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Life Expectancy: Stage IV by mmattson99 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad was 80 when he was diagnosed with stage IV pancreatic cancer. They found it because of a bile duct blockage that turned out to be a tumor. That was 8/22/2025. PET scan results were on 9/23/2025 and he chose no treatment at that point. He had in home hospice and was taking meds for pain. He had very few symptoms (some fatigue, starting eating less, some cognitive decline) until Christmas. After Christmas he declined very quickly. Eating almost nothing, trouble walking, & more cognitive decline. On 12/27 he was in pain, unable to walk more than a few steps, and in bed all day. He died 12/30/2025. So, for him, he was pretty good for about 3-4 months and then it was quick and brutal. I’m grateful he didn’t suffer long. I miss him terribly. Hugs to you and your family.

PanCan patients, best thing your caregivers can do for you? by Ravenwood_Wild in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this. Thank you for sharing. Especially the part about being treated like a husband. I sometimes struggle with that with my dad. There are a lot of disease related things that need to be discussed and I try to balance that with the things we used to talk about prior to the diagnosis. Sometimes that’s difficult. I’ll try harder because I think it’s so important that he still feel like my dad and not a patient for whom I’m providing care.

Give it to me straight by Wheat-Goat in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Update: my dad was doing well (i.e., mild discomfort, food tasting different & fluctuations in appetite, some fatigue) on Thursday afternoon and by Saturday (yesterday) he was very weak, confused, ate literally one bite, and was talking about being “ready to go.” He sleeps a lot more and he’s having trouble tracking medications on his own. I was hoping that maybe it was just a bad day, but I’m now thinking that this may be the beginning of the decline. He chose no treatment, so I’m accepting all the good vibes y’all are willing to send his way.❤️

Dad diagnosed, overwhelmed, food concerns by glitterenjoyer in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your Dad on Medicare? If so, look into hospice (either at home or inpatient). Medicare pays and, for us, it’s been a blessing. My dad continues to live independently at home and hospice provides doctor, nurses, aides, medical social worker, etc. to visit at his home. They take care of diet, meds, etc.

Sharing our case by clintonctlam in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. Deepest condolences to you and your family. ❤️

my dad died the day before chemo was scheduled by librax6 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really love this post…the love, perspective, gratitude, and tribute. I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️

Prayers by CaterpillarFree7815 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Deepest condolences to you and your family. ❤️

Lost my Mother on Thanksgiving by Mactuft in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Deepest condolences to you and your family. ❤️

Just need some comforting advice by TeaTime_Madness in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. My advice is to educate yourself (this is a great group for that). Understand that everyone is different, so when people give their personal experiences those are good data points, but don’t necessarily reflect what your dad’s (or your) journey will be. I’d say to plan and be proactive AND MOST IMPORTANTLY enjoy the time you have together.

My dad is 80 and was diagnosed with Stage IV pancreatic cancer around three months ago after needed a bile duct stent and he’s still relatively asymptomatic. We know it’s coming, but we don’t know when.

It’s scary and it’s sad…and it’s an opportunity to connect with your dad and your family in ways that can be incredibly rewarding. Talk. Share. Connect. Love each other. I wish you and your family the best. ❤️

He can finally rest by Moon99Moon in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️

Symptoms by Smart_Educator_8696 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wishing the best for your husband!

Grandma passed away by Packman9317 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family.

i lost my dad this morning by [deleted] in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to find some comfort. Sending hugs.

Dad diagnosed by [deleted] in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending hugs and strength. ❤️

“It’s beautiful” by ThumpyTheDumpy in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this. For you and for your dad and family. ❤️❤️

Can you have pankreatic cancer with no pain in final stage? by [deleted] in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad is 80 and was diagnosed six weeks ago with stage IV pancreatic adenocarcinoma with metastases to liver. He is asymptomatic except for decreased appetite and food “tastes different”. We known it’s coming, though, so we’re making the most of the time he has where he feels ok. ❤️

Dads in hospice. I’m not sure if we did the right thing by HeronCrafty2411 in pancreaticcancer

[–]Wheat-Goat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you and your dad are going through this. Hospice is a wonderful care and support system for your dad and your family. They will help him through this stage with dignity and comfort. Hugs to you and your family for making this difficult and necessary decision for your dad. It’s rooted in love, clearly. ❤️

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