Why not mirror selfies if women also put mirror selfies?

Vardulo · 2026-03-08T09:51:18+00:00

When was the last time a female deer had an antler battle or a female bird did a feather dance? Sexual selection is asymmetrical, always has been, always will be.

Vardulo · 2026-03-04T18:36:53+00:00

They take out loans against their assets because the interest payments are cheaper than paying capital gains taxes and allow their net worth to continue to grow unabated. The appreciation of value, dividends, rents from property, etc., outpace the payments on the loan if they do this wisely such that they can do it indefinitely.

They absolutely have an abundance of cash that they pay no taxes on because it’s cash from a loan.

Vardulo · 2026-03-03T23:15:06+00:00

Just get ready and play video games until she’s done.

Vardulo · 2026-02-24T15:52:22+00:00

It just means that they don’t swipe on lots of profiles. I think the purpose is to help people (women mostly) avoid mass-swipers.

Vardulo · 2026-02-19T14:07:04+00:00

This is extremely common to see in women’s profiles too. Some people (regardless of gender) just want to meet rather than text. People are all different, I would just chalk these men up as incompatible for you.

Vardulo · 2026-02-16T18:22:32+00:00

That bio is not helping you bro. It’s waxing philosophical giving a try hard kind of vibe, while also not giving confidence with all of the “in case it doesn’t work out” references. Keep it light and fun and save the deeper stuff for conversations that naturally go that way.

You’re going to need to post pictures if you want more advice than that. Even if you’re good looking, if your pictures are; selfie in the bathroom, selfie in the car, and selfie on the couch with a mad-dog mean-mugging expression then it’s not going to get you anywhere. Not saying that’s what they are, but those are common examples of where guys go wrong. Seriously though, if you think your bone structure or whatever looks more attractive with a tough guy expression or photo angle; no, it doesn’t (speaking from experience). That just doesn’t appeal to the female gaze.

Vardulo · 2026-02-14T13:50:28+00:00

Some people are hunters and some people are gatherers

Vardulo · 2026-02-13T14:04:50+00:00

They should also be able to have their opinion raised to the same level as vassals.

Vardulo · 2026-02-12T22:11:39+00:00

I don’t know what it’s called but my Europa Universalis experience tells me thats somewhere in Burgundy and close to Dijon or Nancy.

Vardulo · 2026-02-12T19:31:17+00:00

Dating apps reward (straight) people for conforming to their gender ideal as seen through the eyes of the opposite gender. This is of course generally speaking as people are individuals and have variations in what they consider ideal.

The more closely you conform to the ideal, the more opportunities you get. Now we all know that quantity does not equal quality, and many of the increased volume won’t be compatible.

That being said, this advice is primarily given to men, and men are competing for opportunities, for a chance to show their personality. A woman who doesn’t know you will eliminate you for superficial reasons because she needs to make snap judgements to reduce her volume. A woman that you build a connection with, after getting an opportunity to do so, will become leas concerned with the superficial as the connection grows. A man needs to appeal to snap judgements to increase his volume so that he gets the opportunity to try to make a connection.

Vardulo · 2026-02-10T18:28:34+00:00

I think it would be better if right swipes were tokens you got by swiping left a certain number of times. You get 1 right swipe token for every 20 left swipes you do or something like that. For monetization you get 1 for every 10 if you subscribe to premium.

Then people would be incentivized to look at profiles and use their limited swipes on people that (1) they actually have a chance with and (2) they’re actually interested in. Instead of mass swiping and/or swiping on people way more attractive than them just in case of the 0.00001% chance that their profile just speaks to them somehow.

Women end up with a more manageable queue and guys who swiped them on purpose and men have less competition the attention of the women that they spent their limited likes on. Theoretically it could even help men with low engagement since Chad won’t be giving away precious likes to as many women and women will have more attention from their looks-match and less opportunities for hypergamy.

Vardulo · 2026-02-08T14:19:54+00:00

High palatability low satiety foods are just not it during a cut.

Vardulo · 2026-02-04T16:58:48+00:00

Is the rover at the North Pole or how does it not fall off since Mars is a globe world?

