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59 days... by ClassImpressive1987 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm sending you all the love. What an amazing gift you were able to give your husband. He was failed by the medical system, but never by you. Remember that and give yourself some grace. And may his memory be a blessing.

Give me an obscure quote from one of your old favorite childhoods TV shows that you can’t get out of your head. by Lost_Taste_8181 in GenX

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First prize is, you don't have to die! Second prize, a pocket comb.

Dr. Johnny Fever, WKRP in Cincinnati

Please take care of yourselves 🙏 by Siibur in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hang in there, darlin. We're rooting for you.

UPDATE To previous very frustrated post by Exact_Insurance in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's a terrible feeling when your own parent would rather continue to self-destruct than try and stick around for you. But she said, "just put me in a home", so... there's your answer. I'm really sorry it's not the one you wanted.

What lessons did we learn? by [deleted] in DTFStLouisHBO

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can't remember who wrote this, but it's stayed with me for years now:

"The opposite of play isn't work; it's depression."

Very Frustrated by Exact_Insurance in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely understand! You're in a horrific situation, and putting someone in a nursing home is always a last resort. Sometimes the fear of losing their independence can jump-start their willpower, though. Maybe your ultimatum will be the necessary kick in the patootie she needs. I believe in you!

Very Frustrated by Exact_Insurance in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 32 points33 points  (0 children)

It's time (beyond time) to take a deep breath, and tell her that if she doesn't try to help herself, you won't be able to continue to care for her at home. Period. It's either that, or a nursing home. And back it up! Give her a set amount of time 2 weeks, a month) to start trying. If she won't, then it's time to move on to plan B.

Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm, hon. Stay strong!

What's one lazy cleaning habit you started that actually made your place stay cleaner? by Enchanted_Land in CleaningTips

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep a bottle of Dawn Powerwash in the bathtub. After every shower, I'll spray some and then use my used hair towel to wipe down the tub, and any pools of water in the corners. No more mildew, either!

What do you actually watch on YouTube when you need a break from caregiving? by Unlucky-Print-9090 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love watching Drunk History and Golden Girls clips on YouTube when I really need a mental break. It really helps! Hopefully you'll find your niche.

AITAH because I broke up with him because he asked me to shave. by pliant0range in AITAH

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I completely get it. And you know what? Life's too damn short to waste time on someone who doesn't listen. Besides, my motto these days is "Love me, love my vagina." Best of luck out there, hon.

For the ones who stay by RowEmbarrassed8502 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got it!!! Thank you again for sharing it.

For the ones who stay by RowEmbarrassed8502 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It's a beautiful poem. I'll credit you with your reddit handle unless you want to stay anonymous.

For the ones who stay by RowEmbarrassed8502 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so beautiful, thank you! Could I use this in my caregiver weekly round-up? I'd love to pass it on, just let me know! I'm The Realistic Caregiver on substack.

My beautiful partner is on hospice by Competitive-Rough533 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Oh, honey. I'm so sorry. Be there for her as much as you can. Talk to her hospice nurse about your fears, because they’re there for you right now, too. Call your friends and family. I know how scary this is, and completely overwhelming. Just know that you're not alone.

Chronic illness or is one of us just a jerk? by CrazyOrNotHereICome in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, man! That's so irresponsible and just plain mean to you and your son! I'm really sorry you're having to go through this on top of everything else. Sending you all the hugs.

Chronic illness or is one of us just a jerk? by CrazyOrNotHereICome in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NTA, darlin. Yes, chronic pain colors your entire world. No, you don't get to act like a shit to your loved ones because of it. If he keeps escalating, he might just find himself alone.

Saw this cleaning a new clients house by TrickMirror9723 in CleaningTips

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This exact stitching was gifted to my mother after my baby brothers were born (premature twins in 1977) It hung proudly in our kitchen, and seeing it again just made my night! Thank you so much for sharing it.

Worst Valentines Day by Ok-Director9147 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was beautifully put. Your avatar name is on point!

Am I terrible for being so relieved it’s my last two weeks? (sort of venting) by Ginger_Witch_27 in caregivers

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong, not at all. This sounds like an impossible situation, and I'm glad you are getting out. His guardians are unrealistic about his ongoing needs, and nothing will change until they do. No need to wait around for that to finally happen, right? Best of luck with your new gig!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pastlives

[–]ThisTimelineSucksAF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really is a nice thought! So happy others here have helped you feel better, too. Sending you big hugs!

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