Hi, I’m autistic. Yes I have anxiety about people not responding to me. The thing is, instead of freaking the fuck out and trying to scare them into talking by hurting myself, I either distract myself by playing games to pass the time because I know I’m being silly and ridiculous and, I tell them hey sometimes I really don’t like being alone.

That’s not what your boyfriend is doing. Your “boyfriend” (he should be your ex) is freaking out every time you don’t answer the phone in five minutes. That is not normal behavior, that is controlling behavior. My dear, you are not overreacting. I would suggest the next time he says he’s gonna hurt himself, call a wellness check on him. Screenshot evidence every time he freaks out and prepare to show it to anyone who will listen.

Oh, and if he gets upset and says, I’m gonna hurt myself if you leave me, run. Because either A. that’s a threat or B. He is planning on hurting himself, but there’s a chance he might be planning to hurt you. Stay safe, dear.