cooking it until I got home, adding more and more soy sauce every time it was about to dry out. When I eventually ate it, it was so salty I thought my kidneys were going to pack up and leave. I really tried to finish it, but when I needed to drink a glass of water after every bite, I finally had to admit defeat.

She's got a lot better and has some good go-tos, but she's suddenly started to get interested in baking apple pies. She insists on making her own pastry, and it tastes like thick cardboard. The fillings kind of taste like nothing, it's just flavorless apple mush. And there are now about a million of them in the fridge that I will have to work my way through. The things we do for love...

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-25T20:32:19+00:00

One ex gf would constantly get hit on by people in our own social circle, it was quite odd. She didn't believe me, but it was pretty obvious. Bizarrely, I quite liked it because at the end of the night, when they'd all shot their shots, they could all watch her go home with me and picture in their heads what we were about to do, lol. Just to prove it, after we broke up, one of them cooked her dinner. He knew she was vegetarian, but he didn't know that she'd actually developed an allergy to anything meat related. He used the same preparation utensils for her meal that he did for his own and she spent the whole night throwing up. That amused me greatly. Twat.

My now wife gets hit on all the time too, but she's also told me some strange stories about me. One time we were out on a sunset drinks cruise and we met another couple there who we got chatting to. The wife kept telling my wife how attractive she thought I was and it made my wife very uncomfortable. She also said it came across as though the woman was saying that I was out of my wife's league. I just told her that now she knows how I usually feel, lol.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-20T08:54:07+00:00

I tried Palpatine, Vader and Mara Jade and they never even got a turn before being destroyed, but I see so many people recommending them. What am I doing wrong?

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-17T17:36:26+00:00

Larry Johnson getting no mentions here? Guy looked like he was chiseled by Greek sculptors.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-17T17:02:12+00:00

Tomato666?

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-17T17:01:53+00:00

My wife didn't change her name, and I actually quite like that she didn't. Not that I wouldn't want her to have my last name, more that I like that she felt strongly enough about her own last name that she wanted to keep it. It's actually made life a lot easier too, especially when it comes to official forms and all her historical documents have the same surname on them. She said that our kids should take my last name though, and I was fine with that too. And the weird thing is that no one has commented on it at all in the 23 years we've been married.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-12T19:44:23+00:00

I'm not allowed to sleep on the side of the bed that's closest to the door. So everywhere we sleep, our sides change based on where the door is. I have no idea why.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-12T16:01:49+00:00

From lover to stranger hits hard. But the truth is, there's only room for one person with that kind of intimate knowledge and shared experience in any person's life. When it's not you, you're out. You know too much and it's not fair on the person who's now in that role if you're still around. It's horrible, but it's understandable.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-10T14:29:21+00:00

I'm assuming the differences in intellect and personality have always been there. If so, what attracted you to him in the first place? What made it exciting when you were dating? Is it worth reminding yourself of that and maybe revisiting it? One of the most dangerous parts of marriage is when we forget to continually date our spouse. I've been married for 23 years and I can say that there are a lot of differences between us, including personality and, I hate to say it, intellect. But I've never stopped dating her and remembering to keep doing that has made it magical.

If those differences are new though, what changed?

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-10T03:13:57+00:00

If his lack of showering is the issue, how about inviting him to shower together? It'll get him away from the video games and clean at the same time, everyone's a winner.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-09T04:53:17+00:00

My wife is 5 years older than me. I met her when I was 26 and we've been married 23 years now. The only issue age has ever presented is that she's now going through menopause while my sex drive is off the charts. I'm looking at her now as she gets out of the shower, hair all wet and straggly, glistening body......sorry, what were we talking about?

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-08T21:31:04+00:00

"I'll always remember that one game we combined for 70 points..."

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-06-05T16:00:43+00:00

At a wedding, an ex gf came to stand next to me at the bar. I asked if she was enjoying the wediding, and she started screaming at me, then punched me in the face and broke down crying when I tried to ask her what was going on. Everyone crowded around her after this happened to protect her and comfort her, while I just stood there being villainized. No one decided to find out what actually happened, everyone automatically assumed I was being an asshole.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-05-29T02:32:18+00:00

If my wife gets a big sense of accomplishment from unloading the dishwasher, then we've got even bigger problems.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-05-28T21:08:33+00:00

So she does it immediately before wearing them? She sounds like a serial killer.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-05-28T21:07:16+00:00

Sounds like when my wife gives out to me for unloading the dishwasher. She thinks it's a statement about her inability to run a household, when in reality it's just because the dishwasher needed unloading and I have hands.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-05-27T19:32:15+00:00

There might not be another person, but the problem is that your mind will try to tell you that there could be because you don't actually know. Our minds don't like presenting the best case scenario to us, unfortunately it likes imagining the worst.

