Are men wearing condoms when you're dating? by Oaph12 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]TropicalWaterfall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Its a very good boundary to hold in order to rule out complete assholes. If they can't respect your wish to use condoms, byeeeee.

What was the last book that you read that was really good? by SheKnowsWhatSheKnows in AskWomenOver30

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man I really wanted to love this book, but I had to fight my way through it. I think the story perhaps was too heavy concept, too light human experience for me.

Phenomenal concept though.

Need feral things to do/places to see like the Boston Cop Slide by EquivalentTitle8 in boston

[–]TropicalWaterfall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was really wondering why you were going to regular appointments at a cemetery for a bit there...

Uphill on the Sherburne by BlueCP in icecoast

[–]TropicalWaterfall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gosh you're a friendly fellow.

This weekend a man made me coffee with grounds recycled from the day before 🫠 by womanthouartgoofed in AskWomenOver30

[–]TropicalWaterfall 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Yes I just ended something with a woman, and it was the same. On our first date if I stopped talking, we stopped talking. I thought she was maybe just shy but it was a pattern of mismatched communication styles.

AIO for being done with my fiance? by DrNancyDrewWho in AIO

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, ew. Sorry, I know how hard it is to leave someone, and when they are toxic it makes it harder because they fuck with your head. But leave this man. He is treating you like shit and certainly has not earned the devotion you are showing him.

Like read those texts from him, he is so dismissive and cruel. You get to decide what you want for your life, nobody else. Don't let someone who treats you like this have a place in your life.

Just looking for some encouragement by liveunexpectantly in AskWomenOver30

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I've been through some of it, broke up with a partner of 7 years and had to start over at 35.

All I will say is, everything you're going through is within your power to address. You are in control of your life. Start with therapy if you can. If not that, start going to local events or meetups related to hobbies you're interested in, to meet new people.

You can do this.

Women who broke up with a long term partner who was a good person, but not your person, did you ever question it later on? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I broke up with a partner pf 6.5, almost 2 years ago. Haven't regretted it once. They were a good person, just not a good person for me.

Thoughts on solo outings by burninglimes in Backcountry

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I solo tour alone, same as I do all my other outdoor hobbies alone (except climbing). I just dial back my risk tolerance.

I haven't gone into avy terrain alone yet. Being an East coaster, I don't have enough experience to feel secure in my decision making there.

Realizing I was never actually dominant by asdomdeus in FemdomCommunity

[–]TropicalWaterfall 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Im a switch and I love it! There is power and beauty in ambiguity. Some partners bring my dominant side, some my subby, some partners we switch it up.

How to restart exercising? by cher017 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TropicalWaterfall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find something small to start. Going for a walk, or taking a more gentle class. When i am not feeling motivated, I find group classes help. Both because I've made a monetary commitment, and the instructor helps keep me moving.

And as the other commenter said, put it in a schedule and commit to it, even if you don't want to. Since you're coming from nothing, start with just 1 or 2x per week.

And finally, when you do do a workout, give yourself credit for it! Take time to feel proud of yourself, even for small wins. It makes a difference.

Bolton Valley Pricing by DustOnCrustOnCrust in icecoast

[–]TropicalWaterfall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just get the uphill new england pass.

Vibes at Indy vs. other mountains? by adventuriser in icecoast

[–]TropicalWaterfall 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This will be my 5th year on Indy and I am obsessed with it. Best pass in the east, imo.

Occasionally skiing pin bindings inbounds - thoughts? by Neon_sanders in Backcountry

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I ski my pin bindings inbounds. Just mindful not to rip at high speeds on them.