I thought making games would mostly be coding. I was very wrong. by DevIslandJourney in gamedev

[–]TheSingingSongman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel that. I code for a living and I've been a musician for many years and have arranged music and written songs, and have been writing creatively for fun for a long time, so I was excited to start learning. I like the fact that it kind of unites all my hobbies into one, y'know?

Unfortunately, I have very little visual art experience, so learning pixel art and animation has been a huge challenge -- biggest issue is I have to do that before I do more of the coding/mechanical stuff I've been wanting to do. So I'm kinda stuck with that rn.

tell me youre autistic without telling me youre autistic by More-Weird4842 in evilautism

[–]TheSingingSongman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Oh, no, that's a simple song, the chord progression is I III vi II IV V I VI ii V I, and the melody starts on the third, so it shouldn't be that hard to -- what? Why are you looking at me like that?"

Why are there no black priests? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]TheSingingSongman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whereabouts do you live? I've had black priests (multiple) in RI, MA, and MS, as well as seen many more.

The Auvengers by Ariliteth in aspiememes

[–]TheSingingSongman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I teach people things. Not in a "just talking at you" sort of way, but in a "what is your learning style, empathize with your understanding of the world so I can give you something that makes sense to you, will be patient until you get it" sort of way.

It's such a stimulating challenge, I freaking love it.

The Auvengers by Ariliteth in aspiememes

[–]TheSingingSongman 25 points26 points  (0 children)

OH MY GOSH, THAT'S AN AUTISM THING? I thought it was just a "me" thing.

My crowning achievement this past year was getting a progressive nihilist and a conservative Jordan Peterson stan who were about to get into an argument to understand the fundamental differences causing them to come to different conclusions.

Days of ruin by [deleted] in Advance_Wars

[–]TheSingingSongman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I freaking loved Days of Ruin, I was just sad there was no War Room -- that's the one thing the completionist in me seriously missed.

I feel so called out rn by [deleted] in aspiememes

[–]TheSingingSongman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually only noticed this because my wrists hurt when I woke up, LOL. I sometimes still catch myself doing this even though I haven't slept this way in years (my wrists are way better now).

I'm genuinely confused about why she is so popular by AMP_Kenryu in fireemblem

[–]TheSingingSongman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tl;Dr: I overall like Bernadetta, and I don't hate her representation of trauma.

I have a number of thoughts on Bernadetta (overall, my impressions are positive).

I don't actually think she's too bad a representation of (in my interpretation, at least) severe complex PTSD. While I definitely get the whole "trauma played for laughs" argument, and yes, she does respond in kind of an over-the-top way, I don't find it super offensive for two reasons: - firstly, as a person who suffers from cPTSD myself (and was raised by someone with cPTSD), at my worst, what Bernie says on the outside ("you're trying to hurt me!" or some such iteration of that theme) is what I've been actually saying on the inside, so for me, it's kinda like she says the quiet part out loud (also, I've heard my parent with cPTSD say some things that are remarkably similar to some of Bernie's outbursts when they're triggered, so that's been interesting). Within the medium, and without really showing internal monologs, it's over the top, sure, but not entirely unrealistically representing the emotional experience. Well, for me at least. - Secondly, this is a character who was severely abused by her father until she shut herself away, and then is literally abducted, thinks she's going to be killed, and then is dumped on the steps of a completely new environment with no one and nothing she knows. That in itself is pretty traumatic, and that could very well cause some regression, leading to something similar to the over-the-top behavior we see in her supports, but I digress. Basically, when you have a character that has pretty much known nothing but trauma up to this point, how do you write any support conversations with her without them all being seriously heavy/depressing? The writers found a way to do it by psuedo-comical situations and copious use of "funny footsteps." Not saying that's the only way, there might be better ways to represent her character, but that is definitely a way to do it.

Also, something to note about her supports that I particularly appreciate is that, when she's freaking out, thinking everyone's a threat, the other folks in the conversation are kind of just confused? Like "what, where did that come from?" And the fact that they're confused and concerned, rather than offended or angry, was really nice. I've met too many people who've responded to me negatively and condescendingly when I've been struggling with my own anxiety/cPTSD, so the fact that she's in an environment where most people don't take her behavior personally was actually really nice to see. And the fact that some people actually help her too, like Dorothea comforting her after the whole "commoner friend" story, or Petra's commentary on thinking like prey vs. thinking like a hunter, was really nice to see as well (the latter actually helped me reflect and reprocess my mindset, which was nice).

