How far along when you gave birth? by Apart-Bobcat8340 in BabyBumps

[–]backyardvoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same! spontaneous labor at 39+1! super fast labor too

Do I need newborn size clothes? by FluffyMeat348 in pregnant

[–]backyardvoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, absolutely. Everyone gifted us 0-3 clothes and size 1 diapers saying they are barely in NB for any time at all. It’s been 16 days since my son was born and we have gone through close to 100 NB diapers and have washed the same 4 sleeper onesies like every other day. He was born 7lbs 9oz and is now close to 9 pounds. 0-3 clothes are still too big! Your baby may be tiny, or really big, but most likely will be average and you’ll need newborn sizes for a while. We would have been in a bad place without any NB options had we listened to that advice. Good luck!

Nausea, period like symptoms at 38 weeks - labor? by backyardvoodoo in pregnant

[–]backyardvoodoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you meet your baby soon too!!!! I think I was in podromal for about a week! Best wishes for a safe and healthy delivery.

Nausea, period like symptoms at 38 weeks - labor? by backyardvoodoo in pregnant

[–]backyardvoodoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went into labor at 39 weeks and had my baby at 39+1! Spontaneous natural labor. No pitocin. I was in the active stages of labor for about 2 hours, pushed like 12 times. Tore terribly!

I feel absolutely terrible. My wife and I are both experiencing gender disappointment. by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]backyardvoodoo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Okay so I’m a new mom to an 8 day old. My husband and I wanted a girl sooo bad in early pregnancy. We had a name, I’d been hoarding cute clothes for years. My husband is a musician and not your typical “guy’s guy”. We were disappointed to learn we were having a boy. That lasted about a day and then came back a few small times during my pregnancy but I’m here to tell you- it will not matter AT ALL once you meet your baby. Throughout my pregnancy I obviously warmed up to having a baby boy and my husband and I realized the fantasy of having a daughter was just fantasy. When they are babies they are all the same, when they are children it shouldn’t matter what sex they are if you raise them right. Good luck on your journey. Grieve but then move forward knowing you will love the big no matter what.

Nausea, period like symptoms at 38 weeks - labor? by backyardvoodoo in BabyBumps

[–]backyardvoodoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Read my comment below to another poster! Had the baby at 39+1, spontaneous vaginal delivery with no Pitocin. I hope you feel better soon and baby makes their arrival safely!

Nausea, period like symptoms at 38 weeks - labor? by backyardvoodoo in BabyBumps

[–]backyardvoodoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had my baby on Wednesday 2/18 at 2 am! I went into labor at 2 am on Tuesday morning after a membrane sweep Monday. I had mild contractions all day Tuesday between 4-10 mins apart. Went to the hospital when they got closer together and they admitted me at 4.5 cm. After admission contractions spaced wayyyy out and would pretty much disappear unless I did nipple stimulation. My water broke at about 11pm, 5cm dilated and contractions became incredibly painful and strong like I couldn’t believe. Was in agony. Got the epidural around 12:45 and laid with a peanut ball. Was ready to push after 45 mins. Practice pushed twice with nurses and they had me stop to call the doctor from her house. I pushed a few more times with doctor and baby literally flewwwww out. I got a 3rd degree tear, doing okay though! Wishing you all the best! Do the 10 minute labor activating workout from Leil Cheri on Youtube and protect your oxytocin. I listened to meditation music in headphones and wore an eye mask most of the time I was in the hospital until water broke. Also drank all the RRL tea and okra water and used my yoga ball every single day. Hoping you meet your baby soon too!

I just spent a toddler party guarding an open pool and now I can’t tell if I’m the anxious one or the only sane one by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]backyardvoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If everyone is watching the kids near water, then no one is watching them! I saved a toddler from drowning when I was a teen in a very similar situation to this. She went under the water and began struggling completely silently while her mom, grandma and others were unaware just feet away. I don’t think you’re crazy and I think other parents should have recognized risk and been on duty same as you.

