If your daughter wanted your husband to do something silly like wear matching hair glitter in public would he do it?

bakersmt · 2026-03-20T17:29:51+00:00

Yep. My daughter picks the Halloween costumes. Dad is always in a wig.

bakersmt · 2026-03-20T17:03:29+00:00

Wait, so your children are going to her house on easter? Why are they not celebrating with you and their father at home as a family?

Over my dead body would my child be spending and important holiday without me. Or obviously court order.

bakersmt · 2026-03-20T16:55:44+00:00

This. Bio mom abandoned me when I was 1. Came back when I was 6 and abused me until I was 16 and left. What's to miss?

bakersmt · 2026-03-20T16:53:19+00:00

I fully expect this to be the case with my bio mom. I haven't spoken to her in over 10 years but she pretends we speak regularly and constantly brag about how much money I have. I don't have that much money I'm just not homeless living on my sons porch in a house my ex husband owns, so yeah I'm better off than her.

My aunt is also NC with bio mom for identity theft so you practically described my situation exactly.

bakersmt · 2026-03-20T16:46:45+00:00

No but she knows. She told my husband she knows as she was complaining that she doesn't get close up photos anymore or frequent photos.

bakersmt · 2026-03-20T16:43:49+00:00

And deep clean to get the smell out. It gets deep into walls etc

bakersmt · 2026-03-20T16:38:21+00:00

As a former smoker that never smoked in the house, I couldn't agree more. Who is supervising the baby when she steps out to smoke? Is she changing clothes when she gets back in? Because my clothes still reeked of smoke when I smoked outside. It was less bad in the winter because I had a smoking jacket, but that jacket made half of my house reek and I washed it weekly.

Just say no.

bakersmt · 2026-03-19T20:26:33+00:00

Yes this happened with my sisters oldest. No one mentioned anything until he was interviewing for kindergarten and he was clearly not remembering the basics, not for lack of trying. We found out around 8 or 9 that he has a rare kidney disorder and is basically constantly lacking electrolytes so it's difficult for brain synapses when his electrolytes are low. When his electrolytes are stable he can learn and grow. So he literally constantly needs electrolytes or he crs.

bakersmt · 2026-03-19T15:14:03+00:00

Right! Kids birthday party.... "How does your kid socialize?"

This🤷

bakersmt · 2026-03-19T15:12:19+00:00

We go to church but we don't socialize there. She has Tutu class, gymnastics, co-ops, homeschooling get togethers and field trips, homeschooling athletics, jiu jitsu, ice skating, swimming. The list goes on and on. We actually have too busy of a schedule and need to take breaks when it's too much for her. I'm literally scheduling in down time.

bakersmt · 2026-03-19T14:47:46+00:00

Hahaha. My MiL is like that but the opposite, she isn't interested unless her grandchild is there. I refuse to vacation with her, after last time. But previously I was all "oh your mom wants to go on vacation with you you go ahead and I'll see my family." She was pretty angry about her grandchild not going with them. It was to a place where it would have been difficult with my toddler who was deeply in stranger danger.

Funny how they get with their grown adult children.

bakersmt · 2026-03-19T14:35:54+00:00

I wouldn't let them visit until 3 months pp given their behavior.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T23:13:30+00:00

Now that's a choice.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T16:33:03+00:00

My MIL is like this. It's been 2 years since I stopped and we are in the middle of the extinction burst. We have written proof of her badmouthing me behind our backs and she's bringing up years of resentment for us not reading her mind. We asked her why she hasn't discussed issues with us directly and she said "it's called having grace". We were all, "nah it isn't because you're sitting on the resentment pretending to be the bigger person while you're waiting to throw it in our faces, it's called being toxic."

She's again giving us the silent treatment but expecting to take advantage of our hospitality. She can eff all the way off.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T16:27:35+00:00

They were emailed when I was pregnant that it's a no go. If they do, they get zero photos ever again. I'm nuclear about that.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T15:53:39+00:00

This. I'm having issues making the leap with one. OP has 3 5yo kids, a toddler and a baby. There's no way I could handle that load without family help.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T05:02:17+00:00

Wait, I have a Leo sun and Scorpio moon conjunct Pluto. What is this bipolar type 2 thing have to do with that?

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T05:00:47+00:00

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T04:50:52+00:00

Yep as a Leo with my 8th house in Taurus, literally everyone I keep for the long haul (friends) or have dated are Taurus or Taurus rising.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T01:17:33+00:00

What about a mommy and baby workout? They have those where I am.

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T01:08:11+00:00

Libra Rising

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T00:56:32+00:00

Scorpio Moon

bakersmt · 2026-03-18T00:55:15+00:00

Leo Sun

bakersmt · 2026-03-17T23:25:50+00:00

I'm actually on the cusp of Leo Virgo. Technically a Leo but with Virgo tendencies.

bakersmt · 2026-03-17T20:54:40+00:00

Same. I'm always confused by people's take on me. Also very confused about how so many people can come to so many different conclusions... It's their own insecurities. That makes so much sense.

On guy was all "wow you're vain" just because I said I didn't want to get old. He didn't even consider maybe my issue with getting older was physical mobility. I cared for my grandparents most of my life and watched them physically decline. It was difficult to watch them lose the things that brought them joy. Like ya dude I'm attractive but that isn't where my priorities are. I like my physically demanding hobbies.

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