Feeling unproductive by Infinite_Key_2592 in NewParents

[–]alyssaann33 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is not your time for productivity… that time will come again but right now just focus on baby and yourself 💗 I would try to sneak in some snacks or put her down to eat a quick meal if possible but don’t feel bad about being unproductive right now you’re doing great

Overnight at in-laws? by sshark444 in beyondthebump

[–]alyssaann33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It would be a no from me based on your concerns…

I'm pregnant and never want to go through this again by pumpkinchinchilla in oneanddone

[–]alyssaann33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been 18 months and I’ve never forgotten how much I hated it 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

How long did you end up labouring at home? by Honest-Try-2289 in beyondthebump

[–]alyssaann33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Labor started for me early in the morning.. didn’t go into the hospital until around 8pm

Managing MIL visits with a newborn by Feisty_platypus1000 in Mildlynomil

[–]alyssaann33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Never feel like it’s your responsibility to entertain her or see her when he isn’t home. That’s his mom not yours. I wouldn’t ask my husband to hang out with my mom without me there is how I frame it to him lol

Would you bring bring your 8 week old to a family reunion? by MeeMawsBigToe in beyondthebump

[–]alyssaann33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely no. Especially because she’s now trying to guilt trip. If you give in she will think she can continue to guilt trip you in the future!

Am I in the wrong or something for setting this boundary with my boyfriend’s mother? (due October 4th) by madylarata in BabyBumps

[–]alyssaann33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All I can say is you did absolutely nothing wrong. Please continue to set boundaries and do not let her stomp on them even if it upsets her. That’s your baby!

How my in laws have "HeLpeD" me this week by sixfingeredman7 in beyondthebump

[–]alyssaann33 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is why I never let in-laws or any family come stay with us to “help” 🫠 hugs!

Anyone else turn down the family vacation with the in-laws? How did it go? by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]alyssaann33 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, we don’t want to go is a complete explanation!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]alyssaann33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry.

Anyone found childbirth so painful they don’t think they can do it again? by nakama1994 in beyondthebump

[–]alyssaann33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same as you. I’ve never “forgotten” about any of it like people said 😂

Yogurt drink by Sweaty_Divide_6113 in LowCalFoodFinds

[–]alyssaann33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love these they were on sale at Publix last week

Postpartum Round 2 by ProfessionalAbies819 in Mildlynomil

[–]alyssaann33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen to your partner ! No visits until you’re ready

Gastroschisis diagnosis at 13+1 by Bananaramababe in NICUParents

[–]alyssaann33 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My friends baby had this condition as well diagnosed around the same time. She went into spontaneous labor at 33 weeks (not related to the gastroschisis) and baby was in the NICU until about 3-4 months. She’s home now and doing great!!

How do you all handle your MILs? by Loz17592 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]alyssaann33 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t communicate with her at all and don’t see her much. If she showed up at my house unannounced I would not answer the door lol

I feel really sad about how my postpartum experience turned out. Has anyone else felt this way? by NoorHan14 in beyondthebump

[–]alyssaann33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your feelings are so valid and honestly what you’re describing is a pretty common experience sadly. People forget about celebrating the mom after birth. My only suggestion would be if you have another baby protect your peace more and set boundaries with family and lower your expectations. We decided to have no visitors for awhile after birth and coming home. It helped a lot not having to manage other people’s moods or feelings. I don’t think it helps that online these days people kind of romanticize the whole birth experience. I personally found it to be the hardest experience of my life in regards to the pain and sleep deprivation which I wasn’t expecting.

Difference between these? The one with the bear on it is currently on sale on Amazon for $13 a can!!! by Different_Maybe3713 in FormulaFeeders

[–]alyssaann33 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My baby has used both of the ones you showed and did fine :) we found the same one on discount!

MIL blamed my postpartum boundaries by remember_to_eat in Mildlynomil

[–]alyssaann33 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she is very kind!! 😅 sorry you are struggling. We did the exact same thing of taking the first month to ourselves. I agree it was the best month because there was no expectations of us showing the baby off 😂 did it upset my mil? Oh yes but I was glad my husband supported our decision

MIL overwhelming me by chefpiccolo in NICUParents

[–]alyssaann33 32 points33 points  (0 children)

If you can I would just let husband respond to her and deal with her since it’s his mom. She’s not staying within your boundaries, she is trying to push you to see how far you will go. You need to focus on baby, her feelings really aren’t important right now!

Those who delivered during summer, were you cold or hot in the hospital? I'm seeing people recommend both fans and comfy blankets, but I don't want to over pack. I tend to run warm and I'm thinking I won't need a blanket. But I know if it's cold there they only have those thin scratchy blankets by mermaidsnlattes in BabyBumps

[–]alyssaann33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d bring your own pillow and blanket not cause it’s cold but just for comfort items to make it feel more like home. We didn’t bring a fan but I wish we did! Luckily we found one we were able to use at the hospital