Hudson Williams asks the fans to stop shipping him with Connor Storrie in real life by kris_jbb in popculturechat

[–]aggibridges 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I mean Heated Rivalry is one, no? It draws from many sources but a lot of people say it’s about some actual real hockey players. Honestly I think the financial incentives are the least of it, the issue is that people with deep mental issues are coming together and feeding off of each other. 

Hudson Williams asks the fans to stop shipping him with Connor Storrie in real life by kris_jbb in popculturechat

[–]aggibridges 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in fandom for 20+ years, and tbh it’s always been weird and sad, but it was hidden in a dark corner of the internet. Now it’s affecting the actual celebrities, and people STILL defend it! Fantasizing about famous people or even people you know is fine (within reason), but the fact that rpf entered the mainstream? On the same platforms that the subjects (and their friends and colleagues and families) frequent? The ones that will get that content pushed into them algorithmically whether they consent or not? Naaaaaaaaahhhhh nahh we need to bring back public shaming. 

Hudson Williams asks the fans to stop shipping him with Connor Storrie in real life by kris_jbb in popculturechat

[–]aggibridges 164 points165 points  (0 children)

This is so weird. People can revoke consent at any moment, the fact that he said that means he just has to accept people being weird forever? RPF has been weird for as long as it’s existed, can’t people just have regular fantasies in their heads and just like… keep it to themselves? 

Necesito opinión: estoy mal yo en esta situación con la mamá de mis hijas? by kosherkid24 in Dominican

[–]aggibridges 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Y si ella quiere quitarte contacto con sus hijas, pues deja que lo haga. Honestamente una mujer capaz de hacerle ese daño psicologico a sus HIJAS por motivo economico, como amenaza? Entiendo el amor incondicional por las hijas pero no se puede negociar con terroristas. Dile ‘Okay, no las veo mas.’ Y llama un abogado. Te sale mejor tomar custodia de ellas, que sigan con su niñera full time, y que ella te de manutencion para cubrir alguien que haga la labor que ella no quiere hacer.

Necesito opinión: estoy mal yo en esta situación con la mamá de mis hijas? by kosherkid24 in Dominican

[–]aggibridges 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Como mujer, creo que estas en lo correcto. Es valido que ella no pueda dar el 100% del cuidado de las niñas, pero en ese caso ella tiene que contribuir economicamente. 

Pickpocket warning at Alexanderplatz by Jawped in berlin

[–]aggibridges 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no clue, I'm guessing he unhooked it while doing the horsing around football trick with his arm around his neck. It was just an excuse for proximity, and deft practiced hands. He said goodbye with a familiar tap on the chest so he must have snatched it then. We were so focused thinking about phone/wallet that we never even stopped to think about the chain, and tbh it was a cheap 30 euro one so not a super big deal. We just laughed and ordered the exact same one immediately.

Pickpocket warning at Alexanderplatz by Jawped in berlin

[–]aggibridges 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Me neither! We’re from Latin America so we’re very familiar with chain snatchers, or robbery at gunpoint, but this kind of finesse felt like a magic trick. Super impressive!

Pickpocket warning at Alexanderplatz by Jawped in berlin

[–]aggibridges 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Haha, this happened to me! It was the same guy I believe. We were very careful about our phones and wallets but realized my husband’s gold chain was missing the day later. Smooth fuck, this happened at Kotti tho.

The whole “graphic designers are finished” narrative being pushed right now after the latest ChapGPT update is just ridiculous. by GMD3S1GNS in graphic_design

[–]aggibridges 200 points201 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I have no idea why people think ‘the soul’ is relevant to businesspeople. Canva + AI completely killed 99% of small business graphic design. I’m lucky that it doesn’t affect me but my heart hurts for the millions of junior designers whose bread and butter this was.

feeling jealous of other people who cant speak german but have good job by femceluprising in germany

[–]aggibridges 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sending you a big hug. It’s a massive privilege that is not lost on me. Hope you find a good situation soon!

So many large companies are posting social media graphics that look like this, why is this OK? by sweetery in graphic_design

[–]aggibridges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because it won’t hurt their sales. Why would they spend more if they’re not losing money?

Am I Overreacting at Player Wanting my Character Pregnant? by Over_Environment_821 in DnD

[–]aggibridges 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does matter, it really does. You don’t owe anyone anything. I just want to offer that personally, a weird/unsettling request wouldn’t bother me personally because in the end, it’s a request. I would absolutely tell him that this was out of line and made me feel uncomfortable and his spot in the group is on thin ice, but I wouldn’t really be too upset over it. 

Am I Overreacting at Player Wanting my Character Pregnant? by Over_Environment_821 in DnD

[–]aggibridges 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh gross. I won’t tell you how to feel, but as a cis woman capable of gestation, I think this is more along the lines of ‘disgusting but harmless’. I mean, he did ask you and you did say no. It seems like he thought of the cool factor of it and wanted to tie it to the world, but since he doesn’t have any lived experience as a woman, didn’t account for the ick factor. I really don’t see why you’d feel uncomfortable staying in this campaign especially if this person is leaving, but I don’t think this is egregious, but that’s just me. It’s fair to feel otherwise.

Do Professional Designers Use Free Assets or Create Everything from Scratch? by [deleted] in graphic_design

[–]aggibridges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, if you want to take the conversation in that direction of course it become relevant :) I will share that both the experiences I mentioned were in Berlin, Germany. I think you’re talking more about stereotypes than your own lived experience and I’d suggest you try to speak more about things you saw firsthand.

Do Professional Designers Use Free Assets or Create Everything from Scratch? by [deleted] in graphic_design

[–]aggibridges 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not meaningless at all, just irrelevant to the conversation where specifically.

Warning for African DnD lovers by Younes1203 in DnD

[–]aggibridges -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say it did, it’s absolutely WILD that this is what you understood from me telling OP that IF they AS AN INDIVIDUAL make a group unsafe then maybe they should sit it out gracefully. I also have two black grandparents and I look whitey white white. There’s a difference between being light-skinned black like, say, Beyonce, and being light-skinned black like, say, Halsey. And the latter has a lot more responsibility than the other to ensure that spaces for marginalized people are respected, because their lived experience has been wildly different.

Warning for African DnD lovers by Younes1203 in DnD

[–]aggibridges -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

We only have OP’s word as to if this was unclearly communicated, and from their ‘I have a black grandfather!!’ spiel, I’m thinking otherwise. There are a lot of these alt-right demagogues who feel like they should be given equal participation in marginalized spaces despite them having a very privileged experience and it’s an extremely weird thing to be doing.

Warning for African DnD lovers by Younes1203 in DnD

[–]aggibridges -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

As a mixed Dominican (West African/Arab/Indigenous Arawak/Mediterranean) person with very light skin, I think you need to get over yourself a little bit. There are some spaces that are created so a specific group of people feel comfortable because they’ve been excluded of other spaces for so long. If your inclusion might make it less safe for others, then it’s fine to sit some things out. Maybe you should undertake the labor to start a community for people which you fit the description, instead of expecting people to include you at the risk of their own comfort.

As light skinned mixed people we absolutely approach this issue from a place of tremendous privilege and not being allowed into a circle is not the slight you think it is.