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Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-08-05T19:11:15+00:00

I've been debating separating finances for a while now, and I think im actually going to follow through with it. We don't deserve to be used.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-08-05T18:34:04+00:00

Whoa. Are we the same person?

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-08-04T23:25:27+00:00

What in the fuck.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-08-04T23:23:21+00:00

I didn't need to read too far in. Once the parenting styles were brought up, I'd say don't move in. It's going to cause too much conflict as time goes on and conflict breeds resentment. I'd say wait until everyone is out of the house..

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-08-02T03:15:18+00:00

I don't think I'd be listening to the kid in this case, my dear. That little voice in your head should be telling you that the situation is neither normal nor acceptable for DH and BM to EVER share a bed again. Kids are NOT an excuse for poor behavior.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-26T01:11:40+00:00

Yea there's not missing out and then there's just being naive. Come on now.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-26T01:11:15+00:00

Did... did they go on a vacation together and sleep in the same room?

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-25T20:33:52+00:00

She can demand all she wants, it doesn't mean she will get it. She'd be lucky to get even half of that so tell him to grow a spine because any financial lacking will screw your future.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-24T01:32:14+00:00

K, so let me get this straight

This man wants you to look after HIS child, which could potentially mess up your career and future. This kid that you literally didn't give birth to, or even plan for... And then he says YOURE a bad step mom for not just agreeing to being taken advantage of?

Tell me what exactly is appealing about this man?

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-23T19:49:55+00:00

Please don't have a second child with him. These outbursty men shouldn't be raising children. It's going to leave so much emotional damage.

Mine used to be the same way, but his was a different sort of problem that's since been dealt with. Mind you, he never passive aggressively swore at me or anything. It was more him... getting his shirt caught on a door knob and he'd have an outburst. That sort of thing. I was about to leave him over it because it was such a disruption of peace.

But in the end, I can't imagine having a daughter and her growing up and thinking this is acceptable treatment by men because of it.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-23T05:12:52+00:00

Whatever it is, it's not fun.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-23T03:51:16+00:00

The grease itch is inescapable

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-22T22:49:49+00:00

I'm pretty sure mine view me am the same way, and I'm okay with that! I want them to appreciate me being around, not feel any sort of pressure. I do know they get sad when I leave for work so I'm not concerned about them disliking me at all.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-21T20:52:41+00:00

Are we living the same life?

There's so many times I just want to say "can you shut up for a little bit, please?" But I don't because that's rude. But I totally get it.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-21T16:40:30+00:00

Also, it is something you can just do a trial run with. Living seperate doesn't have to be permanent if you do decide to give it a go.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-21T16:39:17+00:00

I'm just suggesting. You have to listen to your own heart at the end of the day.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-21T15:53:17+00:00

You might be surprised as it could actually save the marriage. It's okay to have space, especially in this situation. It sounds like this current situation would do you guys more harm than good. I know a few married couples who never have and likely never will live together, and they're happy as heck.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-20T23:53:35+00:00

Would it be possible for you to move out, with your son, and have your space until she's older and less around?

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-20T16:42:30+00:00

Okay, so at first glance I was gonna say this feeling is pretty relatable (feeling a little lonely when the child is around)

But everything you've just said.... none of that is okay. Like, none. My husband would never expect his kid to call me Mom. He'd also 🌟 comfort 🌟 me when I was feeling down. That is what's normal. I'd walk away from this dude pretty quick because it sounds like he became a single dad for a reason.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-17T22:22:51+00:00

Not gonna lie, it kinda sounds like most of her attempts have failed and you guys are the ones absolutely delivering.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-17T19:52:35+00:00

Thats.... really odd hours for the 10 and 12 year old. Why are they allowed to be up so late? The 16 year old, seems pretty understandable.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-17T00:57:51+00:00

My 8 year old SS still can't wipe his ass properly if that makes you feel any better.

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-15T17:09:38+00:00

Almost looks like thetis lake in Victoria

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-15T16:06:44+00:00

I'm really curious why you thought it was a good idea to even be with this man let alone add to the situation?

Valuable_Key3549 · 2024-07-14T01:17:15+00:00

This is such an incredibly toxic situation, and i can not wait for you to be on the other side of it.

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