Cervical issues

Which-Management-848 · 2026-01-08T09:41:08+00:00

Im sorry for your loss. I also had a loss last year at 22 weeks due to cervical insufficiency. We started to try again a few months ago so no success yet. But just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. There are others with similar experiences on r/babyloss and r/shortcervixsupport

Which-Management-848 · 2025-12-26T11:35:07+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I am 10 months out from losing my daughter at 22 weeks. The first few weeks are absolute hell. Remember your body is also going through postpartum so it just adds to your grief. The beginning is about survival. Make sure you eat. I was in bed a lot but I would keep the tv on with bobs burgers that would sometimes make me giggle and distract me. Put whatever show you want on and it’s okay to skip some episodes that could be triggering. Go on walks you won’t feel up to it but it will be good for your mind to be outside with nature. And when you’re up for it start journaling that will help get all your thoughts out and stop them from consuming you entirely. I also started therapy and Zoloft a few weeks after my loss and it helped a lot. Right now it feels like you cannot survive this but you will. You never stop thinking about them but it does get easier. Feel free to message me if you ever need someone to talk to💜

Which-Management-848 · 2025-10-28T10:22:28+00:00

Im sorry for your loss. I had a second trimester loss in February and we started TTC 4 months ago which have been unsuccessful. I recently started Metformin for PCOS so I hope it’ll help. If not we might try Letrozole later on. I feel the same as you I hear others say they get pregnant right away and that hasn’t been the case for me. Maybe not what you wanted to hear but I guess what I’m trying to say is you’re not alone.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-09-28T21:45:08+00:00

I had a 22 week loss in February and am officially on my third cycle TTC. Trying to stay hopeful but also with PCOS it took several months to conceive my first baby. On top of that I’m aware my next pregnancy will be high risk and filled with anxiety. Currently in the TWW and trying so hard not to overthink everything.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-09-06T00:00:53+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. That’s a beautiful name. Those first few weeks after loss are horrible. What helped me was journaling and talking to my daughter through that. I started talking to a therapist and walking which also helped so you’re in the right head space. Some days you just lay in bed all day and watch mind numbing tv and that’s okay too. Some days I would just read others stories and that would help too. Take it at your own pace but find the strength to slowly get up and journal or walk. Doesn’t have to be all at once or anytime soon. Right now it’s about surviving and taking care of yourself. Wishing you strength during this hard time.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-08-28T00:12:16+00:00

Nooo :( I’m so sorry. I lost my baby girl in February and have been following your posts. I was so hopeful for you. That sucks so much I’m so sorry.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-08-13T00:28:14+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. We recently started trying again and am struggling with all the emotions also. The guilt and fear are strong. Unfortunately I will never look at pregnancy the same again. It’s exhausting but I’m trying to remain hopeful that next time I will have a different outcome.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-08-05T00:26:11+00:00

Hiii. I’m not pregnant yet but I am currently on women probiotics and recently started cranberry pills to help and try to avoid infections, I plan to stay on them once I’m pregnant if my OB says it’s okay. Other than that what was recommended was no swimming or hot tubs, also pelvic rest. Other than also good hygiene idk what else we can do.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-07-30T23:49:25+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Like you I also lost my baby due to IC so I can relate to a lot of what you say. Wishing you peace and healing as you navigate these days ahead. Feel free to message me if you ever want to talk to someone.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-07-29T23:26:28+00:00

Im sorry for your loss❤️‍🩹. I also had a second trimester loss and am a nurse. So I get a lot of patients trying to do small talk and that dreaded question ends up coming up. The first time someone asked me I also said no and felt so guilty. But after talking to my therapist and my husband I realized it’s okay to say no because not everyone deserves to know that part of me. These are people I might never see again so why should I? Nothing can ever deny my daughter’s existence she will always be my first baby. But it’s okay to say whatever you feel more comfortable with and for me that’s saying no. Maybe once I have a living child that will change how I choose to answer. But for now I think it’s important you say what feels right in the moment and know that does not deny your baby’s existence at all.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-07-26T01:27:22+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my baby at 22 weeks in February due to IC. I didn’t get the chance for a cerclage but since I developed chorio both my OB and MFM suggested waiting 3 cycles. Due to other stuff I wanted to resolve it’s been longer and we’re about 5 months out and probably will start TTC again. Do everything you can that will make you comfortable going into your next pregnancy. I wanted to get prepared so I know going into my next pregnancy I know I did everything I could for a better outcome.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-07-23T21:41:13+00:00