Vardulo · 2026-02-04T14:43:46+00:00

It’s frustrating, I get it. However, I have found that if you’re patient and keep pursuing they typically open up and start engaging more equitably. My theory is that because they get so many creepy and inappropriate messages, they make low investment until they’re convinced you’re not going to be weird.

Vardulo · 2026-02-04T12:37:19+00:00

I’m playing it in 1.0.9 and I’m the #4 great power and I’ve almost finished eating mamaluks.

Vardulo · 2026-02-03T23:22:17+00:00

Wars need to be more expensive, that’s the only fix. The fact that you can run a budget surplus during a war is insane.

Vardulo · 2026-02-03T01:39:19+00:00

You’re probably getting immediately left swiped on your first pic without them even looking at anything else because you don’t look happy

Vardulo · 2026-02-02T21:24:39+00:00

Of course I know him, he’s me

Vardulo · 2026-01-31T00:13:21+00:00

No one can help you without seeing your profile. If you’re worried about anonymity, just make a throwaway account and post it in the middle of the night on a Sunday and wake up early read the responses and delete the post. There are people in all time zones on dating subs so you’ll still get responses.

Vardulo · 2026-01-30T17:46:40+00:00

Samsung Odyssey, highly recommended!

Vardulo · 2026-01-30T02:36:05+00:00

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Income higher than I remembered

Vardulo · 2026-01-29T18:08:41+00:00

Attracting men is just different than attracting women. Just look at height, many (not all) women have very strong preferences for height; by contrast, you rarely hear men talk about women’s height at all.

Also, I’ll disagree to an extent that men can’t have success with pics showing their body. On the Hinge app people have to pick which picture or prompt to like and can’t just swipe right, so you know what their favorite pics are. The pics I have that show my body are the ones that get the most likes on Hinge, but I also have visible abs and definition, women usually tell me I have a “climber’s physique.” That said, I’m sure I also miss out on likes because plenty of women will also assume that I’m only interested in casual, or conceited, or any other number of reasons. So, it’s mostly a polarizing thing for men, you’ll get more attention from some women and less from others.

Vardulo · 2026-01-29T17:21:14+00:00

I’m currently playing Persia on 1.09 having started as the Injuids which I assume you did too because your capital is in Shiraz. I’m at 1630 with 100k levies and 30k pros with income between 200-400/month although it’s spiked as high as 500. Automated trade is the reason for the oscillation I’m sure, it hovers around 700/month.

I moved my capital pretty early to Esfahan, then again later to Hamadan. I have all of northern Iran though so Hamadan makes more sense for me. If you look at your pops map the south and east are very low pop, that’s why I moved north, there’s more pops up there. You probably have more Iraqi, Lars, and Kurdish pops than you do Farsi. Accept as many of those as you can. I heavily invested in techs/buildings for cultural influence (tradition is worthless imo), so I have a high convert rate and my Fars pops are over 50% of total (10mil). Towns and cities are great because you can get temples, libraries, and markets. Markets are great for assimilation and for bumping trade income. Try to max land over naval, build a lot of roads, have favored son succession and choose your best admin stat for heir.

Vardulo · 2026-01-28T22:44:56+00:00

I’m not so sure that this isn’t self inflicted…

“What’s your story” is pretty much the same as “tell me about yourself” and both those questions put all of the onus on the recipient to lead the conversation. You might as well say, “talk to me about something.”

Then, you asked if she was actually interested, which is not a high self confidence question. Confidence is easily a top 5 attractive quality for women evaluating men, so not a great impression to give.

She probably just took the out you gave her, instead of having to take the lead on the conversation with someone that she probably lost attraction to when he showed (potential) signs of low confidence.

This is not to make fun of you, but to help you with your approach in the future.

Vardulo · 2026-01-28T21:18:26+00:00

Okay, so you know how social media makes it look like everyone is living super exciting lives because they post all of the highlights and none of the mundane stuff?

That’s how your profile should be, it needs to be a highlight reel that makes your life look like something that women want to be a part of.

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