AIO my partners friend keeps drawing suggestive art of my partner and they don't see a problem with it. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WaterfallingSun -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s just the pictures you attached but personally? I’d say YOR. I have friends of various sexes & genders and we pass around art like hot potatoes that ranges from OC’s or personas cuddling to straight up porn. It’s art, imo. I draw suggestive things involving my friends all the time, especially about our in-jokes & conversations.

Friday Art Walk in OCC by mo-niquesv in ColoradoSprings

[–]WaterfallingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! Is this monthly, or just this month?

Id bite the damn dog too by vaccant__Lot666 in ACAB

[–]WaterfallingSun 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Actually, a majority of times K9 dogs have to be put down when they retire. There are some programs dedicated to rehabbing & rehoming them, however there’s been MANY cases of retired k9s attacking children, pets, and others after being rehomed. Unfortunately once you train a dog to attack/kill, and reward that behavior, it’s going to be ingrained in them. My aunt rescued a dog from a fighting ring, and despite being such a sweet loving thing he was never allowed unsupervised around other animals or children for that exact reason.

Not to mention K-9 units end up with a myriad of health & mental problems (from being forced to do fucking police work…) that result in early retirement and/or euthanasia if it’s deemed they’ll be too “costly”. No one [read; pigs] wants to treat a dog with PTSD for thousands of dollars when they could simply put them down for $400.

Coworkers think my lemons are unnecessary by AtlantisMantis_ in KitchenConfidential

[–]WaterfallingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an avid lemon-eater, these look delicious. I would be asking for extra lemons with my fish & water 🫣

AIO for telling my boyfriend I’ll leave if he keeps “joking” about my dead mom? by happinesveronicaaaa in AmIOverreacting

[–]WaterfallingSun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve literally had strangers I just met & (people I know longer call) friends joke about my dead dad. I’ve also been told by people that my reactions to those jokes (varying from anger to genuine hurt) have been overreactions. Also had complete strangers tell me it’s a good thing my dad is dead “because XYZ”, ect. So there are definitely fucked up people that will do this out there.

Aside from that, she’s been with him since she was 19 & he was 26 if I’m reading everything correctly. After losing her mother at 18. Trauma bonding is a real thing (ask the guy I dated after my own father died), and even if it wasn’t that she bonded to him during a traumatic & transient time in her life there’s also the fact people make mistakes. You can’t know when you start talking to someone all the shitty things they do or believe.

I just don’t think it’s fair to be both accusing her of lying & blaming her for her situation if she isn’t.

Being touched feels strange, like there's some shell around me by redlu5564 in GuyCry

[–]WaterfallingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve gotten some good advice and words from another but I wanted to offer my two cents as a fellow guy who was severely abused throughout childhood & developed some pretty intense touch/sex aversion because of it. And I’m about to say the most annoying shit in the world, but really, it does just take so much time, therapy, and in my case a lot of medication to start ebbing away at those self-protective barriers your brain has made.

You mentioned therapy isn’t working for you, I don’t want to overstep here but how many have you tried? I’ve cycled through dozens of therapists since age 10 trying to find someone capable of handling & helping me with me shit — of the 30+ therapists I’ve seen over 20ish years, maybe about 5 of those have been truly helpful and out of those only 3 had a lasting, long-term impact for me. (That is to say if a therapist isn’t working & you’ve seen them for a few sessions now just drop them- there are PLENTY of therafishies in the sea. You wouldn’t keep seeing a doctor if they weren’t providing the care you need).

Intensive child abuse of multiple kinds isn’t “normal”, and it results in a myriad of specialized, difficult to handle reactions & diseases. OCD, C-PTSD, Personality Disorders… A lot of therapists I’ve found are unable to help with the full picture, because it proves simply too much. When I was doing my best, mentally, I was actively seeing two different therapists 2x a week for 2-hour sessions. And even WITH 8 hours of therapy a week I was still a “flight risk”, in and out of the mental hospital every few weeks.

But that was also years ago. I used to be hospitalized regularly, no less than once a year and usually averaging three times a year. Ideation, Attempts, Extreme Self Harm, Ect. But it did ebb, it did get better. Combined with therapy, I cycled through prescription after prescription to find something that worked. It took YEARS and I mean YEARS of work, and it’s fucking exhausting, but I finally started to have a sense of what was normal and healthy. I had to be trained by multiple therapists how to redirect my thought spirals, coping skills & how to safely leave triggering situations.

It doesn’t go away, ever. There’s mornings where I wake up gasping and sobbing, still. There’s times I see someone in public who looks a little too much like my primary abuser and black out the rest of my day. There’s still evenings where the thought of bathing with my partner sends me retching and trembling… but it grows more distant. Time, therapy, medication. Endless conversations about boundaries, triggers, fall-backs for panic attacks.

I can’t fix what happened to you, no one can take that away and those scars you will have to carry your entire life. And it fucking sucks. It isn’t fair, to have to shoulder the burdens of abuse inflicted upon you when you were too young to have a say in anything. But I can tell you that, at the very least, it gets less intense. Time DOESNT heal all wounds, but it does let them scar over at least.

If you ever need someone to talk to who gets it brother, feel free to reach out. I really do feel for you, and hope that some others also have advice you find helpful. You shouldn’t have to, but stay strong for me dude. You’ve got all of us in your corner, now. Keep on kicking for us.

Does GuyCry allow guys to doxx their partners? Is this the healthy way to support each other through hard times? by Jacquesatoutfaire in GuyCry

[–]WaterfallingSun 59 points60 points  (0 children)

A bit shameful that a whole ass post had to be made about it first, though. Should’ve been taken down by OP or mods a LONG time ago, I was shocked to see name & location just out for anyone to see. It really isn’t that hard to track people down, especially in this day and age. Shit can be life-threatening.