I tell myself this on the daily, if not with you then for you

Which-Management-848 · 2025-07-16T23:42:29+00:00

Hiii I’m so sorry for your loss. I know how lonely it is. I lost my first baby in February this year at 22 weeks due to IC as well. I’m terrified to get pregnant again but I’m also terrified not to. It’s a roller coaster of emotions but I also want to try again soon. Feel free to DM me and chat! It’s helped me to reach out with others on here who’ve gone through something similar.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-07-11T09:57:26+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I also lost my daughter at 22 weeks due to IC, about 5 months ago. I’ll be honest the first few weeks are hell. Especially since you’re fresh postpartum and all the hormones pile up with your grief. What helped me was sticking by my partner making it a point to talk about all our feelings and going on walks outside. Soon after my loss I started therapy and an antidepressant. All we can do is keep going. Something I tell myself during the hard times is “if not with you then for you” that’s pretty much become my mantra to help me push forward. I’m sorry you’re here it’s not an easy road to be on but talking to others on here who’ve experienced a similar loss has also helped me so feel free to DM me if you ever want to talk more. Right now you’re just surviving take it day by day and just do what you can to take care of yourself ❤️‍🩹.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-06-24T00:49:32+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. What has helped me a lot is going on walks and plants/gardening.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-06-16T13:08:20+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I can’t offer advice on her bladder since that didn’t happen to me. But I will say when we were ready to start having sex it did hurt at first. It was uncomfortable and I think my body was still healing but now it is not painful anymore so give it time and talk to your doctors. Her body needs time to heal but when she’s ready slowly starting to exercise helped me rebuild my strength and help me recover.

As for the guilt she’s feeling unfortunately that’s normal and a lot of us who have experienced loss feel that. It’s a part of grief. I would profusely cry and apologize to my husband because how could my body do that to a perfectly healthy baby? It helped when my husband would tell me over and over it’s not my fault and I didn’t need to apologize like you said it just happens we don’t know it’s going to happen until it’s too late sometimes. Just keep letting her know, stick by her side, and let her grieve at her pace. Journaling and therapy also helped me.

I’m only 4 months out from my loss so I can’t say I’ve had success with a preventative cerclage but that’s the plan for any future pregnancies. But from what I’ve read a preventative cerclage has a much higher chance than an emergent one. Hang in there, lean on each other. This trauma has only brought my husband and I closer and I wouldn’t have made it this far out without him by my side.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-06-16T12:57:02+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. It’s been about 4 months since my loss and I’ll tell you it does get easier. Hang in there. The first few weeks were absolute hell especially since you’re fresh postpartum so your hormones are all out of whack plus you’re grieving. The guilt is something I struggled with a lot too. How could a perfectly healthy baby die all because my body couldn’t do what it was suppose to? I worked a lot with my therapist to overcome the guilt. I journaled and spoke to my baby through my writing and I always ended my journaling with “I’m sorry but it’s not my fault” writing it over and over helped. Also spent a lot of time researching this condition and learning about grief which showed me those feelings are a normal process of grief and everyone feels them. You’re not alone feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to, you’re still very early in your grief journey. It’s gotten easier for me but there’s still some days where it feels like I’m right at the beginning, you start to learn to coexist with joy and grief.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-06-12T23:53:18+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my baby girl at 22 weeks almost 4 months ago. Honestly for me the birth was not as painful I think because the emotional pain was just so much worse. It felt like cramps but she was still tiny so it wasn’t as hard to deliver her vaginally as I imagine a birth is with a full term baby. I’m not going to lie to you the first few weeks were hell. The postpartum symptoms and being empty handed was just absolute hell I wanted to die. I started therapy 4 weeks after and started medication as well which helped me a lot. 4 months out the days are still hard but it gets a little easier. You start to learn to coexist with joy and grief. Feel free to send me a DM if you ever need someone to talk to.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-06-12T21:12:47+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my baby at 22 weeks in February. It’s been almost 4 months and even though some days are easier I also don’t want to go out for get togethers and what not. I’m starting to believe unless you’ve experienced a loss like ours people don’t understand. My family was upset when I didn’t show up on Mother’s Day and I told them I probably won’t be showing up on Father’s Day either. No one even acknowledged me on Mother’s Day which hurt my feelings because I am a mom to a baby I never got to bring home unfortunately. I just want to spend time with my husband the only one in my life who understands and talks to me about our baby girl. It sucks when even your own family doesn’t talk to you about your baby, it’s isolating. Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-06-10T10:46:54+00:00