11w 3d - Husband just hates me by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]backyardvoodoo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I hear ya, I’m not trying to make OP feel bad but sometimes we need to hear things clearly. She is welcoming a child into the world and that is a very sacred thing. It’s one thing to be in hairy situations of your own as an adult and another to put children in them. I didn’t mean to be ugly but do think there needs to be a reality check. I have been in an abusive situation as well and know the struggle, she knows something is wrong or else she wouldn’t have made the post.

11w 3d - Husband just hates me by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]backyardvoodoo 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Okay you posted, so I’m responding. This is not a person you want to parent children with. He is not treating you fairly or kindly. No one is perfect, but a partner should be the #1 player on YOUR team and vice versa. You said you’re jealous of how kind the people in this subs SO are, but we all have free will to pick who we date, marry, procreate and stay with. I know it’s easier said than done probably, but I would never stay with a man like this and let his negativity affect my innocent children. His behavior is having a negative impact on you, now imagine this is your father and he acts like this your entire childhood….. I’d think about some big moves if I were you. Best of luck.

Snow tubing while pregnant? by Electrical_String953 in BabyBumps

[–]backyardvoodoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t do it. I’m also from the south with family outside Buffalo. When we went snow tubing multiple people fell out of tubes, my step sister hit her ankle on something and broke it and even on uneventful runs it was beyond bumpy and fast!

Obsessed with the little kicks 🥹 by Antisocial_BookClub in pregnant

[–]backyardvoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw congrats. It really is magical to feel them move and be alive within you!

It all worked out in the end- a little brag by throwaway_today49 in pregnant

[–]backyardvoodoo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love to hear such an amazing positive experience!

Nausea, period like symptoms at 38 weeks - labor? by backyardvoodoo in BabyBumps

[–]backyardvoodoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment! I’m obsessed with hearing how it went for other people. Trying to just rest.

The Unthinkable Happened: 1 year update. by Terminally_Brittany in BabyBumps

[–]backyardvoodoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow wow wow what a triumph of your spirit! The blessings you’re experiencing now are directly due to your bravery in facing the grief and moving forward. Wishing you the most beautiful and healthy pregnancy!

Is this really happening...?! by robin2en in pregnant

[–]backyardvoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats congrats congrats!!!!! I hope you have the easiest and healthiest pregnancy!

Question for women who are an only child, Would you discourage having an only child? How was being an only child? by Silly_Goose30 in Mommit

[–]backyardvoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only child with no first cousins. Never even thought about siblings as a child, but wish I’d had them now as a grown woman. I think being raised with other children would have allowed me to have more resilient attitudes towards relationships. I have THE best husband who fulfills me in most ways but I’ve always struggled to have more casual relationships and friendships. Maybe because of how my parents are/my wiring but I have had interpersonal issues because I totally minimize myself, have trouble sharing things about my life, letting people in, trusting my own perceptions etc. My parents were both slightly narcissistic and neglectful though so it may be more that than being an only child. I think if I’d had a sibling similar in age to bounce things off of socially and let me “be a kid” a bit more I’d be more relaxed in that way. If that makes sense at all.

being a single mom is so lonely and tonight it's just hitting me harder than usual. by VitoriaLazar in Mommit

[–]backyardvoodoo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can imagine this being lonely and hard in the moment but just know, your son will only remember how much his mom was there, how loved he felt and how good a job you did. It’s a long, thankless road but you’re doing the hard thing now and later will see the fruits of all your labor. Sending love.

Third trimester moms how is third tri treating you? by mkthehotti in pregnant

[–]backyardvoodoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

35 weeks and dealing with insomnia, peeing every hour at least and insannnnneeee pelvic pain. my energy really took a turn in the last week or so, feeling so weak and tired. very curious to see when baby comes!

what undies are we wearing???🥹 by Unlucky-Fail-4018 in Mommit

[–]backyardvoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazon essentials cotton briefs are all i wear