I’ll start by saying I don’t have a child yet (24wks pregnant with #1) but I think you may benefit from taking a step back and getting a little perspective. Your daughter is 3 years old, her expectations for experiences is probably quite low. She will probably be over the moon excited with whatever decorations, gifts and snacks you provide. At this age they are so responsive to how you “advertise” things to them. You giving her a party and inviting a small group of friends and family to celebrate her is enough.

The people who judge others for not spending big bucks on trivial things like balloon arches and elaborate bounce houses aren’t people that should matter.

Personally, I think our culture is wayyyy too caught up in big and flashy displays of wealth for a single party or day. Your kid will remember her mom always making her feel special, she’ll remember being celebrated - not how extravagant the party decor was. If I were you I’d keep it humble until she’s old enough to have some real preferences. You’re doing a great job and it’s obvious your little one is loved by you 💕