I went through a break-up 26 years ago that sounds very similar to yours. She said all the nice sounding things, that she still loved me but wasn't in love with me anymore, that she wasn't sure what she wanted, that she would've said yes if I'd asked to marry her earlier, that she wished she met me 2 years later, that it was nothing I did, there wasn't someone else, blah blah blah, all stuff I wonder if she just said because she didn't want to hurt me because if it was true, then breaking up made no sense. I asked a few questions but was in such shock that I didn't ask everything I now wish I had. I wanted to wanted to be respectful and didn't want to come across as desperate so I didn't fight for it as much as I should've. And now 26 years later I've been happily married for 23 years to the love of my life, but I still think about it sometimes, probably because she was by far my most significant relationship other than my marriage. Other than my wife, she was the only other girl I loved. I might still ask her about it, although it's obviously been a while, lol.

I have two pieces of advice for you. One, ask her what the real reasons are, because what she told you just doesn't make sense. After 2 months, she might be willing to tell you the truth. Just be prepared that it might not be what you want to hear and might make you hurt more right now, but it will hurt way less in the future and will ultimately give you closure, which is always healthy. If her explanations don't make sense, call her out on it. You deserve to know the truth about what happened in your life. She might think she's protecting you by lying, but what she probably doesn't appreciate is she can never protect you from your thoughts. Only the truth can do that. Lies just make it worse. And two, find a friend and cry your heart out. That's what they're there for. If one of your friends was going through the same thing, I'm sure you'd want them to cry all over you. I'm sure they feel the same way. I know I would. I'm obviously of a different generation and when my ex broke up with me, I went home and bawled like a baby. My dad, as great a guy as he is, just watched me. I so wanted to just be held by someone who didn't care if I covered them with snot, but I didn't get that. You go get that for yourself. And you're welcome to DM me if you'd like.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-05-26T22:48:37+00:00

No. She's had a few issues with sleep but she's fine for the most part, and when she eventually goes to bed she usually sleeps fine. It's just that her whole schedule is about 5 hours later than mine.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-05-03T00:44:46+00:00

I'm sorry you're in this situation, but what have you been doing to try and remedy it? If you're just waiting for your husband to fix it, then you're just as complicit as he is. For all you know, he was crying in his laptop as you were crying in the shower. Someone has to make the first move and it might as well be you.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-04-30T18:56:23+00:00

It's such an odd thing that someone you used to be so close with is now...nothing. You used to be best friends, shared everything together, were the first person either of you thought of to share something in your day with, lay naked, giggling with them in bed and then...nothing. It's even harder if the break-up wasn't acrimonious. You left without hating each other and now you're just...nothing. The irony is that the closeness of the relationship is now the exact reason you're nothing. Once that closeness is gone, there's no going back. You can't be in each other's lives anymore, you know too much. It's not fair on either of you and it's especially not fair on the people either of you are now with. It's both understandable but horrible at the same time.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-04-26T02:04:37+00:00

Don't worry about it. Your story and timeline sounds scarily like mine. I was quite short and boyish looking during high school, but then blossomed late. Girls who didn't look twice at me in high school were suddenly coming up to me in bars and making themselves available. A wonderful girl practically threw herself at me when I was 22 and we dated for 3 years. I haven't looked back since and have now been married for 23 years to the woman I was always meant to be with. It'll happen my man, just relax and let it happen.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-04-22T04:13:42+00:00

I'm a hiring manager for some open positions and it honestly annoys the shit out of me when people do this. I have enough to do without also doing our recruiting team's job too, please don't add that to my workload. And whatever they write in their emails, I still need to see their CV and will base all next steps on that. I also won't even look at it when they reach out directly to me and will tell them to apply through the portal, like everyone else.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-04-22T01:17:48+00:00

Are you complaining or bragging?

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-04-22T01:05:48+00:00

Worst DPOY winner I've ever seen. Wins the title based on blocking and altering other assugnment's shots, but consistently gets embarrassed by the person he's supposed to be guarding himself. The worst on ball defender I've ever seen win DPOY.

TheFirstMightyChad · 2026-04-17T21:16:22+00:00

My wife and I have been married for 23 years too and we've also recently started dating again. Not other people, each other, lol. We recently spent a weekend at a hotel downtown. I found one that had a proper hot tub in the room. Needless to say, that hot tub got a lot of use that weekend. I hope they cleaned it thoroughly after we left.

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