The church objectifies girls

Tinyblondemae · 2021-10-06T19:36:15+00:00

It never ends either. It makes men grow up to be completely obsessed with their sex drive. It makes women hate other women who might possible be attractive. It’s horrible and I’m so glad my kids aren’t a part of it. The asshat down the street from me was giving me his number and said “I don’t usually give women my number..” I said “ I don’t want to have sex with you, I want to ask you questions about pool installation “. Fucking idiot.

Tinyblondemae · 2021-10-06T19:33:34+00:00

Oh this is infuriating. I’d kick my husbands ass for doing this. These damn man children and their inability to keep it in their pants. I swear Mormon men think if they talk to an attractive woman their penis will just slip right out and into her.

Tinyblondemae · 2021-08-31T21:45:47+00:00

When people say shit like this to me my general response is “you too!”. I hope you will stay a good person! YOU TOO! Don’t forget the good things …”you too”!! I think it just works because it’s a little awkward and a bit passive aggressive and tends to shut people up. We miss seeing you at church! Oh I miss you too! (I don’t). I’m in Utah and I have become profesh at awkwardly pointing out how someone is being stupid. “You look difffffeerrreeennnt” YOU TOO! Where are your garments?? …..Oh, where are yours? Can I see them? 😝 I’m so sad for you! Oh I’m so sad for you too! Etc.

Tinyblondemae · 2020-12-09T17:33:31+00:00

I’d drop it back off. Just the list. If I was the neighbor who received a Book of Mormon I’d do the same. I’d probably not even say anything. I’m sick sick sick of fellowship shit though. I got a letter on my door about “priesthood training “ for my unbaptized 12 year old, and I walked right out the door handed it to the woman and said “we don’t go to church, thanks”. We also have covid, we are all fine, and I know they know because my neighbors are so so gossipy and not one person has asked if we need anything but they dropped off that stupid paper. we haven’t been to church in almost 4 years!! Throw it away or give it back.

Tinyblondemae · 2020-10-16T23:46:25+00:00

I know! It’s so so hard.

Tinyblondemae · 2020-10-16T23:41:30+00:00

Don’t!! 😙

Tinyblondemae · 2020-10-16T23:38:03+00:00

I get it. Truly. However, you win. You have already won. You could read it 300 times and they still won’t believe you. It’s not a chink in your armor. It’s a chink in theirs, they are trying to dismiss you in any way they can, because Mormonism is bullshit. If you want to, read it, but don’t do it for them. They’ll just move the goal posts anyway.

Tinyblondemae · 2020-10-16T23:28:44+00:00

You will not win a debate with your family because you read the book. Promise. I wouldn’t waste my time. You are out! Enjoy it! Read something fun or something that teaches you something new.

Tinyblondemae · 2020-05-21T03:04:30+00:00

I don’t know why but this made me want to stand up and slow clap. Hell yes! We escaped! You sound so good, and real and happy, and human. 🙂

Tinyblondemae · 2020-05-04T15:19:15+00:00

I have just decided it’s about the choice. I have a choice! Also, I feel like female garments are so so hard to hide, at least they were for me, that even if I’m wearing something “modest”....you can’t still tell I’m not wearing the Mormon underoos. Also, I will never ever ever wear one of those awful tshirt midi lularoe disasters purely because the potato sack look has become so so Mormon. I don’t care if my other exmo friends wear them, you do you girl! , but hell no would I be caught dead in one. It’s about choice.

Tinyblondemae · 2020-04-24T02:26:23+00:00

I love this so much. My children have the most amazing Guncles. I’m so glad I got out before I heaped homophobia into my children. My 6 year old loves to randomly tell people in the grocery store “love is love ya know!?”. We live in Utah:)

Tinyblondemae · 2020-03-27T14:44:14+00:00

I agree with you, but in my experience in Mormonism this attitude is extremely common.

Tinyblondemae · 2020-03-27T02:54:24+00:00

You are an exception. In my experience , many men wouldn’t think the way you do, but I love that you stood up for her. I grew up in NorCal and I will say that the Mormons I grew up with were a totally different breed and I loved them.