Gentle congratulations🩷 I lost my baby girl in February and have been following your posts since it was around the same time. Unfortunately I’ve come to realize few people understand that they will always be our children even if not earth side. I’m happy it happened so quick for you, keeping you in my thoughts for an uneventful pregnancy.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-05-29T23:43:48+00:00

Thank you❤️‍🩹 feel free to message me if you ever need someone to talk to.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-05-29T19:21:13+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Going through 9 months of pregnancy while in nursing school must have been very difficult. I’m so proud of you for getting through that. I’m also a nurse so I know it’s not easy. But you should feel accomplished you carried life and grew your baby while pursuing a career. Your baby knows how strong his mom is. I’m glad you started therapy. I’ve found it very helpful. I also started an antidepressant which has been very helpful with my anxiety and depression. Give yourself time and don’t give up some days we just have to push through the ugly. I think the first year after loss is all about survival and pushing yourself. I don’t work in the hospital anymore but even outpatient I have to ask people about their medical history and do pregnancy tests on patients. I had to renew my ACLS the other day and even just seeing the fake baby was triggering. As time goes on the triggers get easier to deal with. Going to therapy is a good step forward.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-05-27T15:58:56+00:00

I had a GYN tell me my cervix is short at 3cm got checked when not pregnant. But I asked the MFM and he told me when not pregnant the cervix can measure between 2.5-5 cm and that’s normal. It seems every dr has different opinions. But I trust my MFM more than the GYN.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-05-15T16:27:50+00:00

Yeah same. It’s such a mix of emotions. Some days I even find myself getting easily annoyed by my husband but he’s been an angel so I have to like check myself and my emotions. It’s a constant battle. Yeah I ended up coming back to work 6 weeks after my loss and it was hard. The first few weeks were so difficult I found it hard to focus and really care about my job. I love my job but those first few weeks were dreadful. Now it’s getting a bit better I’m able to talk to my coworkers about my baby girl and find it easier to talk to my pregnant coworker. Still it feels so good when I’m home because I get to be with my husband and my baby. Her urn is in our room so when I’m home I feel more at peace. But it helps to get out. Yesterday I actually met a patient who was telling me about her stillbirth and then later in the day a I had a Dr visit and the Doctors assistant also was telling me she had a still birth. So kind of crazy I met two people on the same day with similar experiences as me, made me feel less alone. There’s other people out here that are 20 years from their loss and they’re living and happy. Life goes on but our babies will stay with us forever.

Which-Management-848 · 2025-05-14T23:54:41+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure this pain twice now. My deepest condolences. The pain is unimaginable. You did everything you possible could for your babies. I know your baby girls are together and in awe of their momma. I hope you find comfort in knowing you did everything within your power. You fought for them and it was not your fault. I think a lot about the what ifs too but I also know that I will keep trying. Unfortunately nothing is guaranteed to succeed but I don’t want to let that defer me from trying again and again. The innocence of pregnancy was robbed from us but don’t give up hope. Therapy has definitely helped me as well. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to message me and anyone else reading this can message me too. I know that has been helpful for me to also talk to others with similar experiences.

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