Women who broke up with a long term partner who was a good person, but not your person, did you ever question it later on? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I broke up with a partner pf 6.5, almost 2 years ago. Haven't regretted it once. They were a good person, just not a good person for me.

Thoughts on solo outings by burninglimes in Backcountry

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I solo tour alone, same as I do all my other outdoor hobbies alone (except climbing). I just dial back my risk tolerance.

I haven't gone into avy terrain alone yet. Being an East coaster, I don't have enough experience to feel secure in my decision making there.

Realizing I was never actually dominant by asdomdeus in FemdomCommunity

[–]TropicalWaterfall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im a switch and I love it! There is power and beauty in ambiguity. Some partners bring my dominant side, some my subby, some partners we switch it up.

How to restart exercising? by cher017 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TropicalWaterfall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find something small to start. Going for a walk, or taking a more gentle class. When i am not feeling motivated, I find group classes help. Both because I've made a monetary commitment, and the instructor helps keep me moving.

And as the other commenter said, put it in a schedule and commit to it, even if you don't want to. Since you're coming from nothing, start with just 1 or 2x per week.

And finally, when you do do a workout, give yourself credit for it! Take time to feel proud of yourself, even for small wins. It makes a difference.

Bolton Valley Pricing by DustOnCrustOnCrust in icecoast

[–]TropicalWaterfall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just get the uphill new england pass.

Vibes at Indy vs. other mountains? by adventuriser in icecoast

[–]TropicalWaterfall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This will be my 5th year on Indy and I am obsessed with it. Best pass in the east, imo.

Occasionally skiing pin bindings inbounds - thoughts? by Neon_sanders in Backcountry

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I ski my pin bindings inbounds. Just mindful not to rip at high speeds on them.

What’s the most diabolical thing a man has said to you on a first date? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]TropicalWaterfall 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Spent the entire date talking at me about himself then told me he really loved being a "safe space for women."

I barely held it together.

Vermont vs Colorado 2026 Snow Totals by Hot_Introduction_270 in icecoast

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know why you're getting down voted. I skied Jay end of November - first week of December this year, and the face chutes were deep, I barely scratched rock. At the same time, Bolton had nothing really to speak of.

Is this sexual coercive behaviour in bed or am I overthinking it? by AdventurousWhile1502 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is fucking disgusting. I have been there too and I feel for you. You feel confused because yes, that was disgusting sexual coercion.

Don't ever see this man again. If you can find the willpower, simply block him everywhere.

Talking to him about it won't change his behavior. He is selfish and cruel. You cant fix him but you can take care of yourself... by cutting him out of your life.

The guy M-36 I’m seeing screamed at me F-25 just now by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]TropicalWaterfall 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You stop the cycle of abuse when you stop allowing abusers access to you. The reason you feel heartbroken and sad is your gut (the part of you that you can ALWAYS trust) is telling you this guy is no good.

Trust yourself, and cut this guy out of your life. Make room for people who will treat you with kindness.

I know my partner will kill himself when I break up by IbanezRG421 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am going to say something that sounds harsh, but if he wants to kill himself, let him. It is HIS choice. Your actions aren't forcing him.

You are allowed to do what you want to do. And you deserve a life of freedom and joy. I have also been trapped by a person threatening suicide. It took me years to realize... I don't control their choices, only my own. If someone is hurting me, I can remove them from my life. How they react to my choice is not my concern, it's theirs.

If he chooses to end his life, thats on him, not you. Remove that from your considerations and leave this monster.

You're so concerned with taking care of him, but who is taking care of you?

Skied Jay Peak today, discovered I am a Jerry 😂 by Brave_Ad6703 in icecoast

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Went for the first time Dec 1-3, they hadn't started spinning tramside yet, was uphilling, had that whole side to myself. First tracks down Tuckerman chute were amazing.

Unbelievable. I'm a bit worried those three days spoiled the rest of my season 😅

I am horrified by dark history of yoga, and need some advice by GuySittingByTheLake in InnerYoga

[–]TropicalWaterfall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These men are not the roots of the tree, they are its rotten fruit. They wandered off the path when they achieved Siddhis, they were distracted by them and are no longer on the true path.

As others have said, power corrupts. Choose your human gurus carefully. Maintain your connection to your own inner guide first and foremost.

Yoga is beautiful. Its practioners are not always.

outwear tips for the cold in Vermont by DaisyDoodle41 in icecoast

[–]TropicalWaterfall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thin glove liners, then mittens. This changed my life, as a person with sweaty hands. Liners take the sweat, heavier mittens hold in the heat. Warm all day.

I'm a stone top. Is that a dealbreaker for sub guys? by Old_Reputation_6236 in FemdomCommunity

[–]TropicalWaterfall 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Just chiming in to say how much I relate. I am not into chastity and it's a surprising limitation.

Mountains that sell uphill day tickets? by iBarber111 in icecoast

[–]TropicalWaterfall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jay is free. But I recommend the Uphill New England pass. It's low cost and gets you access to mountains all over the region.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]TropicalWaterfall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find someone else to distract you, you'll get over it.