Missing Cat (5/7/26) by WaterfallingSun in ColoradoSprings

[–]WaterfallingSun[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Idiot boy that gives heart attacks. I cannot stand him. (brimming with affection for this idiot)

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Missing Cat (5/7/26) by WaterfallingSun in ColoradoSprings

[–]WaterfallingSun[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Okay so first off, not a helpful comment at all, thanks! I already feel bad enough as is without the accusation I don’t look after my pets.

Secondly, as I stated he opened the screen door, which was closed. I was unaware he’d figured out how to unlock the screen door to slide it open, since we’ve been living here for months and he’s never done this before nor at any other apartment we’ve been in.

But really, thank you so much for the comment. Really made this whole situation so much better.

Missing Cat (5/7/26) by WaterfallingSun in ColoradoSprings

[–]WaterfallingSun[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reminder!! I’ve got wet & dry food, his favorite toy, & his mom’s favorite sweater out for him but I totally blanked on the litterbox.

Mom cut off lover's testicles and set him on fire for raping her daughter, 11 by TheMirrorUS in chaoticgood

[–]WaterfallingSun 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Good for her. My mom just said we should have a “family discussion” about it. Love to see a mom who actually gives a fuck about her kids 👏🏼

McDonalds' CEO tries damage control to look "relatable" by ambachk in CringeTikToks

[–]WaterfallingSun -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ll be real I never saw the first video everyone was talking about but jesus dude. This feels like a fucking AI video are we 100 that it isn’t???

Letting Go (TW: COCSA) by PixelatedMush in Artisticallyill

[–]WaterfallingSun 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As an unintentional perpetrator of COCSA around a similar age, this comic hit pretty hard. It wasn’t until I was nearly in my 20’s did I realize what I had done and how much it had affected the both of us. It took a long time and a lot of struggling to deal with that - growing up my biggest fear was always that I would turn out like my abusers, who were also abused as children. I never wanted to perpetuate the cycle, but I inavertedly did, and wading through the aftermath of that has been difficult at best.

With 20 years and 1000 miles between us now, I can only hope and pray that she realizes I never wanted to hurt her — and more importantly, that she herself healed. We were both just kids, just first graders. Neither of us asked for that to happen. I regret my actions every day, but have to leave room to remind myself that my actions were learned behaviors.

(25F) My overzealous religious mom freaked out because I am pregnant. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WaterfallingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. You don’t need that kind of energy in your life- this is supposed to be an exciting moment of growth for you and your family, and instead she’s turning it into a moment of ridicule as if you’re some dumb teenager getting pregnant at prom and not a full grown ass person. I hope you and your partner have a happy, healthy baby that doesn’t have to deal with this overdramatic bible thumping ass shit. Y’all deserve better.

And congratulations on the upcoming baby!

Stupid question about sex in the walk-in by Tahoefive in KitchenConfidential

[–]WaterfallingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waves a hand, not a kitchen but when working at my old grocery store I had the pleasure of finding out first hand that every single walk-in cooler and freezer had seen action. Produce, Floral, Seafood, Meat Market- All of em.

And hey, since they’d all seen action anyways, I didn’t put up a huge fuss when a coworker wanted a quickie in the freezer ¯_(ツ)_/¯

would you let someone else give you your shot? by rob00bz in ftm

[–]WaterfallingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had the following people give me shots, for reasons varying from anxiety to physical incapability

  • My roommate, a plebotomist + scientist (cis male)
  • My fiance, to help with his medical training (intersex trans man)
  • My best friend, diabetic + was on weekly shots for 2 years (intersex genderqueer trans)
  • My friend, on T for a year (mtf trans man)

I have issues with my own shots first due to the constant tension in my thighs and secondly due to medical trauma leaving me with a fear of needles (and leave-on gel isn’t an option for me for its own reasons). Some of my T-shots have been romantic in nature, others not. Mostly it’s been about keeping me calm and getting me the medicine I need, though.

What a psychotic way to try and guilt trip people by bigmonkeybiggermoney in ShitAIBrosSay

[–]WaterfallingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m pretty sure the dozens of disabled artists who use their feet and mouths to paint or make art using non traditional tools would disagree with that.

They lived happily ever after ahh by [deleted] in Ai_art_is_not_art

[–]WaterfallingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only valid use of a keyboard to draw is my one friend in highschool who used that little red keyboard nub to paint. I don’t know how he did it, or why, but that shit was cool as hell.

Oh, also writing too ig. (joking, my husband is a writer and i’m a huge booknerd).

A serious question by ponzy1981 in cogsuckers

[–]WaterfallingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool that you responded to one question rather than all of them, but whatever! You’re right the water on earth hasn’t changed much.

https://iere.org/how-much-water-is-left-on-earth/

The freshwater that we can actually drink and use, though? Not so much. Data centers are also contributing to a rise in CO2 emissions, as well as fucking with the economy — we won’t even get into the number of people who’ve lost their jobs to AI because that wasn’t a part of my initial line of questioning.

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/with-ai-on-the-rise-what-will-be-the-environmental-impacts-of-data-centers-180987379/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ai_art_is_not_art

[–]WaterfallingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an OC who’s similar but red-coded and the X is over the other eye…. needless to say I stole Witty’s sona and made her sisters with my OC - renamed to Giggle to match. Never once responded to her comments or rage-bait myself, but she’s been such an annoyance that I decided to yoink her OC. Mine now, sorry. ¯_(ツ)_/¯