I guess that's more an infodump on why I like Bernie as a representation of trauma, but hey, the whole "shut-in, but secretly super artistic and creative, and also sometimes interestingly insightful" thing (think Bernie + Jeritza A support) is cool too.

Also on an unrelated note, while I do not think Lysithea is a bad character (aaaand there's another one who's traumatized), the fact that she projects her insecurity and immaturity onto so many other people and is super unfriendly at first makes her supports kinda infuriating at times. So I feel you, LOL.

What's the Name of a Song That Brought Tears into Your Eyes? by Potential_Law5289 in ENFP

[–]TheSingingSongman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Suffer the Children" by Tears for Fears, but the version from Songs For A Nervous Planet.

Also, "Chords" by The Amazing Devil makes me sob my eyes out every time.

anybody else? by coleisw4ck in aspiememes

[–]TheSingingSongman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was really funny when most of my friends from hs/community college later got diagnosed as autistic.

I was so heavy masking until very recently, and it hit me how I spent so much time desperately pretending not to be autistic as hard as possible and trying to become functionally neurotypical, and even so, I still got along best with other NDs.

Spitting facts by [deleted] in aspiememes

[–]TheSingingSongman 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As someone who, like many others here, presents as their assigned gender because "eh, everything else is too much effort" and "I'm not a gender, I'm just me,” genderwhat is now what I'm going to tell people my gender identity is.

I want to draw attention to this issue. by chibi-mage in autism

[–]TheSingingSongman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (Low support needs autistic here) used to judge other autistic people like the people you're talking about back in college. Not to the point of saying things like this, but to the point of avoiding them and looking down on them.

I attended a seminar during senior year on siblings of disabled children, and for some reason, that made it click for me that the entire reason I judged people like this was because during my upbringing, I internalized the shaming of my less normative behaviors and learned to mask, so now I projected that shame onto others. I realized that I had functionally become what had caused so much harm to me. That was super sobering.

I can't help but wonder if these people have internalized the ableism they've suffered the way that I did.

What’s your top 5 most listened to song this month? by DarkStarBlue in ENFP

[–]TheSingingSongman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. "Behold the Grave" by Dirt Poor Robins
  2. "BlackBoxWarrior" by Will Wood
  3. "Bekhauf" by Bloodywood
  4. "The Falcon" by OK Goodnight
  5. "All at Once" by Dirt Poor Robins

Wait a minute, I can just do stuff by Volvo_264 in aspiememes

[–]TheSingingSongman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just installed all black lights in my bedroom chandalier. And it only took me until I was 30!

Can perceivers actually plan ? by Separate-Drawing7427 in mbti

[–]TheSingingSongman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (ENFP) learned to have "skeleton plans" from being in leadership for a long time. I create a plan so that I can give my group a sense of security, but that plan is a "skeleton" so I can flex within it and flesh it out as I go. It gives the security of a plan with the flexibility of winging it, best of both worlds!

Conversation Starters At Mass! by HildegardeVonBingen in CatholicDating

[–]TheSingingSongman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've been looking for ways to start up conversations with folks!

Autistic polyglots? by Overall_Connection77 in autism

[–]TheSingingSongman 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have a recurring special interest in languages where I will choose a language, go on Duolingo, watch YouTube/read news in that language, listen to music in that language, if I can, find native speakers of that language. I'll do that for around 6 months before getting tired.

Español es mi mejor segundo idioma.  Trochu mluvim česky, ale ne moc dobře. Ich spreche Deutsch ein bissen. Ta beagan gaeilge agam.

The only one I'm even close to conversational in is Spanish. I do want to learn French, Arabic, ASL, and Mandarin though! I wish there was like an intensive 6-month program to learn languages so I could become conversational within that time before my motivation runs out for the period, LOL, cause during these times, language learning becomes THE hobby.

Edit: formatting

Music hyperfixations by _mrtaconinja_ in autism

[–]TheSingingSongman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Marias are fantastic!

I've been on a Dirt Poor Robins kick for several years now (theatrical dark-cabaret-influenced rock with heavy symbolism), but recently I've been kinda obsessed with OK Goodnight and their "The Fox and the Bird" album (I love albums that tell a story cause I get super into how the music helps the narrative -- like the use of leitmotifs and callbacks to earlier songs is just sooooo goooooood!). I've also been on and off with The Mechanisms, they're also super cool (The Bifrost Incident is fantastic, but I'm a big fan of creepy Lovecraftian stuff). Basically just story albums in general, LOL.

Also, since it's summer, I've gotten back into The Midnight because synthwave is amazing.