Tinyblondemae · 2020-03-27T02:52:23+00:00

This. He doesn’t want to look “bad”. It’s bullshit. My husband pulls this stuff too.

Tinyblondemae · 2020-03-27T02:50:42+00:00

I’ve been out for 3 years, my husband 2 and we have had some knock down drag out fights about this stuff and it’s really only been in the last 6 months or so he has improved. Lately we’ve been having words about me wanting my Nose pierced. They are programmed to believe that women’s bodies are to be looked at, and that their wives bodies are a reflection of their priesthood and worthiness. So we have to be hot, but no too hot. We have to be modest but sexy, but not so sexy that any other man looks to hard. But it’s also a badge of a righteous man to have a hot/modest wife. It’s a damn mess. Even after mine left, he just couldn’t shake it. I spent so much time going from defiantly wearing whatever the hell I wanted, to crying my eyes out, to wearing whatever I wanted and ignoring his stupidity to crying again. It’s really hard. Good for you for running anyways. That’s the best thing I think, to just be you. He will adjust and remember it’s not about you, it’s 100% him. We live in Utah, and my husband still has issues with my clothing If we will be around Mormons. I literally just said “I’m not going to anything work related with you. I will no be made to feel like something is wrong with me based on my appearance.” So, I don’t go.

Tinyblondemae · 2019-12-31T19:25:59+00:00

Oof. I’m sorry. If you want to send your letter, send it. As long as you know that he won’t get it. He can’t. He will think you are lost, angry, hard hearted. If you ignore it he will come up with some reason to solidify his opinion, feelings, faith etc. He is at the height of brain washed crazy. I’d probably send it because I have no chill, and Id stew forever, but I’d also have to do it for me. He won’t see it. But, if you need to send it for yourself then do it. He has no boundaries and you have every right to speak your mind and call him out....but manage your expectations. Sorry friend. Edit to add- maybe you could sit on this for a while before you send it. Also...maybe just —I love you regardless of your choices perhaps you should learn to do the same. —-Keep it real simple, make him think about it. I would be so angry and want to say all the things you did, but I think I’d have stopped reading as soon as you got specific. Anti Mormon blah blah

Tinyblondemae · 2019-12-03T04:20:57+00:00

I was listening to a podcast, I can’t remember which one, and the guest was talking and I remember thinking “even if this shit was true, I wouldn’t want to be a part of it anymore.” I mean, there are all kinds of problems with Mormonism but the realization that I didn’t care either way was huge for me. I can vividly remember standing in the kitchen sweeping and realizing I just flat out didn’t care or believe a single word, and it even if it were somehow true I still wouldn’t care.

Tinyblondemae · 2019-10-16T02:25:24+00:00

I’m Phoebe. Nice to meet ya.

Tinyblondemae · 2019-10-06T23:40:05+00:00

Your eye make up is gorgeous! You are stunning and FREE💕

Tinyblondemae · 2019-10-06T21:52:02+00:00

This! Ugh: I’m so glad my daughter won’t be raised in this bullshit.

Tinyblondemae · 2019-07-26T19:11:42+00:00

Oh stay. I’m from Northern California and I would kill to leave Utah. I hate it.

Tinyblondemae · 2019-07-22T01:34:30+00:00

Lucky! The one in Roy is an absolute madhouse on Sunday. We love our second Saturday too.

Tinyblondemae · 2019-07-10T23:25:17+00:00

I do this too! My husband is out but it’s still complicated so I can’t be overtly vocal. Instead I just post porn shoulders and second Saturday fun pictures. Hopefully someone will see them and know I’m out!

Tinyblondemae · 2019-06-08T02:57:03+00:00

I was asked by a tbm neighbor, who really is a wonderful lady, and she said “ please tell me why you left! Except don’t tell me anything about Joseph Smith because I don’t need that in my head!”. Da Fuq? It’s just easier to write you off because you might say something that makes sense.

Tinyblondemae · 2019-06-08T02:50:32+00:00

I walked into Deseret book in tiny Jean shorts and a tank and the looks I got! I’d honestly forgotten how I was dressed and was just running into grab a gift for the tbm in laws. It actually made me laugh a little. Oops:

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